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[miraclesrule]

Who has the best food? You know what I am craving right now. I am a fiend for the thin crust cilantro pesto appetizer pizza from BJ''s. Have you ever tasted those? OMG, they are to die for. So, if we don''t want to waste a lot of gas, we can even meet at Grossmont Center, but if we do a mall, that is horrible one. Although they do also have that restaurant that serves the most wicked caramel apple cheesecake on a Lorna Doone crust. How come I can never remember the name of that restaurant next to WalMart??

Or, if it''s 90 degrees, we can alwasy do Parkway Plaza. I haven''t been there in ages, and I love Pat and Oscar''s and Applebee''s and their Japanese restaurant.

Although, I love UTC too. See, this is why you have to chose. I am really bad at choosing. It''s why I still have all white walls.

 

[diamondfan]

It is November 1st.

I will be doing dinner Friday night at a local restaurant, followed by services and then a dessert reception at my home.

The next day the service is at 5 pm and the party is afterwards.

Sunday I will have a brunch at my country club and bid everyone a fond adieu. I was exhausted last time, and figure I will be again, but at least all of my home stuff is done, which it was not the last time until literally the day of the dessert reception...

I am hoping after three years of planning for this event, and spending a fortune, that my son appreciates what it means to be bar mitzvahed and that he has fun after the service! Right now it is tough for him, he hates the studying but that is what it takes.

 

[miraclesrule]

I have been to three bar mitzvah''s ( wait, one was a girl so that would be a bat mitzvah, correct?) I was so impressed with how much work went into them. I couldn''t believe all the reading they have to do. I thought they were beautiful and it was a great education in the religion.

My Mom is a devout Catholic. On our way I home from my frist one, I remember telling my Mom "Wow, I didn''t realize how much in common the services had with our church Mom. The drinking of the wine and I really like the way they break the bread from the same loaf. Plus the bread is ten times tastier than the dried stuff we get at Mass"

I thought my Mom was going to go through the car roof. She looked at me and said "Well honey, it isn''t close to our religion at all. They are wrong because they don''t believe that Jesus is the son of God"

Huh? I tried to then engage my Mom in a conversation about why she thought that one person''s belief was "wrong" and her belief was the only one that was "right". I was a pesky teenager, as you might be able to tell. I don''t think I changed much as an adult.

She dropped the subject because I think she got tired of trying to answer my questions.

I couldn''t wait to attend the next bar mitzvah because I was always so amazed at the young adults who studied so hard and the services were always so beautiful.

I know that you will host the the most divine celebration and service ever!! I truly hope that your sister drama doesn''t mar your experience. You clearly have devoted a lot of love, time and effort into this and I think your son will be so proud to have you as his Mom.

 

[diamondfan]

I am more spiritual than religious, but this was important to my hubby.
I did not have a bat mitzvah and find it all overwhelming!

Families kind of suck. I am so annoyed with some of mine right now.

They are becoming like weddings, even worse, as most weddings you are not trying to keep 75 to 100 kids who have a tendency to be spoiled and jaded entertained for 5 hours, plus do something the adults like. I have three spaces for my party. Cocktails in one space, decorated in brown, cream and apple green with some gold, but it still will have a streamlined feel. Everyone will then go up to the adult room, with seated dinner and large orchestra, this room will have a tent constructed within it, and will have white parsons tables, no table clothes, with aqua blue and apple green and gold with a touch of chocolate to tie it into the cocktail room and the invite, which was chocolate brown, aqua and cream paper, with chocolate ink. Each course will be on a different plate, and the flowers will be all white and green, including peonies, hydrangeas, orchids and roses. I told the party planner to fill tall vessels on the bar with green apples and green pears...there will be a truss and the band will be elevated and there will be green and blue lights. The bar is white and very funky, it can go from blue to green to white and back again! I want a semi New York feel, no fluff, but still elegant, but felt all white was overdone and I wanted to bring in a bit of color! The kids will be with us during the movie I am having made about my son (a 5 minute film about him in the Ferris Beuller vein, which is so my son!) and then he will enter, we will show the montage and then do a short candle lighting, like three candles, since that stuff can drag the energy down. The cake place I found is amazing, her stuff is incredible. I will do the cake in brown icing, cream icing, and use aqua, apple green and gold on it. I plan to leave the large plasma screens up and do a wallpaper (montage without music that can be glanced at during the night along with live feed of people dancing etc)...the kids will then go to another room with a club like setting, couches, light up cube tables, hi top tables, a dj, a buffet, a party emcee and tons of great stuff to make and participate in. I have been planning this for THREE YEARS with the planner, it is just a level of detail that amazes me, I am now deciding on all the stuff for the kids bags, plus bags for the out of towners in their hotels, writing out directions to all of the events...I am on overload right now. I got all my kids clothes resolved, have to make hair cuts for all of them, get all my appts and clothes set. Hubby basically has to get on his tux, get his hair cut and show up (and yes, pay for it!) but he is not concerned about color schemes or food choices or flowers...which in a way I am grateful for. I think he will pick who sits where. This is my wedding for my sons, since I will likely be marginalized when they get married...so I am taking it all the way now. Putting it all down here it is so much work, I am sorry to jack but appreciate it as my hubby does not care and I cannot really tell anyone in the area as I want some element of surprise!

