Hi everyone,
I'm in the middle of addressing invitations, and it's fairly easy for older couples/acquaintances or couples where the woman has kept her maiden name.
However, I am in a weird dilemma for how to address 20-something and 30-something married couples who are fairly close friends.
The etiquette says "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe" but I'd like to have both first names. It really bugs me, especially when the wife is the closer friend. "John and Jane Doe" or "the Doe family" seems too informal/familiar, and "Mr. and Mrs. Doe" a little distant.
Here's some suggested options I could find on the Net:
"Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe" seems to really separate them (plus, needs 2 lines in most cases)
"Mr. and Mrs John and Jane Doe" is 1. redundant and 2. separates husband's first and last, which is supposed to be a no-no
"Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe" lists the woman first which I think is not supposed to happen
Did you guys address your younger friends in a more casual/different way? Have you found a nice-sounding way of using both names?
Does anyone youngish who changed their name care when they're getting called "Mrs. John Doe"? (or is it just me?) Or do most people not even notice, so I shouldn't worry and just follow etiquette?
Thanks in advance!
I'm in the middle of addressing invitations, and it's fairly easy for older couples/acquaintances or couples where the woman has kept her maiden name.
However, I am in a weird dilemma for how to address 20-something and 30-something married couples who are fairly close friends.
The etiquette says "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe" but I'd like to have both first names. It really bugs me, especially when the wife is the closer friend. "John and Jane Doe" or "the Doe family" seems too informal/familiar, and "Mr. and Mrs. Doe" a little distant.
Here's some suggested options I could find on the Net:
"Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe" seems to really separate them (plus, needs 2 lines in most cases)
"Mr. and Mrs John and Jane Doe" is 1. redundant and 2. separates husband's first and last, which is supposed to be a no-no
"Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Doe" lists the woman first which I think is not supposed to happen
Did you guys address your younger friends in a more casual/different way? Have you found a nice-sounding way of using both names?
Does anyone youngish who changed their name care when they're getting called "Mrs. John Doe"? (or is it just me?) Or do most people not even notice, so I shouldn't worry and just follow etiquette?
Thanks in advance!