Necklace by the yard

[SinkingFun]

I'm looking at purchasing a 5 year (dating) anniversary gift and was looking at two options from Whiteflash.

They are:

1. Diamonds by the yard:

http://www.whiteflash.com/diamond-pendants/whiteflash-by-the-yard-diamond-necklace-449.htm

2. Color by the yard:

http://www.whiteflash.com/diamond-pendants/color-me-mine-diamond-and-sapphire-necklace-1321.htm


Her favorite color is pink and the pink sapphires look neat, which is why I was looking at the color by the yard. I have no knowledge on sapphires and the beauty they offer, so I was wanting some assistance (mainly from females) if one of the two options above is more preferable / beautiful?

Do sapphires have to be cleaned to maintain their beauty? I have a friend who claims her ring is made out of white sapphires, but the sapphires looks really cloudy and seem like a hassle to always clean.

Thanks for the input!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

All gemstones have to be cleaned as all will get dirty with wear. But diamonds are FAR more versatile and can be worn with anything. I wouldn't do the DBY necklace in anything but diamonds. You can always get her a pink sapphire right hand ring at some point.

 

[SinkingFun]

Double post.

 

[SinkingFun]

All gemstones have to be cleaned as all will get dirty with wear. But diamonds are FAR more versatile and can be worn with anything. I wouldn't do the DBY necklace in anything but diamonds. You can always get her a pink sapphire right hand ring at some point.

Thanks. Is this a good choice for a necklace or should I look at a single solitaire diamond necklace? If so, what size stone?

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I would probably wait until you could get her a half carat diamond for a solitaire necklace, maybe for the first anniversary or something. I think that is a nice size to go with her e-ring. And I'd probably eventually get something like .40 each for diamond studs to make a complete set! But for now, I think the dby necklace would be an outstanding choice!

(And an engagement ring for the 5 year dating anniversary might even be a better choice!)

 

[SinkingFun]

I would probably wait until you could get her a half carat diamond for a solitaire necklace, maybe for the first anniversary or something. I think that is a nice size to go with her e-ring. And I'd probably eventually get something like .40 each for diamond studs to make a complete set! But for now, I think the dby necklace would be an outstanding choice!

(And an engagement ring for the 5 year dating anniversary might even be a better choice!)

I should just hire you as my jewelery consultant. You're so knowledgeable with all this stuff!

That's my plan with the engagement ring. I feel like she is expecting the proposal that night and I want to keep the date special, so I'm going to give her the necklace at dinner and then propose later on in the evening, hopefully taking her by surprise.

And I feel a bit cheap giving her the ring for an anniversary present. It's kind of like giving an engagement ring as a Christmas present, but maybe it's just me....

I hope she doesn't find this forum and this posting.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

If you can trust me on one thing, a girl who is in love and waiting on a proposal will not be unhappy for a moment to get an engagement ring for a dating anniversary or even Christmas! If she does, then something is wrong with her!

However, I love your plan to give her both!!! My only qualm is that she may have a little bit of disappointment when she opens the necklace and believes that will be the only gift. She hopefully won't show it but I think it will be there. Just don't wait long after that to propose!

I am happy to be your jewelry consultant for free! I can't buy diamonds everyday for myself (or else my husband would leave me!!!), so it is fun to help people like you!

 

[chel180]

Go for the diamonds by the yard necklace. Its so versatile and wearable. Pink sapphires are pretty but how often does she wear pink so that she can wear a pink sapphire necklace? You can always get her a pink sapphire pendant to wear on the dbty necklace for another occasion.

btw: no girl would ever complains that she got "just" an engagement ring instead of a ring and a normal Christmas present!

 

[SinkingFun]

Go for the diamonds by the yard necklace. Its so versatile and wearable. Pink sapphires are pretty but how often does she wear pink so that she can wear a pink sapphire necklace? You can always get her a pink sapphire pendant to wear on the dbty necklace for another occasion.

btw: no girl would ever complains that she got "just" an engagement ring instead of a ring and a normal Christmas present!

Makes sense. And I'm more than certain she wouldn't mind just receiving the ring on that date. I'm just using the necklace as a way to keep her on her heels a bit and try to unexpectedly propose to her. I have this sick thought in my head about putting the necklace in a ring box and giving it to her to throw her off a little more.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

NO!!!!! I think you are kidding but that would be the meanest thing in the world!!! Make sure that necklace box is a LOT bigger than a ring box!!!