 

[miraclesrule]

style="WIDTH: 99%; HEIGHT: 310px">Date: 8/5/2008 9:47:31 PM
Author: diamondfan
I am more spiritual than religious, but this was important to my hubby.
I did not have a bat mitzvah and find it all overwhelming!

Families kind of suck. I am so annoyed with some of mine right now.

They are becoming like weddings, even worse, as most weddings you are not trying to keep 75 to 100 kids who have a tendency to be spoiled and jaded entertained for 5 hours, plus do something the adults like. I have three spaces for my party. Cocktails in one space, decorated in brown, cream and apple green with some gold, but it still will have a streamlined feel. Everyone will then go up to the adult room, with seated dinner and large orchestra, this room will have a tent constructed within it, and will have white parsons tables, no table clothes, with aqua blue and apple green and gold with a touch of chocolate to tie it into the cocktail room and the invite, which was chocolate brown, aqua and cream paper, with chocolate ink. Each course will be on a different plate, and the flowers will be all white and green, including peonies, hydrangeas, orchids and roses. I told the party planner to fill tall vessels on the bar with green apples and green pears...there will be a truss and the band will be elevated and there will be green and blue lights. The bar is white and very funky, it can go from blue to green to white and back again! I want a semi New York feel, no fluff, but still elegant, but felt all white was overdone and I wanted to bring in a bit of color! The kids will be with us during the movie I am having made about my son (a 5 minute film about him in the Ferris Beuller vein, which is so my son!) and then he will enter, we will show the montage and then do a short candle lighting, like three candles, since that stuff can drag the energy down. The cake place I found is amazing, her stuff is incredible. I will do the cake in brown icing, cream icing, and use aqua, apple green and gold on it. I plan to leave the large plasma screens up and do a wallpaper (montage without music that can be glanced at during the night along with live feed of people dancing etc)...the kids will then go to another room with a club like setting, couches, light up cube tables, hi top tables, a dj, a buffet, a party emcee and tons of great stuff to make and participate in. I have been planning this for THREE YEARS with the planner, it is just a level of detail that amazes me, I am now deciding on all the stuff for the kids bags, plus bags for the out of towners in their hotels, writing out directions to all of the events...I am on overload right now. I got all my kids clothes resolved, have to make hair cuts for all of them, get all my appts and clothes set. Hubby basically has to get on his tux, get his hair cut and show up (and yes, pay for it!) but he is not concerned about color schemes or food choices or flowers...which in a way I am grateful for. I think he will pick who sits where. This is my wedding for my sons, since I will likely be marginalized when they get married...so I am taking it all the way now. Putting it all down here it is so much work, I am sorry to jack but appreciate it as my hubby does not care and I cannot really tell anyone in the area as I want some element of surprise!

OMG, I am so glad you did put it all down here!! It sounds absolutely amazing. I can completely empathize and appreciate the amount of effort involved. I just did a small adult wedding for 140 in five months and I felt like I was run over by a truck, both emotionally and physically. I was exhausting. Albeit, I also had so much office politics and drama in the workplace occurring that was affecting my ability to focus and I sitll don''t have a bathtub, but I don''t think that people appreciate how much time and effort and coordinating and for me, cost is involved in planning an event like this. The men for sure don''t have a clue, now would many of us want them too.

My daughter let her DH design the STD''s. I didn''t want to critique them, but when they arrived, almost everyone thought the postcard was a 25% off coupon for dance lessons and tossed them.

But he worked really hard on them and now I have one on my fridge. Other than that, you''re right...they pick out their tux, cut their hair and brush their teeth. Then they just wait to find out where they are supposed to go.

The colors you picked are awesome together. The kids room will be amazing. My friend had a silent montage flashing on two large screens at her wedding and it was really nice to look at it. I think there was at least one photo in the montage that included each person in attendance. So it was fun to wait around for it to come up again, and say "See, remember that time when we took that" Or "OMG, there you are Rhonda, oh I loved your hair like that" And Rhonda would say "What?" And then everyone starts looking at the screens so they don''t miss their picture. I love that you doing that. The kids are going to love it.

I love your idea with the bar too. Too much white is well...too much white. Spice it up!! Man, I wish I was attending that party. And DF, I don''t think you will be marginalized when your sons grow up. I think they will choose women who honor you and will be grateful for your input into their weddings. They may not show it before or during the wedding planning, but I have found that they sure show it afterward

Your three year dream will be coming true very shortly my dear friend. And I hope you enjoy every single moment of it.

 

[FrekeChild]

This has nothing to do with anything really.

I''m grumpy. Bleh.

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/6/2008 12:21:27 AM
Author: FrekeChild
This has nothing to do with anything really.

I''m grumpy. Bleh.

Well, if it''s any consolation...I''m lonely, bored, and procrastinating. I just keep staring at the pictures on the blog. I totally know what nate is up to with those photos (i love that he never capitalizes anything, even in emails).

He is going to side by side them with the groom and my daughter. I know they did a lot of walking away from each other, looking angry photos. I don''t remember. I was trying to breathe and have a drink and they only got one hour alone with the team. i am freaking out at the money I just spent on the photo album.

