Wedding My first non ring question

[pauly1]

Hi there, you guys were so helpful in designing the ring I figured I would hit you up for a little invitation advice. My Fiance and I are ordering our invitations and we are undecided on the wording. The situation is as follows. Her parents are hosting. My parents are divorced and my mother never remarried. My father did remarry and I have a stepmother. What are my options for wording these invitations? Thanks for any help or suggestions.

 

[musey]

Technically, whomever's hosting is the only one with a right to "billing." So:



Mr. and Mrs. John Smith (Or Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith)
Request the honor(/pleasure) of your presence(/company) at the marriage of their daughter

Jessica (Smith)

to

Benjamin Johnson

Friday, the Eighth of November
Two Thousand and Eight
At Three O'Clock in the Afternoon

First Presbyterian Church
Eighty Two Adams Street
Boston, Massachusetts

-(Names changed to protect the innocent

)-


We did a slight variation on that wording, and added "Son of Bethany and Byron Johnson" below the groom's name, just to be nice (not because they are contributing). Though in your case, with the groom's parents not still together, it seems simpler to go with the basic wording (bride's parents only).

If you really wanted to include your parents' names, you could add the "son of," and list your parents' full names (I assume she has a different last name now?). Seems easier (and more correct, though the etiquette mavens should correct me on that!) to leave them all off, though.

 

[surfgirl]

pauly, the other options to musey''s, which is indeed the more traditional, classic version are these:

"Together with their parents,

Jane Doe

and

Bob Smith

blah blah blah"

Or omit the parental mention and just have the bride and groom''s names only. Depends on how you feel about mentioning your parents. With divorced and remarried parents, I tend to think the Bride''s parents only, or either of the above two are the best options. I think you''re opening a can of worms if you consider specifically mentioning your parents by name...

 

[Haven]

Great suggestions, ladies.

I would go with the traditional wording, but that''s just me. Also--remember, you only use "honour of your presence" if the ceremony is in a religious space (church, synagogue, etc.) Otherwise, you use "pleasure of your company". And, according to the etiquette mavens, you always use "honour" and not "honor", even in the states. (The same goes for "favour" as well.)

Enjoy choosing your invitations, that was my favorite part!

 

[pauly1]

Thanks for all the suggestions ladies, really appreciate it. I''m not excatly sure which way we''re leaning, but these are definitely good options.

-Paul