Miss Manners is Always Awesome

[sillyberry]

Anyway, today on the Washington Post she held an online chat on the topic of wedding etiquette. I thought people might enjoy!

Miss Manners

 

[Future Mrs. Sterling]

That was rather interesting. Thanks for the link!

 

[nkarma]

Thanks for sharing....great advice.

 

[mayachel]

Thanks for sharing. Ridiculous how I enjoy reading about etiquette.

 

[caribqueen]

The sad thing is that we''re the ones reading, and not our guests. I wish I could''ve attached a link to this from my wedding website. Especially for those who ask if they can bring children or dates when the answer is already in the invite.

 

[ts44]

Great article! I was just having a dilemma discussed in this article, regarding invitation wording. I wanted to place my fiance''s parents'' names on the invite, phrased thusly "to Fiance, the son of Fiance''s Mother and the late Fiance''s Father."

My mother emphatically said NOT to do this, as you NEVER include the groom''s parents on the invite unless they are paying. We are currently in low-grade argument about it, as she has not yet realized that while we value her opinion, she really has no say in how it is phrased.

I''m of the mind that etiquette should never be the excuse for something that will rightfully offend - I''m going to print that portion of the article and show it to her.

 

[trillionaire]

That was refreshing! I low-key want to buy her book. I appreciate that rather than letting etiquette sounds like a bore, or a chore, she makes it sound natural and refreshing, and about thoughtfulness to other. Love her disdain for how weddings are now so OTT!

 

[MonkeyPants]

Thanks for sharing SB! I love reading about etiquette as well. And (off topic) your avatar always makes me crave berries...

 

[caribqueen]

Date: 3/15/2010 6:26:26 PM
Author: ts44
Great article! I was just having a dilemma discussed in this article, regarding invitation wording. I wanted to place my fiance''s parents'' names on the invite, phrased thusly ''to Fiance, the son of Fiance''s Mother and the late Fiance''s Father.''

My mother emphatically said NOT to do this, as you NEVER include the groom''s parents on the invite unless they are paying. We are currently in low-grade argument about it, as she has not yet realized that while we value her opinion, she really has no say in how it is phrased.

I''m of the mind that etiquette should never be the excuse for something that will rightfully offend - I''m going to print that portion of the article and show it to her.

I understand this. We put my FI''s mom on the invitation. A small reason was because they''re taking care of photographer and videographer. But a bigger reason was so that the people she invited from FI''s side would know who''s wedding the invitation is for and that it''s her son.

 

[Haven]

I love Judith Martin.

 

[PumpkinPie]

Thanks for the link! it''s always interesting to hear perspectives

 

[sillyberry]

Date: 3/15/2010 9:09:31 PM
Author: Haven
I love Judith Martin.

Haven, I thought of you.

 

[trillionaire]

I went and picked up the book today!