I would rather just be grumpy. On a good note, I have been losing some weight. When I sit at my computer all day on PS and MySpace and phototagging, I don''t eat. When I sit at my computer all day at work, I eat just to have a reason to get away from my computer at work. This I don''t understand.

Maybe if I am lucky, now that I am officially single, I will meet a man. I need to get ...well.....you know.

 

[FrekeChild]

The pics are absolutely brilliant. I''m grumpy because we were planning on playing tennis for a couple of hours today, and it ended up storming like crazy. Which is hasn''t done really in two weeks. And it chooses tonight to POUR. Flash flood pour. So I have too much energy, won''t be able to sleep well, and I''m grumpy.

And I''m looking at stupid wedding stuff (that I really should not think about until I have me some bling) that''s totally frustrating me. $1,100 with next to no amenities, and an amazing chapel or $1,350 with a ton of amenities and an ok chapel? I even took a screenshot of my dang spreadsheet that has it all laid out, so I can send it to various people and find out what they''d do just looking at prices and amenities.

I went shopping at Ann Taylor Loft today to return a shirt that flattened my chest (when a shirt flattens DDs, there is a serious problem) and ended up buying two dresses and a cute top. So that brings my purchases from ATL in the past week and a half to: one green silk strapless top, one green cowlneck top, one light blue halterneck top, one blue spaghetti strapped dress with a ruffle on the bottom, a one shoulder top, and a black and pink halterneck dress with another ruffle. Plus some black yoga pants, and a black zip up hoodie my mom bought me, but not from ATL.

Shopping actually made me grumpier because I have no where to wear all of my cute clothes.

Oh, and BF told me today that it''s not seeming likely that we''ll be able to go to Vegas this year. So that makes me sad.

See? I''m grumpy. And I just got done eating a half pound of strawberries to avoid eating the ice cream in my freezer.

And procrastinating is GREAT! I LOVE to procrastinate!!!!

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/6/2008 1:05:16 AM
Author: FrekeChild
The pics are absolutely brilliant. I''m grumpy because we were planning on playing tennis for a couple of hours today, and it ended up storming like crazy. Which is hasn''t done really in two weeks. And it chooses tonight to POUR. Flash flood pour. So I have too much energy, won''t be able to sleep well, and I''m grumpy.

And I''m looking at stupid wedding stuff (that I really should not think about until I have me some bling) that''s totally frustrating me. $1,100 with next to no amenities, and an amazing chapel or $1,350 with a ton of amenities and an ok chapel? I even took a screenshot of my dang spreadsheet that has it all laid out, so I can send it to various people and find out what they''d do just looking at prices and amenities.

I went shopping at Ann Taylor Loft today to return a shirt that flattened my chest (when a shirt flattens DDs, there is a serious problem) and ended up buying two dresses and a cute top. So that brings my purchases from ATL in the past week and a half to: one green silk strapless top, one green cowlneck top, one light blue halterneck top, one blue spaghetti strapped dress with a ruffle on the bottom, a one shoulder top, and a black and pink halterneck dress with another ruffle. Plus some black yoga pants, and a black zip up hoodie my mom bought me, but not from ATL.

Shopping actually made me grumpier because I have no where to wear all of my cute clothes.

Oh, and BF told me today that it''s not seeming likely that we''ll be able to go to Vegas this year. So that makes me sad.

See? I''m grumpy. And I just got done eating a half pound of strawberries to avoid eating the ice cream in my freezer.

And procrastinating is GREAT! I LOVE to procrastinate!!!!

wow, I envy your shopping skills. I just don''t have the ability. I used to love the old days when they would place full on outfits on a mannaquin ala What Not to Wear and I could just buy the whole ensemble. Now, I actually have to put things together. Blech. I have my 30 yr reunion this month, a business trip with golf outing next week, Vegas in Sept to go see "Love, and a wedding in October, and I have no idea what the hell I am going to wear for any of it. Blech. I need a personal shopper. Actually, I need a decorator and designer too....I am lost in this house. I have no motivation.

At least you have your BF and you can cook and you will have places to wear your amazing clothes. You an always visit San Diego and go clubbing wiht my daughter and my niece. They would love that.

 

[miraclesrule]

And I think your BF is just trying to throw you off so that he can surprise you. That''s what I would do. I even did this with my daughter when she thought her husband was going to propose on their trip. I totally made her think that he wasn''t by telling I knew what he was planning so don''t get your hopes up...but I did this in a subtle way on the phone to her friend knowing my daughter was listening. I knew all along that he was going to propose on the trip. So, take it with a grain of salt. He just wants it to be a surprise. That''s my hunch.

 

[FrekeChild]

I''ll come to SD and be your personal shopper! And decorator! I love doing that stuff. I like to think I''m good at it. I thought you were going to wear the olive-y green dress to the wedding in October?

I am in love with some shoes....gold Steve Maddens. Found them at Dillards. BF hates gold shoes, and normally so do I, but these...I heart them. I''ve decided I should totally wear them with my green silk shirt, and black slacks. I think it''d be pretty cute.

Anyway, if you want, you can always post stuff and I''ll tell you what to wear with it.

Or just describe the events and I''ll find stuff for you. I love it.

