labbielove
Brilliant_Rock
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We found out this week that my dear mother has terminal stomach cancer.
It has spread to her liver and throughout her abdomen. She is 79yo and the most lively and energetic (before this) person I know. 3 weeks ago she was line dancing in a variety show.
She is comfortable, lucid, and very accepting of her diagnosis. Her grace and strength are beyond measure.
The doctors told her 3-6 months, but she has gotten so much worse in the past week that none of us can see that being a reality. Right now we''re waiting for a minor procedure to be done and then she''ll go to transitional care, then hopefully back home with a visiting nurse (she''s in an apartment in a senior community) or to a nursing home.
I am so torn up right now I can''t think straight. Everyone is asking what we are going to do about the wedding (Sept 22)and I can''t even answer. Even if we moved it up my mom would not be able to participate, not to mention we want to focus on her right now. She wants us to keep our plans, but seriously- what do I do?
I am of the belief that no matter what, she is with me, whether it is in body or spirit. I know she feels the same. My heart says to keep the date, but my head just can''t handle the remaining planning and everything else to be done.
this has hit me like a ton of bricks,
please keep her in your prayers,
and if anyone has been thru anything similar,or even if you haven''t, i would really appreciate your input
It has spread to her liver and throughout her abdomen. She is 79yo and the most lively and energetic (before this) person I know. 3 weeks ago she was line dancing in a variety show.
She is comfortable, lucid, and very accepting of her diagnosis. Her grace and strength are beyond measure.
The doctors told her 3-6 months, but she has gotten so much worse in the past week that none of us can see that being a reality. Right now we''re waiting for a minor procedure to be done and then she''ll go to transitional care, then hopefully back home with a visiting nurse (she''s in an apartment in a senior community) or to a nursing home.
I am so torn up right now I can''t think straight. Everyone is asking what we are going to do about the wedding (Sept 22)and I can''t even answer. Even if we moved it up my mom would not be able to participate, not to mention we want to focus on her right now. She wants us to keep our plans, but seriously- what do I do?
I am of the belief that no matter what, she is with me, whether it is in body or spirit. I know she feels the same. My heart says to keep the date, but my head just can''t handle the remaining planning and everything else to be done.
this has hit me like a ton of bricks,
please keep her in your prayers,
and if anyone has been thru anything similar,or even if you haven''t, i would really appreciate your input