whenlovehurts
Rough_Rock
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- Jun 2, 2006
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I am so exhausted and feel like I am going crazy from arguments last nigh. I feel as my head will explode…Here are the details:
We don’t live with my in-laws, we moved out of their place a year ago. Which she hates me for! I though that by moving out will resolve most issues, but it seems like it isn’t. She is a really controlling woman. She wants us down at her place EVERY weekend and if we don’t she calls and puts pressure on us to come or to tell her exactly when we are coming. Now, every time I go down there, she disrespects me. She gives me orders to cook all the freaking time and I am sick of it. She does this when my fiancé isn’t around only. When he is there she acts like an angel and when he isn’t she is just a devil. Previously she made up lies about me and my fiancé confronted her for that and of course she was in denial. All 5 people that told us what she had said about me lied, but she is right.
After her gossip, we’ve made a decision to go down and visit her every other week. And to be fair I said that it will be the same with my parents, every other week. Well she keeps on calling and calling.
Last night, her younger son and daughter in law made a barbeque and invited a lot of friends and including us. Since my fiancé worked, we decided that we’ll go when he gets home. At about 3:00 PM she calls me raising her voice at me saying “why aren’t you down here, we are barbequing, when are you coming”. And all I said is I don’t know. And I could hear some ladies there laughing. I am not sure if they laughed at the fact the way she is talking to me or what. First of all, its not even her that should be calling, it should be the brother and the sister in law since they are throwing the barbeque. If they really needed help with preparing and stuff, there was a nicer way of saying it. So, I got really upset.
When my fiancé got home, I said that I wasn’t going and I told him why. “if she thinks that she can boss me around and tell me that I HAVE to be there, then I will prove it to her that I don’t. Well, my fiancé doesn’t want to go without me and wants me to go. He wants to go because of his brother and I understand that, but I just can not go. She is not my boss and I will not let her boss me.
And so now he is upset with me because I didn’t go. He doesn’t understand why I don’t want to go. And he feels that because of me and her, he didn’t go to his brother’s barbeque.
What do you guys think? Do you think I should’ve gone or did I do the right thing?
Your opinions and feedback are well appreciated.