I think I should make BF take me out to dinner this weekend...I have SO MANY cute shirts that I haven''t worn yet, because of all of the sweatshirt and Croc wearing at school.

I need a job where I can wear nice clothes...like a personal shopper!

I''ve never really been clubbing, believe it or not. Bar hopping...a little. I''m such a homebody. This is partly why we always have fresh baked goods! But I bet clubbing in SD would be awesome! Minus the fact that I''d be the ugly one...

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/6/2008 2:35:31 AM
Author: FrekeChild
I''ll come to SD and be your personal shopper! And decorator! I love doing that stuff. I like to think I''m good at it. I thought you were going to wear the olive-y green dress to the wedding in October?

I am in love with some shoes....gold Steve Maddens. Found them at Dillards. BF hates gold shoes, and normally so do I, but these...I heart them. I''ve decided I should totally wear them with my green silk shirt, and black slacks. I think it''d be pretty cute.

Anyway, if you want, you can always post stuff and I''ll tell you what to wear with it.

Or just describe the events and I''ll find stuff for you. I love it.

I think I should make BF take me out to dinner this weekend...I have SO MANY cute shirts that I haven''t worn yet, because of all of the sweatshirt and Croc wearing at school.

I need a job where I can wear nice clothes...like a personal shopper!

I''ve never really been clubbing, believe it or not. Bar hopping...a little. I''m such a homebody. This is partly why we always have fresh baked goods! But I bet clubbing in SD would be awesome! Minus the fact that I''d be the ugly one...

You can come to San Deigo anytime. It would be fun. And you could be my personal shopper and designer. I suck at it.

Turn out, she is having a black tie event. I have to wear a black dress. I have to exchange one of my daughter''s BM dresses today. It was defective, which we didn''t notice until she put in on right before the wedding. So, I am going to get it exchanged and then wear that one to the wedding. I don''t know when I get to wear my green dress. Hopefully at a holiday party/function this year. Or perhaps another wedding. It is such a cute dress on me.

I am glad that my job doesn''t require nice clothes and pantyhose anymore. I was so over that. Yet, I still need some nice business casual and some nice casual clothes. I have to go on a golf outing next weekend at a defense attorney conference and I have no clue what I am going to wear. I need to find something asap.

I need to get SDL to help me out again.

And you would not be the ugly one. Stop that you dork.

 

[FrekeChild]

I have seen pictures of your daughter (the model) and your niece (the should be model) I''m an ugly duckling next to those two!

I think you should take a pic of you wearing the green dress. I want to see it on you. What does the BM dress look like? And what shoes are you going to wear with it?

I would love to wear nice clothes, although when I worked at my dad''s I remember it got pretty tiring having to figure out what to wear everyday-but I have so many beautiful pairs of shoes, with no where to wear them, and it I worked somewhere nice, I could wear them there! Besides, I need to wear all of my shoes at least once-BF says that if I haven''t worn a pair of shoes at least once by the time we have to move, I have to get rid of them. So I need to go to some nice places. (The problem is, he''s part of the problem! He buys me lots of nice shoes and then I never really get a chance to wear them.)

I want to see you and SDL together. I think it''d be pretty amusing. But hard for men, because you''re both so beautiful!

You never did say how tall you are! So, spill it!

 

[diamondfan]

Miracles, all the food talk is making me hungry!

On my computer, part of your post is doubled so it is writing on top of other writing and not clear. Is there any way to resend it or something so I can actually read it?!

 

[miraclesrule]

Whatever UglyDuckingSchumuckling... You have never seen them without makeup. I will post one of my daughter before they started working on her...

I will tyr to remember to bring my camera, assuming Ms. Michelle posts back in here so we can set up a time!!!!

SDL, where are you??

Maybe that will get her attention.

I spent all day in a very unvacation like mode. I had to go through a gazillion hoops to get a refund from Macy''s for the initial Nicole Miller BM dresses we bought. Because we used one of the BM''s Macy''s card, she had to get to a zero balance first, and then she had to be there, so she had to leave work, and then it took them nearly an hour to verify that she had a zero balance and to find enough cash to pay us. I never realized how little people use cash these days. It was surreal. So at about 4 p.m. I finally had my cash back and I got there at 2 p.m. That was after I needed to get to a birthday lunch with the workplace buddies for same said BM. My daughter married one of my staffs brothers.

So, I didn''t at all feel like I was away from work. As it turns out, tomorrow our parent company President is having a Townhall Meeting with our corporate office so I need to be there for the Q&A and then the free lunch. I will make sure I don''t charged a vacation day. Then on Friday, my former boss wanted to meet in La Jolla for lunch but it is our annual work BBQ and everyone wants me there. Gosh, that would make it sort of not feel like a vacation, either way. So, I figure I might as well do both. Push up lunch with her, and go to the Luau themed BBQ at the park. Then the next day is my 30- yr reunion at the beach. I have no idea what to wear. Thank the football gods that the first pre-season Charger game is this Sunday. I never worry about what to wear to a Charger game.