 

[SinkingFun]

If you can trust me on one thing, a girl who is in love and waiting on a proposal will not be unhappy for a moment to get an engagement ring for a dating anniversary or even Christmas! If she does, then something is wrong with her!

However, I love your plan to give her both!!! My only qualm is that she may have a little bit of disappointment when she opens the necklace and believes that will be the only gift. She hopefully won't show it but I think it will be there. Just don't wait long after that to propose!

I am happy to be your jewelry consultant for free! I can't buy diamonds everyday for myself (or else my husband would leave me!!!), so it is fun to help people like you!

Funny! It's a good thing we're still young and in college and frugal about a lot of things, else this might be a problem for me as well. Although I'd never leave her for such silly things and I'm sure your husband wouldn't either.

I've never understood the desire for diamonds and I know she doesn't understand my obsession with high quality audio equipment, so it all pans out.

 

[SinkingFun]

NO!!!!! I think you are kidding but that would be the meanest thing in the world!!! Make sure that necklace box is a LOT bigger than a ring box!!!

Ahh, baaaad idea. No ring box for the necklace. Got it.

 

[Enerchi]

After 5 years of dating, to get a ring box (and assume that you know what's inside) and then discover it's an (albeit BEAUTIFUL) necklace, that would be a *serious* let down! It's a funny thought, here on this forum, but on the day, trust me when I say - it will NOT be funny then!

What if you did the necklace a few days before her birthday - throw her off totally?? Take her out for a nice (But not killer expensive meal/movie/outing/excursion... whatever would be special to the both of you) then on her birthday, do something low key ("honey, we already went out on WEDNESDAY... how about we just stay home tonight - I'll make you a cake") or something totally off scent like that.

This way, both items get the adoration they both deserve.

Just my $0.02 worth!

 

[SinkingFun]

After 5 years of dating, to get a ring box (and assume that you know what's inside) and then discover it's an (albeit BEAUTIFUL) necklace, that would be a *serious* let down! It's a funny thought, here on this forum, but on the day, trust me when I say - it will NOT be funny then!

What if you did the necklace a few days before her birthday - throw her off totally?? Take her out for a nice (But not killer expensive meal/movie/outing/excursion... whatever would be special to the both of you) then on her birthday, do something low key ("honey, we already went out on WEDNESDAY... how about we just stay home tonight - I'll make you a cake") or something totally off scent like that.

This way, both items get the adoration they both deserve.

Just my $0.02 worth!

Good ideas if I were proposing on or around her birthday, but I'm not. Although I could try and alter this plan and use it to my advantage.

It's also a good thing I got some advice about the necklace in a ring box idea. The last thing I want is an upset girlfriend on the night of her proposal. I think I'll do the necklace and then ring plan. I've got a little while to finalize ideas and such.

Here's another question: do women want the proposal filmed or photographed for memories to look back on? I can't decide if I want her sister to film or photograph the proposal.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

You know, I still remember the moment I got my ring long, long ago. I really don't think the proposal needs to be filmed. There are SO many things that could go wrong...like her sister giving it away, or if she is hiding, your gf could see her or something. I'd honestly just have a camera with me so after the proposal you can ask someone to take a few pictures. I really wouldn't worry about capturing the proposal itself. She'll never forget it!

 

[SinkingFun]

You know, I still remember the moment I got my ring long, long ago. I really don't think the proposal needs to be filmed. There are SO many things that could go wrong...like her sister giving it away, or if she is hiding, your gf could see her or something. I'd honestly just have a camera with me so after the proposal you can ask someone to take a few pictures. I really wouldn't worry about capturing the proposal itself. She'll never forget it!

I also like the idea of sharing the moment in secret and with no one else. I'll bring a camera and get some random person to take pictures after the proposal.

 

[TristanC]

NO!!!!! I think you are kidding but that would be the meanest thing in the world!!! Make sure that necklace box is a LOT bigger than a ring box!!!

Yup. Guy here. No. Nononononono... If you're gonna put it in a ring box, it has to be a ring. Anything else, and you might as well put a pretzel in there. More or less the same effect.

Save the $$ and upgrade the centerstone. Heck, save the money for the ring box and upgrade anything else too.

But I think you already know not to