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Brilliant_Rock
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- Mar 11, 2005
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It figures- things have been going along ok. I was up because we may have foind a very affordable photographer. Now I''m really irritated at my MOH.
She''s one of my best freinds. But boy, does she ever have the worst Gemini trait- being extremely scatterbrained and sometimes self-absorbed. She has been the type to whine ocassionally about "not having anyone". I get that. Whne I told her that the proposal was coming soon, she got downright distant, asking me not to ''rub her face in that fact she''s single''. Which I never have done to anyone! Then she morphed into being thrilled for us and jumped for joy when i asked her to be my MOH.
She had a great time with the rest of us trying on dresses that day at David''s in March and she decide which style she liked and then... nothing else.
I finally got a hold of her 3 WEEKS AGO, prodding since it takes about 11-14 weeks to order and when did she think she might do so???? She launches into a whole thing about how she is kind of short on money right now and promises to do it soon. No one needs to tell me how short money is right now- we''re paying for the wedding ourselves! Yet she is saving money for her vaca to L.A in August, talking about buying her car (been talking about that since last year) and her trip to Ireland NEXT YEAR. Plus another new phone and another new iPod. I''m not trying to be a bitch or a bridezilla, but she works two jobs: front desk for a hotel ($15ph) and teacher''s assistant ($12ph) She can plan for the vacas, buy new toys, but can''t do the $159 for a dress that even she said was a good price?
Not to mention the other MOH duties- planning a bachelorette party, helping me take care of some details, researching shoes, photographers and all that? Nothing. So I said then that I wanted her to come with me for the first rough dress fitting, also for the added help since the woman who co-runs the shop doesn''t speak English very well, MOH could translate. This was supposed to take place Saturday. She calls me last second Thursday saying she could go because of some other last-second plans, but she will be off Tuesaday and Thursday of this week. I didn''t end up going to the salon (bad weather and all) but left her a message saying along the lines of "ok, you''re off Tueasday, you can come with me then". Haven''t heard from her.
I''m really tempted to point blank ask if she can''t do. Or doesn''t want to anymore. I realize it''s not like years and years ago, when you really needed handmaids to get married, but come on- at least be a little bit involved? My other two BM''s have been great- one who is the master decorator, made my bouquet art pieces, helping me with centerpieces, had some material i can make my veil from andmore. My other BM is so happy just to be involved, she''s doing what she can, which isn''t much. It''s ok since she''s in her last trimester of pregnancy.
If I say ''maybe you shouldn''t do this...'' it could get nasty. If I replace her, it could be worse. What do i do?
She''s one of my best freinds. But boy, does she ever have the worst Gemini trait- being extremely scatterbrained and sometimes self-absorbed. She has been the type to whine ocassionally about "not having anyone". I get that. Whne I told her that the proposal was coming soon, she got downright distant, asking me not to ''rub her face in that fact she''s single''. Which I never have done to anyone! Then she morphed into being thrilled for us and jumped for joy when i asked her to be my MOH.
She had a great time with the rest of us trying on dresses that day at David''s in March and she decide which style she liked and then... nothing else.
I finally got a hold of her 3 WEEKS AGO, prodding since it takes about 11-14 weeks to order and when did she think she might do so???? She launches into a whole thing about how she is kind of short on money right now and promises to do it soon. No one needs to tell me how short money is right now- we''re paying for the wedding ourselves! Yet she is saving money for her vaca to L.A in August, talking about buying her car (been talking about that since last year) and her trip to Ireland NEXT YEAR. Plus another new phone and another new iPod. I''m not trying to be a bitch or a bridezilla, but she works two jobs: front desk for a hotel ($15ph) and teacher''s assistant ($12ph) She can plan for the vacas, buy new toys, but can''t do the $159 for a dress that even she said was a good price?
Not to mention the other MOH duties- planning a bachelorette party, helping me take care of some details, researching shoes, photographers and all that? Nothing. So I said then that I wanted her to come with me for the first rough dress fitting, also for the added help since the woman who co-runs the shop doesn''t speak English very well, MOH could translate. This was supposed to take place Saturday. She calls me last second Thursday saying she could go because of some other last-second plans, but she will be off Tuesaday and Thursday of this week. I didn''t end up going to the salon (bad weather and all) but left her a message saying along the lines of "ok, you''re off Tueasday, you can come with me then". Haven''t heard from her.
I''m really tempted to point blank ask if she can''t do. Or doesn''t want to anymore. I realize it''s not like years and years ago, when you really needed handmaids to get married, but come on- at least be a little bit involved? My other two BM''s have been great- one who is the master decorator, made my bouquet art pieces, helping me with centerpieces, had some material i can make my veil from andmore. My other BM is so happy just to be involved, she''s doing what she can, which isn''t much. It''s ok since she''s in her last trimester of pregnancy.
If I say ''maybe you shouldn''t do this...'' it could get nasty. If I replace her, it could be worse. What do i do?