I still haven''t picked out bathroom sinks or called a contractor. I''m useless. I only know how to work, for everything else I need to delegate. Oh, and it turns out that I will have to call the corporate office for Cache...but that is too long of a story and I don''t want to bore you. I need something positive to focus on right now. Like the fact that I could be shopping with the wad of cash I just placed in my purse. Oh that reminds me, I need to transfer some money right now back into my equity line...remember the equity line payment for the venue??? I finally got that back from my daughter today. Phew...at least I am not feeling super poor like I was yesterday afternoon.

I think I might get to wear the green dress for a FUNdraising event in November, but probably not. I could wear it to the "Love" show in Vegas, but the friend I will be with doesn''t dress up for anything. He wears jeans and a Grateful Dead t-shirt most of the time. I wonder if his daughter will be dressed up? Anyway, if I am lucky, my daughter''s friend who lives in Vegas and is getting married there in October, will have a fancy schmancy rehearsal dinner. If she does, I can wear it there.

Next time I do my hair, which needs a cut as bad as my front lawn does, I will put it on and take a picture for you. I need a new camera too. Blech...I am crankypants tonight.

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/6/2008 9:44:52 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady

Date: 8/5/2008 9:09:01 PM
Author: miraclesrule
Who has the best food? You know what I am craving right now. I am a fiend for the thin crust cilantro pesto appetizer pizza from BJ''s. Have you ever tasted those? OMG, they are to die for. So, if we don''t want to waste a lot of gas, we can even meet at Grossmont Center, but if we do a mall, that is horrible one. Although they do also have that restaurant that serves the most wicked caramel apple cheesecake on a Lorna Doone crust. How come I can never remember the name of that restaurant next to WalMart??

Or, if it''s 90 degrees, we can alwasy do Parkway Plaza. I haven''t been there in ages, and I love Pat and Oscar''s and Applebee''s and their Japanese restaurant.

Although, I love UTC too. See, this is why you have to chose. I am really bad at choosing. It''s why I still have all white walls.

I love Sammy''s Woodfired bbq chicken pizza with cilantro. OMS YUMMO!!!!

I have to do salad though.. I started back on Weight Watchers today. I really need to behave. If we go to Mission Valley, we could do Sammy''s and I could get a salad there. Do you know the one by the Lazy Boy store and Maggie Moo Moo''s? Its up from the Hooters..

Oh, there you are!!! I didn''t see this post, so wierd...I didn''t see Diamond Fans either. Maybe we were posting at the same time.

I

Sammy''s!! I haven''t been there in ages. I would love to meet there. Maybe by then, my hair extension color will be in and I can pick them up right behind Hooters. The Hair place didn''t call me when the ones I wanted came in, so they are holding the longer ones and will give me the same price as the shorter ones, if they don''t come in before next Thursday. I just don''t like the long ones they have that match my hair, because they have a lot of gray in it. Not super noticable, but more than my hair has so

. I don''t really think I will use them a lot, I just think they are nice to have when you want to add volume to thin hair like mine.

What time do you want to meet?

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/6/2008 9:50:57 PM
Author: diamondfan
Miracles, all the food talk is making me hungry!

On my computer, part of your post is doubled so it is writing on top of other writing and not clear. Is there any way to resend it or something so I can actually read it?!

This post??? This was my response to yours....

OMG, I am so glad you did put it all down here!! It sounds absolutely amazing. I can completely empathize and appreciate the amount of effort involved. I just did a small adult wedding for 140 in five months and I felt like I was run over by a truck, both emotionally and physically. I was exhausting. Albeit, I also had so much office politics and drama in the workplace occurring that was affecting my ability to focus and I sitll don''t have a bathtub, but I don''t think that people appreciate how much time and effort and coordinating and for me, cost is involved in planning an event like this. The men for sure don''t have a clue, now would many of us want them too.

My daughter let her DH design the STD''s. I didn''t want to critique them, but when they arrived, almost everyone thought the postcard was a 25% off coupon for dance lessons and tossed them. But he worked really hard on them and now I have one on my fridge. Other than that, you''re right...they pick out their tux, cut their hair and brush their teeth. Then they just wait to find out where they are supposed to go.

The colors you picked are awesome together. The kids room will be amazing. My friend had a silent montage flashing on two large screens at her wedding and it was really nice to look at it. I think there was at least one photo in the montage that included each person in attendance. So it was fun to wait around for it to come up again, and say "See, remember that time when we took that" Or "OMG, there you are Rhonda, oh I loved your hair like that" And Rhonda would say "What?" And then everyone starts looking at the screens so they don''t miss their picture. I love that you''re doing that. The kids are going to love it.

I love your idea with the bar too. Too much white is well...too much white. Spice it up!! Man, I wish I was attending that party. And DF, I don''t think you will be marginalized when your sons grow up. I think they will choose women who honor you and will be grateful for your input into their weddings. They may not show it before or during the wedding planning, but I have found that they sure show it afterward

Your three year dream will be coming true very shortly my dear friend. And I hope you enjoy every single moment of it. !!


ETA: I didn''t reread this, so I hope there weren''t too many typos. You know the no edit Who''s Who...okay I did just find one that I fixed, but I will stop it....

 

[diamondfan]

Oh, I am so jealous the two of you get to meet!!!

