Wedding My dress came in! (Lots of pictures!)

[gtn]

wow, that dress was made for you. I love the bottom of your dress.

 

[lauralu]

I looked at your pics and thought....oh how beautiful....than I scrolled down to the pic of the jacket and dress and went...ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh perfection. Just gorgeous. Good JOb! You will look stunning on your wedding day!

 

[Sabine]

You look gorgeous!!! I''m not usually a fan of jackets, but that one is so romantic! I think you should definitely wear it for part of the time, even though you don''t need to by any means!

 

[pjean]

That dress is fantastic. The texture! It looks perfect on you. I actually prefer it without the jacket, but I think you look amazing either way.

 

[purrfectpear]

I much prefer it with the jacket. It''s lovely on you.

 

[modernsparkler]

I agree with the others... That dress is beautful. However, I do think the jacket, although it has a similar patter as the dress, may be a bit much with the dress. It is actually I think a totally different look. Are you getting married somewhere that requires it (church, etc)? You can''t do wrong either way but that dress is so stuning it might be best to let it stand alone!

 

[galvana]

Wow this dress looks so great on you! i love it!. my thoughts would be - wear the jacket at the ceremony and then take it off for reception and dancing. they both look great thoiugh --- very pretty on you!
i love maggie''s - i got one myself and can''t wait for it to come in~! yours is soooooooooooo pretty on you! YAY

 

[SeattleSweetheart]

Wow! You look amazing in that dress!

I love the jacket!

I''ve got a Maggie for my wedding day too!

 

[espressa]

Thank you sooo much for all of the compliments and input, Harleigh, swingirl, Kim N, akmiss, honey22, gtn, lauralu, Sabine, pjean, purrfectpear, modernsparkler, galvana, and SeattleSweetheart!

You have no idea how great you all have made me feel about my dress! Over the last month or so I had begun to second guess my decision and worry that I should have gone with something simpler. Most of the dresses that are posted on PS aren''t very heavily beaded and I really had no intention of getting a dress like this but I just fell in love with it when I first tried it on.

I''m not usually all that fond of dresses with jackets or sleeves so I was also concerned about how other people would like it since it definitely isn''t the typical wedding dress with the jacket on, but I appreciate all of the compliments on it, and that even those of you who prefer it without the jacket still think it looks ok with it on.

modernsparkler, you asked if I was getting married somewhere that required the jacket, and the answer to that is definitely not, since I''m getting married in a town hall and having a completely non-religious ceremony. But the bridal shop did tell me that a lot of girls liked this dress for exactly that reason - they could wear the jacket during the ceremony to conform with the rules of their church.

I didn''t even intend on getting the jacket (the dress can be ordered with or without it), but the first shop I tried the dress on at wanted an extra $300 or so for it, and the place that I actually ordered the dress from gave it to me for free. Their price with jacket was the same as the first place with no jacket (which might have been a mistake on their part but I certainly wasn''t going to point it out!), and although they said they could probably give me a discount if I really didn''t want it, I decided to have them order it anyway, especially since I was getting 15% off the dress as well. Now I''m really glad I did!

Whether I wear it during the ceremony or not will really depend on how it looks with the veil. Either way, I''m confident that it will make for some nice pictures at some point during the wedding.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

Your dress is beautiful and suits you perfectly! Great choice! Love the jacket.......

cheers--Sharon

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 8/30/2008 12:14:42 AM
Author: espressa
Wow, you all are so sweet! Thank you so so much, risingsun, misspinky, miraclesrule, lili, joflier, SarahLovesJS, WishfulThinking, somehowcollide, shimmer, claudinam, doodle, and MINIMS!

I definitely plan on wearing the jacket now that you all have confirmed that it looks good. My only concern is how it will look with a veil. I think that the dress + jacket + veil might be too much, so I may wear the jacket for the reception only and wear my veil for just the ceremony. I''ll be sure to try my veil on with the jacket next week, and get a few pictures.

I do agree with some of you though that the sleeves may be somewhat annoying when I''m trying to eat so maybe I''ll take it off at certain parts during dinner (it''s going to be a long dinner, and I think it will work during some courses better than others). I can play it by ear though and see how things go the night of.

