that_someone_special
Ideal_Rock
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Ok. I am just so angry I couldn''t sleep more than a half hour last night.
MY MOTHER IS DRIVING ME NUTS! I am so upset about this wedding crap that I am near tears about it, don''t plan anything, or..... have been thinking about eloping.
My mother has changed her mind on the wedding budget by 25%. First up, then down ("I NEVER SAID I WOULD GIVE YOU THAT MUCH MONEY!" "Ok mom.... you did, but ok.") Then up again "I''m thinking this is a good budget" THEN DOWN AGAIN. She keeps throwing out this higher figure which would help, but when I bring it up she tells me the one that is 25% less. ARG.
THEN!!!!!!!!!! LAST NIGHT (I type in caps when I''m angry) she informs me, "I am NOT buying you your dress, I never said that. See, you always think I say these things when I don''t say them."
Why in the world would I bring up her buying my dress if she never mentioned it! I WASN''T A BRIDEZILLA UNTIL YOU CALLED ME ONE! ARG! I was so upset. She changed her mind again and said, "No... what I said is that I would pay for MY DRESS" WTH. That doesn''t even make sense. So I talked to her this morning and she says, "Yes I would like to help you with your dress but not a dress that is over $1000." Which is fine. SO FINE. I just want to know what is going on with my own wedding. We are supposed to look at dresses next saturday and she pulls this now? Ahm... she was the one that kept saying she wanted to buy my dress! I''m the only daughter. I''m the first one to get married. Come on now!
I feel lost. I feel like crying over this. I talked to her a bit this morning but again, it doesn''t help. I talked to my BF this morning too and she was shocked by my moms behavior- as it gets deeper. We recently lost my grandmother, and I was promised/ given A LOT of items. My mother has pretty much taken all but a few pieces of the jewelry for herself. WHICH was promised to me, and several people know this. You know what she said to me last night? That my engagement ring, which was my grandmothers, looks better on her, and she would trade my grandmothers rolex for it (You know, because it looks believable on her).
How insulting. She even said she''d "Throw in a grand for it". My grandmother gave it to me, and not her for a reason! Because we were close, and I would wear it and love it way more than her (before last night, during that conversation, she never paid notice to diamonds). I''m just so... grrrrr.. upset.
One more tiny rant. There is this bracelet that by no means is perfect, but I was promised it. Because my mother chose NOT TO LISTEN when my grandmother talked about this, she has taken it for herself. I told her over and over, it''s supposed to be mine. She tells me, "Yah know what? When I was young, we got nothing from my grandparents." And I said, SO WHAT? She says, "You''ve already gotten enough. You don''t need more." She sees dollar signs. I see the sentimental value in these pieces. I told her that it was promised to me, and relayed the exact conversations to her and then asked if she was going to still keep it knowing it isn''t right. Her answer? "Yup."
I feel like screaming. I HAVE screamed. I do know that wedding planning is not for me when I don''t/ can''t nail down a budget, and that I feel like a 5 year old next to my mother. Everything is wrong. Everything is bad, everything I do is just not perfect.
I am seriously thinking of eloping my ass in vegas... or even here in my state and then go on a LONG vacation.
I just feel like MY WEDDING... isn''t MY WEDDING.
Girls, how do you deal with this? What do you do? I need to take control on the situation. And yes, I AM pitching in for the wedding, if not more. I can elope without her help, but not have this darn wedding that everyone wants (me too, partly) without her help. I just don''t feel like I''m making the choices. I feel like my mother is.
Helpppppppppp
MY MOTHER IS DRIVING ME NUTS! I am so upset about this wedding crap that I am near tears about it, don''t plan anything, or..... have been thinking about eloping.
My mother has changed her mind on the wedding budget by 25%. First up, then down ("I NEVER SAID I WOULD GIVE YOU THAT MUCH MONEY!" "Ok mom.... you did, but ok.") Then up again "I''m thinking this is a good budget" THEN DOWN AGAIN. She keeps throwing out this higher figure which would help, but when I bring it up she tells me the one that is 25% less. ARG.
THEN!!!!!!!!!! LAST NIGHT (I type in caps when I''m angry) she informs me, "I am NOT buying you your dress, I never said that. See, you always think I say these things when I don''t say them."
I feel lost. I feel like crying over this. I talked to her a bit this morning but again, it doesn''t help. I talked to my BF this morning too and she was shocked by my moms behavior- as it gets deeper. We recently lost my grandmother, and I was promised/ given A LOT of items. My mother has pretty much taken all but a few pieces of the jewelry for herself. WHICH was promised to me, and several people know this. You know what she said to me last night? That my engagement ring, which was my grandmothers, looks better on her, and she would trade my grandmothers rolex for it (You know, because it looks believable on her).
One more tiny rant. There is this bracelet that by no means is perfect, but I was promised it. Because my mother chose NOT TO LISTEN when my grandmother talked about this, she has taken it for herself. I told her over and over, it''s supposed to be mine. She tells me, "Yah know what? When I was young, we got nothing from my grandparents." And I said, SO WHAT? She says, "You''ve already gotten enough. You don''t need more." She sees dollar signs. I see the sentimental value in these pieces. I told her that it was promised to me, and relayed the exact conversations to her and then asked if she was going to still keep it knowing it isn''t right. Her answer? "Yup."
I am seriously thinking of eloping my ass in vegas... or even here in my state and then go on a LONG vacation.
I just feel like MY WEDDING... isn''t MY WEDDING.
Helpppppppppp
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