That is too funny about his save the date. I get birthday invites for my youngest from these party places and they send a postcard. If it is not getting stuck in a magazine and overlooked, I toss it 9 out of 10 times. Men do not always think about the details in something like that, I am sure he worked hard and one hates to burst a guy''s bubble is he is trying...but for sure the menfolk do NOT tend to know much about all of this. Just yesterday, I hired the cake lady, organized valet for the night of the bar mitzvah, hired security to make sure the kids stay out of trouble in the building since sometimes a group of kids have been known to be destructive at these things...I still have to have my planner do some flowers for my Fri night dessert party and make sure I have napkins etc...I even have to think about towels for the bathroom at the temple as I refuse to have those nasty paper towels. That level of detail makes my husband insane. He claims he does not care but boy he does notice it being in place at the right time.

I did a great save the date, with a fabulous photo of my son done in a sepia wash, he is so handsome I wanted to show him off. The photo was the center of the save the date, mounted on chocolate brown heavy stock. It did not get put in an envelope but had four flaps which folded over to close it, and then the flaps were sealed with a monogrammed square sticky thing. Each flap gave some of the party information, and it was printed in cream ink on the brown paper. My calligrapher duplicated the font (a block style) hand lettered on the front, and even duplicated the motif I used on the seal to divide the monogram from our address. People are still talking about it.

The invite is also chocolate brown with aqua hand lettering. I felt , except for a wedding, that I love a colored envelope. It stands out, and does not look like something to be tossed out. Nowadays I get ecru envelopes with hand lettering and they are promotions and sales and things, but they look like real mail, and I just loved the idea of something coming in the mail that stands out...what is that chocolate brown envelope? I also did a custom stamp with aqua and brown and ivory on it, again, nothing the post office had looked that great.

I love details and so the planning is so important to me. I know what my kids like. My son loves Dylan''s Candy bar in NYC so at the end of the night, I have a huge candy thing being set up, with huge containers filled with all types of candy. Everyone leaving will get what they want, and it will go in bags with his logo on them. I have chocolate brown hoodies with his logo embroidered in aqua on the front. I have them going in bags that are shopping bags with an almost cloth like texture, again with his logo. Of course my party planner is helping me but I am really into details and have the experience of having done one before. Same venue, same time of year, same band and caterer, but this son is somewhat different than my older son (he is more of a ham and a daredevil, my oldest is not at all) so I wanted to try to make it so different.

 

[diamondfan]

it won''t let me edit for some reason...

your daughter''s wedding was stunning, and befitting her loveliness. You single handedly pulled it off and should be so proud, you gave her a day she will not forget. You should be applauded and I hope she gave you your due deference for all that you did for her! Love the divorce clause, that is a riot.

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/6/2008 10:09:36 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady

Date: 8/6/2008 10:08:21 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady

Date: 8/6/2008 10:02:35 PM
Author: miraclesrule

Date: 8/6/2008 9:44:52 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady
I love Sammy''s Woodfired bbq chicken pizza with cilantro. OMS YUMMO!!!!

I have to do salad though.. I started back on Weight Watchers today. I really need to behave. If we go to Mission Valley, we could do Sammy''s and I could get a salad there. Do you know the one by the Lazy Boy store and Maggie Moo Moo''s? Its up from the Hooters..

Oh, there you are!!! I didn''t see this post, so wierd...I didn''t see Diamond Fans either. Maybe we were posting at the same time.

I

Sammy''s!! I haven''t been there in ages. I would love to meet there. Maybe by then, my hair extension color will be in and I can pick them up right behind Hooters. The Hair place didn''t call me when the ones I wanted came in, so they are holding the longer ones and will give me the same price as the shorter ones, if they don''t come in before next Thursday. I just don''t like the long ones they have that match my hair, because they have a lot of gray in it. Not super noticable, but more than my hair has so

. I don''t really think I will use them a lot, I just think they are nice to have when you want to add volume to thin hair like mine.

What time do you want to meet?

How bout we meet at 1 on Tuesday? Then uh.. maybe we could go over to FV orrrr.. DSW?

BTW.. I work until 0330.. so.. don''t mind any bags under my eyes... I should be able to sleep until 11.

Oy vey, that is a late one....err early one. Oh well, at least you will get to sleep in!! I''m looking forward to hearing about how work is going. I bet you will have some good stories!! DSW!! Oh good lord, pullleeezeeee.... I am a shoe failure.

 

[FrekeChild]

SDL!!! I''ll go shoe shopping with you!!!!!!

And DF, do you want to plan my wedding for me. I''m not even engaged and getting super frustrated....

Miracles....You crack me up! I do love the divorce clause. I wanna hear the Cache story. I''ve never bought anything there. Never had a reason too I guess. Everything I''ve tried on there did nothing for my chest....

I''m kind of a crankypants tonight too....

 

[miraclesrule]

Diamond Fan. You''re killlllling me! Every little detail sounds fantastic

I love that in a person. I swear you better send us the newspaper article or magazine article that discusses the "event of the year" that you are creating.

Everything sounds exquisite. I wish I was 13 years old right now.

Speaking of details. I was telling Freke in a prior post that I had to return a BM dress at Cache because it was defective. It was the MOH''s and the dress looked exactly like the Nicole Miller ones that we had purchased in Gold at $430 each. The gold looked hideous on my niece and it was too long. The size 4 was for the MOH and it was too big.

