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Rough_Rock
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Hellooooooooooooooooo everyone, come on in
Mostly I''m just a lurker... I feel like what i want to say, someone else said it better, but I have something to share today. YAY!!!
So on my way home, I couldn''t stop myself from smiling and laughing (all by myself) while driving under a heavy rain lol - i''m so glad noone saw what a lunatic i was. My BF and I just had a serious, in-depth discussion about our formal engagement. It''s like, the light at the end of the tunnel, you know, and I''m so happy
Little backgound on our relationship:
My BF and I were best friends for 2 years, then I decided to keep him for myself lol. So fast forward 8 years later, I''m still with him.
Well, not everyday is filled with sunshine and roses, we have moments that I want to call it quit. I have serious LIW frustrations/ranting just like everyone here but anytime I asked myself why am I still with him, his "pros" outweighted his "cons" but most importantly I cannot picture myself with anyone else but him
Anyhoo, last June we started to talk about marriage and searching for a ring, that''s how we found PS. It took 3 months for us to purchase a stone (from GOG). Urgh, It was fun but stressful nonetheless to find my dream ring. Oh yes, I was very active in the whole process. I did mostly everything because he''s one of the guy that us, women couldn''t trust with jewelry. My hope was hitting the roof that we''re getting a ring, then he got layoff in Oct. My happiness was deflated to nonexistence level. It shattered his confidence and pissed at the politic game. We got the ring before Christmas but no engagement
See, for us, engagement means his family meet my family for talk about us getting married. There''s this whole tradition ceremony that cost and time-consuming like a mini wedding. But he was depressing that he couldn''t find a job, he''s not motivated or interested and I couldn''t pressed him... Urgh, many times I wanted to come here and vent away
My goal (ie... timeline) was to be engage last/early this year and marry this year/early next year. But I don''t see it''s happening.. So two weeks ago, I called and told him that I needed to talk to him about our future. We hada long talk about how this economy is hitting everyone and not just him. I asked him when he see us as Mr. and Mrs, that I loved him but I don''t feel so love lately, that I need him to step up and deliver his promise that is 4 years over due.
Oh my god, it actually works! Two days later, he asked if I pick a date! I knew I jut have to roll him out of his depression. We have to pay for our wedding. The fact that he still coudn''t find a job holds him back. He''s jokingly said he have to accept my offer of marrying him before I change my mind, that I may have to be his sugar mama lol.... i feel like gold to have him talk about our future with enthusiasm.
So, he called and said he''ll wait for me at the Barnes and Noble after work today. We went out for dinner and discuss the plan for our engagement. We picked march 07 last week, but then both his parents and my parents prefer another day after Easter as march will be lent for us (Catholic). So BF and I picked another date - the saturday after Easter. My parents are ok, now just waiting for his parents, but shouldn''t be a problem (keeping my finger crossed!!! can i say: dust please!!!!)
But what escalated me is that he was very into it. He already has a list of family members that he''ll have to invite and a check on names that he think/pretty sure that they''ll attend while I have nothing. I mean I wanted to be engaged so bad yet i have no list. LOL.
Dinner last 3hours. Actually, we didn''t eat much. We talked and talked. I didn''t realize that everyone else left, that it''s raining so hard that trees were bending back and forth. We had to leave because it''s almost 11pm and the restaurant suppose to be close at 10pm. On the way home, we continued on the phone LOL,
That''s about it. That''s my excitement. I mean, it''s happenning. It''s so real to me, I think i''d die if someone take this away from me.
Mostly I''m just a lurker... I feel like what i want to say, someone else said it better, but I have something to share today. YAY!!!
So on my way home, I couldn''t stop myself from smiling and laughing (all by myself) while driving under a heavy rain lol - i''m so glad noone saw what a lunatic i was. My BF and I just had a serious, in-depth discussion about our formal engagement. It''s like, the light at the end of the tunnel, you know, and I''m so happy
Little backgound on our relationship:
My BF and I were best friends for 2 years, then I decided to keep him for myself lol. So fast forward 8 years later, I''m still with him.
Well, not everyday is filled with sunshine and roses, we have moments that I want to call it quit. I have serious LIW frustrations/ranting just like everyone here but anytime I asked myself why am I still with him, his "pros" outweighted his "cons" but most importantly I cannot picture myself with anyone else but him
Anyhoo, last June we started to talk about marriage and searching for a ring, that''s how we found PS. It took 3 months for us to purchase a stone (from GOG). Urgh, It was fun but stressful nonetheless to find my dream ring. Oh yes, I was very active in the whole process. I did mostly everything because he''s one of the guy that us, women couldn''t trust with jewelry. My hope was hitting the roof that we''re getting a ring, then he got layoff in Oct. My happiness was deflated to nonexistence level. It shattered his confidence and pissed at the politic game. We got the ring before Christmas but no engagement
See, for us, engagement means his family meet my family for talk about us getting married. There''s this whole tradition ceremony that cost and time-consuming like a mini wedding. But he was depressing that he couldn''t find a job, he''s not motivated or interested and I couldn''t pressed him... Urgh, many times I wanted to come here and vent away
My goal (ie... timeline) was to be engage last/early this year and marry this year/early next year. But I don''t see it''s happening.. So two weeks ago, I called and told him that I needed to talk to him about our future. We hada long talk about how this economy is hitting everyone and not just him. I asked him when he see us as Mr. and Mrs, that I loved him but I don''t feel so love lately, that I need him to step up and deliver his promise that is 4 years over due.
Oh my god, it actually works! Two days later, he asked if I pick a date! I knew I jut have to roll him out of his depression. We have to pay for our wedding. The fact that he still coudn''t find a job holds him back. He''s jokingly said he have to accept my offer of marrying him before I change my mind, that I may have to be his sugar mama lol.... i feel like gold to have him talk about our future with enthusiasm.
So, he called and said he''ll wait for me at the Barnes and Noble after work today. We went out for dinner and discuss the plan for our engagement. We picked march 07 last week, but then both his parents and my parents prefer another day after Easter as march will be lent for us (Catholic). So BF and I picked another date - the saturday after Easter. My parents are ok, now just waiting for his parents, but shouldn''t be a problem (keeping my finger crossed!!! can i say: dust please!!!!)
But what escalated me is that he was very into it. He already has a list of family members that he''ll have to invite and a check on names that he think/pretty sure that they''ll attend while I have nothing. I mean I wanted to be engaged so bad yet i have no list. LOL.
Dinner last 3hours. Actually, we didn''t eat much. We talked and talked. I didn''t realize that everyone else left, that it''s raining so hard that trees were bending back and forth. We had to leave because it''s almost 11pm and the restaurant suppose to be close at 10pm. On the way home, we continued on the phone LOL,
That''s about it. That''s my excitement. I mean, it''s happenning. It''s so real to me, I think i''d die if someone take this away from me.
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