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Round Halo Lover

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Hi Everyone,

I was wondering if many of you plan to give your fiance an engagement present when you get engaged?

I know some of my friends who are married that bought their husbands a fairly decent wedding present but I''m not sure it''s the norm to buy an extravagant engagement present.

I think I would like to buy my boyf a pressie to mark the occasion of our engagement.....What are your thoughts? If you did, what did you buy? Thanks Ladies xx
 
I discussed this with my boyfriend, and he said he would like a nice suit for an engagement gift, so that''s what I''m getting him.
 
Mine got nada, but I also paid for half of my ring. His e-present was me. FOREVER.
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I felt the same way as you - I'm getting this amazingly gorgeous ring... what's in it for him? (Apart from me, of course
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) So I threw my own ideas of a "suitable" engagement present for him out of the window, gave him a budget, and told him I would buy him whatever he wanted, anything at all.

He chose a computer game!
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And I've never seen him so happy...

I say, decide how much you want to spend, ask him what he wants and get it for him. The guy deserves a treat.

ETA: I also let him know before we were engaged that I was planning to do this, and encouraged him to browse for the gift he wanted. This worked great because he was just as excited as me to get engaged! (Hopefully that wasn't the only reason though).
 
Initially, I was going to do as sunnyd did and pay for half of my ring. I thought this was only fair; we''re a team, right?

Then SO had a change of heart and decided that he wanted to pay for the ring himself. I then spent some time pondering what would be an enduring gift of similar value to my e-ring (so we had the same savings goal). This is going to sound so weird, but the thing he talked about most was having a backyard shed (a.k.a a ''man cave'') with a workbench and tools because he loves working on projects. At the moment, he has a great set-up at his parents'' place and goes over there when he needs to get dirty
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Anyway, I suggested the shed idea. He wasn''t too keen at first but then really warmed to the idea (I think because a few timelines fell into place so it was all more concrete). Although it''s not a typical engagement gift, I''d like to think that it shows that I support his hobbies/obsessions as much as he supports mine!

So to cut a long story short, I think an engagement gift is a lovely idea, RHL. I''m sure your man would really appreciate your thoughtfulness. Ditto also to LilyKat- it''s not a bad thing that they''re a little bit more excited about getting engaged either
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It''s a nice idea, but since I just got engaged a week after Christmas, and since I spoiled him a bit at Christmas, and since I am going to paying for a lot of the wedding and need to be saving money, I don''t think I''ll be getting him a gift. I took him out to dinner at a nice restaurant on New Year''s Day though to celebrate.
I did, however, just order him a gift to give to him on our wedding day - the frog prince cufflinks from Red Envelope. He wears suits regularly and has several french cuff shirts, so I think he''ll get a kick out of them, and he can wear them on the wedding day. I was half-tempted to give them to him now, but I think it will be cute on the wedding day.
 
Thanks for the replies ladies.

I have to admit I was chuckling at some of the comments, you gals have a great sense of humor!!

That's so cute about the 'man cave'. My guy gets sooo excited when he has some DIY to do. He's so cute, he roots out all his tools, measuring tapes, ladders etc and of course, the obligatory 'pen behind the ear' for easy access when taking measurements. It brings a smile to my face thinking about it now. What would we do without our men huh!!!
 
Date: 1/6/2010 5:47:55 PM
Author: Round Halo Lover
Thanks for the replies ladies.


I have to admit I was chuckling at some of the comments, you gals have a great sense of humor!!


That''s so cute about the ''man cave''. My guy gets sooo excited when he has some DIY to do. He''s so cute, he roots out all his tools, measuring tapes, ladders etc and of course, the obligatory ''pen behind the ear'' for easy access when taking measurements. It brings a smile to my face thinking about it now. What would we do without our men huh!!!
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Ahh, M does the pen behind the ear and nearly pokes my eye out everytime he kisses me!! Watch out for that ladies!!

Also, I totally love the idea of getting him a gift for the engagement. I feel like I would want it to be a complete suprise though. Don''t know if I could pull that off, but I could certainly try. :)
 
I paid for one third of my ring, which I feel was more for me to get what I wanted than a present to him. But I did give him a customized Steelers Jersey. I''m no football fan but her sure is. He was pretty tickled to see that I got him something. I felt it was a good representation of how our relationship works. And it was so fun to surprise him!
 
Date: 1/6/2010 6:06:43 PM
Author: Snicklefritz
I paid for one third of my ring, which I feel was more for me to get what I wanted than a present to him. But I did give him a customized Steelers Jersey. I''m no football fan but her sure is. He was pretty tickled to see that I got him something. I felt it was a good representation of how our relationship works. And it was so fun to surprise him!
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Awwww that''s so sweet
 
Well, a few weeks after we got engaged, we made an offer on a house. So I got him the manliest engagement/housewarming gift I could come up with: a gas grill. A big, silver, Charbroil, infra-red, all the bells and whistles man-machine. Nothin says lovin like bratwurst and steak.

He loves it. I suppose a better gift would have been a pre-assembled grill as it took him what seemed like 40 hours to put the thing together.
 
My DH wanted a ring so he got a ring. He doesn''t wear it much anymore (we''ve been married almost 4 years), possibly because of the danger of wearing it in his line of work, but he wore it through out the engagement and during the first couple years of marriage.

A friend received a nice watch from his FW.
 
I plan on getting my BF a fancy toolbox... worth about $1100! not the equivalent of my ring, but its still a lot of money for me to shell out. I like this idea as the toolbox is its very high quality and is supposed to last forever - hopefully like my ring!
 