So a few days before the wedding when we were trying on other dresses that we ordered, which didn''t work for the third BM, we stopped in Cache to see if they had any earrings for the BM''s and we found the same dresses in Black for only $178 each. They fit better and were shorter when my daughter tried the 4 on. My daughter is left handed and only viewed her left backside.

So we bought three and rushed back to work. Then on the day of the wedding when the MOH put her dress on, she said "MOB, I think my dress is defective, look at the right side, it''s missing it''s ruching on the second gather" Sure as hell, the ruching was coming from the vertical center seam in four places on the left side and only three on the right. It was so obvious. I said "Oh yeah, that''s wierd...oh well, I can take it back and exchange it before I have to wear it to Becca''s wedding". So today I was looking at the BM pictures in the photo my Mom took at I swore that I could see the same thing on my nieces dress. So I stopped by my Mom''s where my niece is staying right now and looked at her BM and sure as crap, it was like that on her dress to. So I get

Because now I realize that it was a purposeful design flaw by Cache, probably to avoid being accused of knocking off a Nicole Miller design. But even then, that style of dress has been around for the last two years now and even Excape at Macy''s has the same design and their ruching isn''t jacked up.

So I went to Cache today in F.V. to show them even though we bought that at UTC, the mall in La Jolla. Of course the manager told me that they couldn''t take them back because they had been worn. I reminded her that we had no choice. Had we known that this was the way they designed them when we bought them, which you can''t tell unless you can see your entire backside, which I can''t do unless I am Linda Blair....then one would never know, until someone who is looking at your arse tells you or you look to your right in the mirror.

The salesgirl was horrified when she realized it, because she bought one too! I bet she gets to return her dress. I am not going to be able to wear a dress to a wedding when I know that someone looking at my booty...a woman no doubt, because a man won''t likely notice it unless he''s gay and detailed

. But you get my point....I will be missing a ruch on my right buttcheek.

I took the two dresses to a seamstress who makes wedding dresses and she wrote out an explanation of why the whole dress would need to be deconstructed and put back together and shortened to fix the obvious design flaw and the price to fix them. The seamstress told me that they can''t really be fixed. I don''t want my money back, I just want them to take the dresses back and give me credit. Barring that, I will have to see them on ebay, although I don''t think I can do that in good faith, even though all the dresses of this style are sewn the same jacked up way. I was shocked. I mean, really? For $178. Maybe if I paid $70 bucks I could understand it.

Because the dress is so ruched, you can''t tell unless you spread the dress out and point it out. I have had really wonky dress karma for this wedding. Why don''t people care about details anymore????

Thank you Diamond Fan, for caring about the details.

 

[diamondfan]

Freke, as your adopted mom of course!

I admit, Miracles, to being a tad anal retentive. Hubby says, who cares or notices that stuff? I DO!!!!! Therefore I focus on it and make it nice. For the dessert party at my home, I am doing celadon and french blue cocktail napkins with his initials on them in gold for my living room and dining room, which are mostly pale blue, pale green, cream, gold and rose. For my library and downstairs area, I am doing chocolate and cream napkins with gold, as those rooms have burgundy and chocolate and terracotta as their colorschemes. Now hubby might think I am nuts, BUT that night, he will notice that it looks nice and blends and is tasteful. Those are the types of things I notice. Silly maybe, but I always appreciate someone having paid attention to detail. It is a bit tiring but thankfully I have a good party planner and have a lot of good ideas myself. I will be happy when it is over though!!!

 

[FrekeChild]

Dude. Not. Cool.

So what are you going to do?

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/6/2008 11:09:38 PM
Author: SanDiegoLady

Date: 8/6/2008 10:33:58 PM
Author: miraclesrule

Oy vey, that is a late one....err early one. Oh well, at least you will get to sleep in!! I''m looking forward to hearing about how work is going. I bet you will have some good stories!! DSW!! Oh good lord, pullleeezeeee.... I am a shoe failure.

I know.. is that going to work for you? I started on the ''actual'' phones this past week.. not just alarm calls starting today.. its exciting. I love it.

OMS you cannot be a shoe failure.. I will help, YAY!!

10-4

Over...

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/6/2008 11:11:33 PM
Author: diamondfan
Freke, as your adopted mom of course!

I admit, Miracles, to being a tad anal retentive. Hubby says, who cares or notices that stuff? I DO!!!!! Therefore I focus on it and make it nice. For the dessert party at my home, I am doing celadon and french blue cocktail napkins with his initials on them in gold for my living room and dining room, which are mostly pale blue, pale green, cream, gold and rose. For my library and downstairs area, I am doing chocolate and cream napkins with gold, as those rooms have burgundy and chocolate and terracotta as their colorschemes. Now hubby might think I am nuts, BUT that night, he will notice that it looks nice and blends and is tasteful. Those are the types of things I notice. Silly maybe, but I always appreciate someone having paid attention to detail. It is a bit tiring but thankfully I have a good party planner and have a lot of good ideas myself. I will be happy when it is over though!!!

Um, I think that is a good thing. It''s about the only nice thing that my new boss wrote in my "performance eval". My "minute" attention to the details that most people overlook. I can''t help it...it''s like a compulsion with me. It drives my daughter crazy.

