most women will receive a bigger Ering the second time around?

[Dancing Fire]

 

[yssie]

Makes sense.

 

[upgrade]

True for all the second marriages I know of... and really, the husband couldn't very well give the new wife a smaller diamond than the previous woman, could he?

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 1/8/2010 9:45:20 PM
Author: upgrade
True for all the second marriages I know of... and really, the husband couldn''t very well give the new wife a smaller diamond than the previous woman, could he?

what if this was his first marriage?

 

[Cehrabehra]

I have a friend who wears the same diamond he proposed to someone else with (its tiny) and it was the same ring his mom wore when she married his father (ended in divorce) - okay so this isn''t exactly on topic but it made me think of that lol

 

[joflier]

Well ya. You gotta ''one up'' the other dude!

 

[chrono]

DF,
Here is the simple but very boring answer. The first marriage is usually early in life when the man is poorer or not as well off, thus can only afford a small stone. The second marriage is usually when the man is older and more well established in his career so having a larger E-ring is only natural.

 

[neatfreak]

Also second marriages happen when people are older. Older people generally have more disposable income. I would also think that on average those who get married later in life have bigger erings than those who get married younger.

Chrono-we were posting at the same time. great minds think alike!

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 1/8/2010 10:10:14 PM
Author: neatfreak
Also second marriages happen when people are older. Older people generally have more disposable income. I would also think that on average those who get married later in life have bigger erings than those who get married younger.

Chrono-we were posting at the same time. great minds think alike!

Yup!!

 

[upgrade]

Date: 1/8/2010 9:51:50 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/8/2010 9:45:20 PM
Author: upgrade
True for all the second marriages I know of... and really, the husband couldn''t very well give the new wife a smaller diamond than the previous woman, could he?

what if this was his first marriage?

The stone still has to be bigger, or he''s been outdone by the ex-husband!

 

[vespergirl]

I''ve been engaged 3 times (married twice - the first and third engagement) and yes, I got bigger rings each time, but I think partially that''s because each time I was engaged to an older man who was more established in his field.

First engagement - me, 22, him, 26 - he was a musician. The ring was a 3 stone RB, .50 cttw.

Second engagement - me, 26, him, 30 - he was an associate in a law firm. The ring was a 1 ct RB solitiare.

Third engagement (to my husband) - me, 29, him, 34 - he is a construction/engineering executive. The ring is a 2 ct RB solitaire.

 

[Amber St. Clare]

Well, I didn''t get one the first time around--he was in college--and I wasn''t never too crazy about the e ring my now husband gave me....so I decided to upgrade this year to a platinum, ruby and diamond ring. I''m trying to get my son to help me photo and post it in the SMTR section.

 

[Sizzle]

I think that makes good sense, HOWEVER, I think sometimes the first time bride might be more materialistic.. want a big wedding and to do and often times the second time around is more modest. Remember Charlotte in Sex and the City when she married Harry she didn''t "flash the ring" or feel right having a big ole wedding because she had it the first time around?

 

[HollyS]

I really don''t think anyone should be - - or even is - - thinking that "When I get married again, after my divorce, after I kick this one to the curb, my next ring is going to be bigger!"

I know many people who opted for simple bands the second time around. Or, one couple I know chose to wear their family rings for sentimental reasons, probably because they never once thought it was ''about the bling''. For many, the trappings and geegaws don''t seem to be quite as important when they get a second chance to get it right.

 

[Haven]

Date: 1/9/2010 12:38:17 PM
Author: HollyS
I really don't think anyone should be - - or even is - - thinking that 'When I get married again, after my divorce, after I kick this one to the curb, my next ring is going to be bigger!'

I know many people who opted for simple bands the second time around. Or, one couple I know chose to wear their family rings for sentimental reasons, probably because they never once thought it was 'about the bling'. For many, the trappings and geegaws don't seem to be quite as important when they get a second chance to get it right.

This makes a lot of sense to me. I see a lot of women wearing plain bands when they become engaged a bit later in life.
On the flip side, I do think that age and disposable income play a large role when you *do* see someone wearing a larger e-ring the second time around.

I've been engaged twice, married once.
First engagement I was 21, he was 22, we were both students, and he proposed with a .22 tension set RB.
Second engagement I was 26, he was 37, we were both working and had been for years, and he proposed with a 2.01 ct.

In my case, disposable income and PS had a lot of influence over the second engagement ring choice.

 

[AdiS]

Date: 1/8/2010 10:01:34 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
I have a friend who wears the same diamond he proposed to someone else with (its tiny) and it was the same ring his mom wore when she married his father (ended in divorce) - okay so this isn''t exactly on topic but it made me think of that lol

Ok, I''m not that superstitious, but that seems a bit, I don''t know, creepy to me.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Date: 1/9/2010 12:38:17 PM
Author: HollyS
I really don't think anyone should be - - or even is - - thinking that 'When I get married again, after my divorce, after I kick this one to the curb, my next ring is going to be bigger!'

I know many people who opted for simple bands the second time around. Or, one couple I know chose to wear their family rings for sentimental reasons, probably because they never once thought it was 'about the bling'. For many, the trappings and geegaws don't seem to be quite as important when they get a second chance to get it right.

I had the same thought about having a more simple ring the second time around. My sister received a traditional e-ring for her first marriage, then divorced. For her second marriage she wanted an eternity band instead. She did buy herself a diamond last year and is wearing it as a RHR. My mother has been married twice and never received an e-ring. She's worn the same gold band for 30 years. Another of my sisters did not receive an e-ring for her first marriage, but did for her second. She's admitted that she felt awkward wearing an e-ring for her second marriage and doesn't wear it. She wears a diamond wedding band instead.

 

[HollyS]

Date: 1/9/2010 3:36:30 PM
Author: AdiS

Date: 1/8/2010 10:01:34 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
I have a friend who wears the same diamond he proposed to someone else with (its tiny) and it was the same ring his mom wore when she married his father (ended in divorce) - okay so this isn''t exactly on topic but it made me think of that lol

Ok, I''m not that superstitious, but that seems a bit, I don''t know, creepy to me.

Odd, yes. And I''m sure there''s an issue or two there he could use some help with. Maybe.

 

[AdiS]

Date: 1/9/2010 4:18:09 PM
Author: HollyS

Date: 1/9/2010 3:36:30 PM
Author: AdiS

Date: 1/8/2010 10:01:34 PM
Author: Cehrabehra
I have a friend who wears the same diamond he proposed to someone else with (its tiny) and it was the same ring his mom wore when she married his father (ended in divorce) - okay so this isn''t exactly on topic but it made me think of that lol

Ok, I''m not that superstitious, but that seems a bit, I don''t know, creepy to me.

Odd, yes. And I''m sure there''s an issue or two there he could use some help with. Maybe.

Haha, yeah, to put it mildly!

But that lady sounds weird too. Even if I didn''t care that the ring has already seen a divorce and a broken (?) engagement, who''d want to wear the ring their SO proposed to another woman with?! I''d be mad if I found out he was still keeping it, let alone giving it to me...

 

[Snicklefritz]

well, i should hope so.

 

[AprilBaby]

Makes sense. Those of us who keep the 1st husband seem to get upgrades anyways.Older = more $$$