Hey all, I need thoughts and opinions, stories of people you know, about name change dilemas, or how you came to your conclusion.
I''m very attached to my last name, however I want to take my fiance''s last name as well. I know hyphenating was a trend, and that''d be a great solution except I think it will be a horrible hassle for signing everything since my first name is 8 letters long - adding 2 long last names to that I think I''ll cramp everytime I have to write it. Also with how things will fall alphabetically.
The reason I want to keep my is because I have a young son who is truely the last of the bloodline of my father & the Sullivan name - my father had 4 daughters and never a son. My fiance'' has 2 children of his that carry his last name of course, so if I take my fiance''s last name, I don''t want my son growing up in our household feeling he is different because he is the only one with a different last name. If that''s the case then I''m willing to sacrifce the carrying 2 last names so he doesn''t feel alienated. I''ve also heard a lot of people now adding their maiden name to their middle name or dropping their middle name for their maiden name. This would be an ok option, but still kinda defeats the purpose of hanging onto Sullivan since how often do any of us use our middle names? And how do you go about that - I don''t think the marriage license would be sufficent for a name change, I think you''d have to go through a legal name change w/ the court system to have 2 middle names - because they''d have to change it on your birth certificate etc etc.
I want to identify with my son, myself and my husband. The more I sit here and type this I think the only option is to hyphenate. Ok if that''s the case then do I actually Hyphenate or just do Double Barrelled? (No hyphenate between the 2 last names)
I''m not decided either way. It would be nice for simplicity sake to have only one last name, however the sentimental reasons. Please help, if I can''t figure it out I''ll just do nothing until I can make a decision and the wedding is in a short few months...please share anything with me.
My fiance'' is fine with whatever my decision is, he said he''d be fine if I wanted to just stay Sullivan, but I don''t believe that is the right thing to do going into our marriage and I do want his last name..
I''m very attached to my last name, however I want to take my fiance''s last name as well. I know hyphenating was a trend, and that''d be a great solution except I think it will be a horrible hassle for signing everything since my first name is 8 letters long - adding 2 long last names to that I think I''ll cramp everytime I have to write it. Also with how things will fall alphabetically.
The reason I want to keep my is because I have a young son who is truely the last of the bloodline of my father & the Sullivan name - my father had 4 daughters and never a son. My fiance'' has 2 children of his that carry his last name of course, so if I take my fiance''s last name, I don''t want my son growing up in our household feeling he is different because he is the only one with a different last name. If that''s the case then I''m willing to sacrifce the carrying 2 last names so he doesn''t feel alienated. I''ve also heard a lot of people now adding their maiden name to their middle name or dropping their middle name for their maiden name. This would be an ok option, but still kinda defeats the purpose of hanging onto Sullivan since how often do any of us use our middle names? And how do you go about that - I don''t think the marriage license would be sufficent for a name change, I think you''d have to go through a legal name change w/ the court system to have 2 middle names - because they''d have to change it on your birth certificate etc etc.
I want to identify with my son, myself and my husband. The more I sit here and type this I think the only option is to hyphenate. Ok if that''s the case then do I actually Hyphenate or just do Double Barrelled? (No hyphenate between the 2 last names)
I''m not decided either way. It would be nice for simplicity sake to have only one last name, however the sentimental reasons. Please help, if I can''t figure it out I''ll just do nothing until I can make a decision and the wedding is in a short few months...please share anything with me.
My fiance'' is fine with whatever my decision is, he said he''d be fine if I wanted to just stay Sullivan, but I don''t believe that is the right thing to do going into our marriage and I do want his last name..