Hi
Well, pricescope is full of a bunch of wonderful ladies (and men) who might have some ideas on how to help me.
My 5 year old in the last few weeks has turned into a real worrier about school related things, starting new things, joining new sports etc.
He is doing very well at school - he is in his first year, has many friends, and doing excellent academically. He has always been slow to accept new things, eg joining a new playgroup or music class in the past, but once he has overcome his initial shyness, loves it and is a real verbal and social participant.
Lately he is just so worried, about having the right colour uniform for sport, about starting after school care and not knowing anyone, etc.
The new things in his life are school this year ( which as gone really well), me starting work 3 weeks ago part-time, and him starting after school care for 2 times a week. But even a few weeks prior to that we went to start a junior sport activity and he was too scared to go on to the oval and play with the team ( half were his schoolmates). In hindsight w we should have come there early before the teams were on the oval, and introduced him to the game while no one was there and people slowly filter in iykwim, which is what works best.
I know that once he is over that hurdle he loves it and would be the most acitve and social one on the team. I just dont know what to do, I am really gettting a bit worried, I have just spent the last hour talking to him in bed, and trying to calm his fears about going to afterschool care on a different night, ( my work asked me to change days just for this week). The care is the same one as the one he has started and most likely will have a lot of the same kids, as most mums work more than one day. He is just so worried about not knowing anyone, how will he get to the care room ( it is just around the corner and the same one he goes to on the other days), about me not forgetting to pick him up, in case older kids might tease him ( he says they havnt)......
I dont know... I am a bit down now, I want to build his confidence and reliliance. He is confident once he knows the situation, but his resiliance and worrying - is of concern to me.
Any books any one can recommend to build resiliance, deal with worries? Books on how to handle change? We have moved countries last year with him, but returned home so to speak so he had some friends there, and family of course. ( just to give you the full picture). He loved where we were overseas and had a great bunch of friends and social circle, but has settled in well here at home and adores spending time with grandpaents and has lots of new friends.
I dont know ... any books, ideas, website much appreciated. I just want to help him get some skills to be more resiliant, and worry less. I know I am a worrier, but i have learnt to deal with it as an adult, and really cant remember worrying so much as he does at the moment when I was a child......
Many thanks
DB
Well, pricescope is full of a bunch of wonderful ladies (and men) who might have some ideas on how to help me.
My 5 year old in the last few weeks has turned into a real worrier about school related things, starting new things, joining new sports etc.
He is doing very well at school - he is in his first year, has many friends, and doing excellent academically. He has always been slow to accept new things, eg joining a new playgroup or music class in the past, but once he has overcome his initial shyness, loves it and is a real verbal and social participant.
Lately he is just so worried, about having the right colour uniform for sport, about starting after school care and not knowing anyone, etc.
The new things in his life are school this year ( which as gone really well), me starting work 3 weeks ago part-time, and him starting after school care for 2 times a week. But even a few weeks prior to that we went to start a junior sport activity and he was too scared to go on to the oval and play with the team ( half were his schoolmates). In hindsight w we should have come there early before the teams were on the oval, and introduced him to the game while no one was there and people slowly filter in iykwim, which is what works best.
I know that once he is over that hurdle he loves it and would be the most acitve and social one on the team. I just dont know what to do, I am really gettting a bit worried, I have just spent the last hour talking to him in bed, and trying to calm his fears about going to afterschool care on a different night, ( my work asked me to change days just for this week). The care is the same one as the one he has started and most likely will have a lot of the same kids, as most mums work more than one day. He is just so worried about not knowing anyone, how will he get to the care room ( it is just around the corner and the same one he goes to on the other days), about me not forgetting to pick him up, in case older kids might tease him ( he says they havnt)......
I dont know... I am a bit down now, I want to build his confidence and reliliance. He is confident once he knows the situation, but his resiliance and worrying - is of concern to me.
Any books any one can recommend to build resiliance, deal with worries? Books on how to handle change? We have moved countries last year with him, but returned home so to speak so he had some friends there, and family of course. ( just to give you the full picture). He loved where we were overseas and had a great bunch of friends and social circle, but has settled in well here at home and adores spending time with grandpaents and has lots of new friends.
I dont know ... any books, ideas, website much appreciated. I just want to help him get some skills to be more resiliant, and worry less. I know I am a worrier, but i have learnt to deal with it as an adult, and really cant remember worrying so much as he does at the moment when I was a child......
Many thanks
DB