I''m definitely a lot more comfortable with my appearance when I have it on, which makes me think it may be worth the hassle when I expect pictures to be taken. Even though I''m sure most people won''t think my arms look fat without the jacket, that''s the first thing I tend to notice in any photos (besides my face looking fat) and it makes me cringe. I don''t want to look back on my wedding pictures and be disappointed because I think I look fat in all of them, you know?

Espressa, I think you are so beautiful - beautiful skin, gorgeous smile...that''s what I see. Your looks are so much more than any one part that you may not love. When people look at you they''re looking at you as a whole. I know it''s easier to pick out what you don''t think is great (most of us do that) but try not to! So really, I don''t think you need to wear the jacket, I really like the way the dress looks on you both ways. But you know yourself best - if the jacket is going to give you that little bit of a confidence boost, so that you can relax and not think about the way you look, then definitely wear it when you''re taking pictures, or whenever...it really does look nice.

 

[espressa]

canuk-gal, thank you so much for the compliments.

claudinam, thank you, I really appreciate everything you said.

You''re totally right, and logically I know that people aren''t going to be staring at my arms, but it can be difficult sometimes to really accept it, I guess. I do feel 100 times more comfortable and self-confident with the jacket on, so I anticipate wearing it a lot.

I think the main issue is that after being anorexic in high school and college, and now being 50 pounds heavier (which totally floors me, because I honestly don''t think I look that fat most of the time but it seems like so. much. weight), it''s hard to see pictures of super skinny brides with tiny arms because I know that used to be me, but I can never go back to that because it was very unhealthy for me. I''m not that person anymore, and I have to be very careful when trying to lose weight not to slip back into that mentality.

Being a bride and having everyone expecting you to lose weight doesn''t really help matters either, but I''m working on it.

 

[Krissie]

I love your dress, and you look beautiful!!

 

[mintve]

I love the bolero!!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Gorgeous!!

 

[LaurenThePartier]

Gorgeous! I love it both way - jacket and without!

 

[Amandine]

Oooo...love the hem! The dress is beautiful, and I have to say I like it a teensy bit more without the jacket. But, really, it does look good both ways.

 

[kittybean]

Your dress is so pretty! I especially love the hem. The whole dress has such an ethereal, romantic look.

When I read your comment about not liking your arms, I thought, "What is she talking about?" You look great in your dress! There is no need for the jacket to cover anything up. If you like it, I say wear it, but if you don''t feel like wearing it, you don''t have to. I like the look a little more without the jacket, but the dress looks good with the jacket as well. I think you can''t go wrong here--you are going to look stunning.

 

[bensbride]

I love your dress and you look amazing in it! I think you made an awesome choice and I''m glad you have the jacket to wear if you feel like wearing one. Its very lovely either with or without the jacket. It might be a little much with a veil, but without seeing it, it is a little hard to tell.

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 9/2/2008 10:58:07 AM
Author: espressa
canuk-gal, thank you so much for the compliments.

claudinam, thank you, I really appreciate everything you said.

You''re totally right, and logically I know that people aren''t going to be staring at my arms, but it can be difficult sometimes to really accept it, I guess. I do feel 100 times more comfortable and self-confident with the jacket on, so I anticipate wearing it a lot.

I think the main issue is that after being anorexic in high school and college, and now being 50 pounds heavier (which totally floors me, because I honestly don''t think I look that fat most of the time but it seems like so. much. weight), it''s hard to see pictures of super skinny brides with tiny arms because I know that used to be me, but I can never go back to that because it was very unhealthy for me. I''m not that person anymore, and I have to be very careful when trying to lose weight not to slip back into that mentality.

Being a bride and having everyone expecting you to lose weight doesn''t really help matters either, but I''m working on it.

You are so welcome.

And you know what? Wear it as much as you need to. There''s nothing more beautiful than self-confidence. So if the jacket lets you fake it a little bit, so be it. I think it''s important for you to feel self-confidence, calm, and fun because it is your wedding day, you will only have it once, and it isn''t worth taking away from it worrying about the way you look. Plus if that''s how you feel you will exude that and it will show in the pictures.

I had a friend when I was a lot younger who was anorexic - it was such a battle for her. And how wonderful that you''re able to recognize that it was unhealthy for you. Congratulations on winning this battle, which I''m sure you''ll have to always fight, to, as you say, not slip back into that mentality.

As far as everyone expecting you to lose weight, I''d have fun ignoring them. I love how people think they can comment on your weight/body. Plus, what''s beautiful to one person isn''t to another - different cultures play a big role in that too.