Date: 1/6/2010 8:44:03 PM
Author: Travel Goddess
Well, a few weeks after we got engaged, we made an offer on a house. So I got him the manliest engagement/housewarming gift I could come up with: a gas grill. A big, silver, Charbroil, infra-red, all the bells and whistles man-machine. Nothin says lovin like bratwurst and steak.

He loves it. I suppose a better gift would have been a pre-assembled grill as it took him what seemed like 40 hours to put the thing together.
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TG, I love this!!!

And really, he actually probably enjoyed putting it together. I''m assuming he did it without the directions...
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I asked FI what he wanted and he picked...

A cat.

See, we had just moved in together, and we had his dog and my mean cat. So he said if he had to live with a cat, he wanted a nice one.

So I spent $95 on the adoption fee for a rescued 18 lb Maine Coon named Simon.
 
I got DH a Tag Heuer watch for his engagement present (though I did get a significant deal on it by buying at an outlet mall). DH's watch was old and the glass was all fogged up, so he definitely needed a new one. The watch wasn't extremely expensive, but it was more than the $50 he would've spent on himself, so I was happy to get him something nice.

We didn't get each other wedding presents. We paid for over half of the wedding plus the whole honeymoon, so we said the honeymoon was our gift to each other.

ETA: He came with me to pick it out. I had been thinking of Tag, but we went to all the watch stores in the outlet mall and he picked out the one he liked the best. We're both incredibly picky and he let me pick out my ring, so it was only fair that he got to pick out his watch
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I would love to give BF a nice watch. He loves watches and buys them to mark significant life events. I know he wants an Omega James bond watch, but I don''t have that kind of money to spend at the moment.
 
Ya a watch is a nice idea....... as are all the DIY-related presents!!! thanks all
 
My fiancé is a high school teacher who was in need of a new brief case to use for work so as an engagement present, I got him a great leather bag from Saddleback Leather Co. Their motto is "They''ll fight over it when you''re dead" so I knew it was something he would have a long, long time! And now he gets to use his present every day for work.

They also have great wallets and such. They''re expensive but extremely well made and have great customer service.
 
I would get him a high-end watch as an engagement present (he needs a new watch anyway), but I think my parents will buy one for him when we''re engaged or married as a ''welcome to the family'' gift. So he will just get me!
 
Oh, I really love the idea of a nice gas grill! My BF would be so surpised and excited! I really might do that. There are some fantastic ideas in this thread. I like nice watches but neither of us actually wear watches so that''s no good for me.
 
I really like the idea of giving your SO an engagement gift in return. It makes the occasion so much less one-sided. Of course, I know there are many women out there who believe it is her time and I totally understand that. I just like the idea of both people celebrating the agreement you BOTH make with thoughtful gifts.
 
So I was just thinking about what I would get SO... I like the idea of a grill as well as any sort of DIY supplies. At this point in time he''s never been a watch wearer so I definitely would not shell out a few hundred dollars on a gift he may never wear. I would love to give him a pet, but I''m pretty sure he would think I would just be buying it for myself... which is prolly true hehe.


Anyway though, it got me thinking.. how would you present such a gift to SO? Idk especially since its not the norm really I think FF would just be confused haha.

I can just imagine us walking outside to see the new grill.. "I just wanted to say thank you for finally committing to make me your wife..." haha he''d prolly think I was weird.

Thoughts?
 
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You are all very thoughtful to give your fiances gifts. I just don''t know if I understand the logic in an engagement gift. An engagment ring really isn''t a present. Men give women rings as a symbol of their commitment, and she will wear this ring the rest of her life (hopefully) as a symbol of their union. Women then typically incur a variety of expenses in planning the wedding. And once you are married, you have many other expenses to consider. To me, it is just odd that so many on here think they should give their fiance an expensive gift to mark the engagement. I don''t see an engagement as a tit for tat sort of thing. Isn''t your agreeing to be his wife present enough. Now, a small, thoughtful gift - I can understand that. I just know that if I gave my fiance anything more than a small gift, he would be angry with me for spending unnecessary money on him.
 
When I gave FI a gift, tit for tat had nothing to do with it. I gave him a gift because I wanted to. I wasn't worried about finances or being even. I wanted to present him with a small symbol of my love. I wanted to suprise him and make him feel special in the same way he makes me feel special. I don't think anyone in this thread has said that a girl SHOULD give their guy an engagement present. It worked for me and my FI, but I know that it's not common practice. We tend to be rather unconventional though.
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I say do what works for you!
 
Oh crap... I just made the mistake of asking FF if he''d heard of women getting men engagement presents... apparently he has and now is planning what he wants now that I have brought it up..

He wants an all-grain system for his home brew (~$500) or a great dane haha.

Digging myself a hole apparently.
 
Date: 1/20/2010 8:26:22 PM
Author: Callisto
Oh crap... I just made the mistake of asking FF if he''d heard of women getting men engagement presents... apparently he has and now is planning what he wants now that I have brought it up..

He wants an all-grain system for his home brew (~$500) or a great dane haha.

Digging myself a hole apparently.
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Well, on the positive side, if that''s somthing he really wants it might be a push in the right direction for him to propose, and $500 is a small price to pay for that
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I am very poor compared to my FI, but I got him something that I thought was special. He proposed in Disney. We were moving to Germany 3 months later so while we were at the German pavillion in Epcot I surprised him with a heavy glass beer stine with Mickey in lederhosen and I had the FI''s name hand engraved into it. It seemed fitting.
 
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