crossmyfingers
Shiny_Rock
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- Aug 10, 2009
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BF and I plan to be married within the next two years, probably sooner than that. He tells me often that he looks forward to it, and he calls my house "our" place, and I know he really does want to marry me soon and thinks it will be great.
BUT... In front of anyone else, family or friends, he frequently says things along the line of: fun ends when you get married. If a married friend of ours can''t make it to something for any reason, he says it''s because he/she is "whipped" and that you can''t do anything social ever once you are married. Our friends all expect us to be engaged then married any given day, so they all look at me when he says things like that, like I''m supposed to explain it. And we are the ''fun'' couple that kind of bonds all our friends together, planning stuff, hosting stuff, so I would imagine they are worried things will completely change when we get married. (I hope that part made sense...)
I''ve asked him why he is so different about this in front of anyone, but then to me gets all mushy and sweet and tells me how much he looks forward to it. He said he''s just joking when he says that sort of thing, but I told him it hurts my feelings to hear him say things like that. And honestly it makes me wonder how much of it is just joking around "ha ha stereotypical guys are afraid of marriage" stuff and how much of it is maybe how he feels.
Why?!?! Do your SOs act like this?
BUT... In front of anyone else, family or friends, he frequently says things along the line of: fun ends when you get married. If a married friend of ours can''t make it to something for any reason, he says it''s because he/she is "whipped" and that you can''t do anything social ever once you are married. Our friends all expect us to be engaged then married any given day, so they all look at me when he says things like that, like I''m supposed to explain it. And we are the ''fun'' couple that kind of bonds all our friends together, planning stuff, hosting stuff, so I would imagine they are worried things will completely change when we get married. (I hope that part made sense...)
I''ve asked him why he is so different about this in front of anyone, but then to me gets all mushy and sweet and tells me how much he looks forward to it. He said he''s just joking when he says that sort of thing, but I told him it hurts my feelings to hear him say things like that. And honestly it makes me wonder how much of it is just joking around "ha ha stereotypical guys are afraid of marriage" stuff and how much of it is maybe how he feels.
Why?!?! Do your SOs act like this?