That''s what separates the mediocre from the pursuit of perfection in my opinion. It is always why I win my cases at work. I micromanage our lawyers because it''s my JOB! They are not used to it though, and I ruflle a lot of feathers. But I am very left brained. I am only creative in a left brained sense....if that makes any sense. For all creative right brained stuff, I need a right brained person. I am heavy on logic, visual symmetry, common sense and rationality. I can tend to overlook feelings as a result.

 

[diamondfan]

I am a lefty, does that make me right brained? Not sure.

The funny thing is I am anal and detail oriented but I am also almost too tuned into to other''s feelings and get lost in there somehow. I am a very guilt oriented person as well, and get sucked into things because I feel too guilty not to. I want to please, it takes A LOT to make me not want to. I definitely like symmetry, it causes me issues sometimes as I think it can be predictable and boring. Our architect is cracking up because I always notice asymmetry and it takes a lot for me to let it go, and make something more visually interesting. I am also here at the beach making these Troll bead bracelets, and finally am not having to have two of every bead so that once I have a center bead I can now let similar but not identical beads co exist on my bracelet. Last year I was a symmetry nut, and the lady who owns the store is so happy this year that I am not, though my bracelets last year were gorgeous if I do say so myself.

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/6/2008 11:17:56 PM
Author: FrekeChild
Dude. Not. Cool.

So what are you going to do?

Not sure yet. :::::heavy sigh:::::::

The steamstress told me to write to corporate, but said that if they didn''t offer a refund or credit that she would simply take a picture of the front and back of the dress and post them on ebay. It''s not like I am trying to pawn off defective or altered goods, it is exactly what they would get if they bought it from Cache online or in store.

And I know that those dresses are flying off the racks. It was hell to find an 8 if we were going to need one for my niece. There were none in San Diego and we called and had one ready to overnight from GA if needed. But the 6 fit her. It is really stretchy and very flattering. Much more so than the Nicole Miller, especially for really thin or petite women.

I am going to try the corporate route. If that doesn''t get me anywhere, than I suppose we can sell them. My niece says she doesn''t care, she still loves the dress and will wear it. The other BM says she will still wear hers, because she can''t see her bum. I am apparently the only one that cares enough to say "Oh hell, no..I am not going to have an obvious lopsided bum!!"

Freake,
It would be like that one booty shot of me handing my daughter off. Can you imagine if the ruching that is coming laterally off the back center seam was missing in one spot only on the right side? That is how obvious it is...it is the same kind of dress from the back, just tea length and full back with cap sleeves. My dress was a Cache dress as well, but I bought it for a friends wedding last year....and she just had her first baby boy last Friday!!! She also got married the same place as my daughter. So if I have bad dress karma, at least it''s good for baby karma.

It''s funny when even store manager''s have to state the obvious. She was not happy she was in that position. She said that she couldn''t authorize anything anyway, that we had to go back to the location where we purchased them. I told her the manager was just going to say the same thing she did, so why drive all the way up north again. I will just write corporate. She was nice enough to give me the manager''s name and tell me what days and times she works. She has probably already called her to tell her. Whatever. No lopsided booty for me...no no no....

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/6/2008 11:36:40 PM
Author: diamondfan
I am a lefty, does that make me right brained? Not sure.

The funny thing is I am anal and detail oriented but I am also almost too tuned into to other''s feelings and get lost in there somehow. I am a very guilt oriented person as well, and get sucked into things because I feel too guilty not to. I want to please, it takes A LOT to make me not want to. I definitely like symmetry, it causes me issues sometimes as I think it can be predictable and boring. Our architect is cracking up because I always notice asymmetry and it takes a lot for me to let it go, and make something more visually interesting. I am also here at the beach making these Troll bead bracelets, and finally am not having to have two of every bead so that once I have a center bead I can now let similar but not identical beads co exist on my bracelet. Last year I was a symmetry nut, and the lady who owns the store is so happy this year that I am not, though my bracelets last year were gorgeous if I do say so myself.

That''s so funny you say that. When the San Diego Chargers finally made it to the playoffs in the early 90''s, my daughter and I were making our own Charger barrettes out of of felt and flat foam and glue guns. We also bought some beads and would sit at night and string beads after dinner. They become so popular in the office and at her school because Charger fever was everwhere. We started selling them for $3 and then $5 a piece. Everyone wanted them.

I was as anal as every. We mixed them up visually, but I still had to have the same number of white vs. blue vs yellow beads on the strand. My daughter was like "Mom, stop it!! We are not going to make money if it takes you forever to string it perfect!!" After a while we starting selling them as "Charger Rosary''s" That made everyone laugh and we sold even more.

Awww, those were good times!! I still have one of the cheesy Charger barettes. Probably a rosary or two as well. lolol

 

[ladypirate]

Miracles, I can''t believe that they wouldn''t take the dresses back! That is ridiculous. I guess that''s a reason to not shop at Cache.

DF, your son''s bar mitzvah sounds AMAZING. I''m surprised you don''t do party planning for a living.

Freke, I don''t know what it was about yesterday, but I was a grumpy mcgrumpy-pants as well. Something in the air, maybe. Hope you''re feeling less stressed.