marriage proposal

[khaylett]

Ok my boyfriend and I have been together for about 1 yr now, we are older I am 42 he is 38, we both have been married twice and both said we would never ever get married again. We have known from day 1 there was something very special and sacred between us. We have known from the start we were meant to be together. Now I am ready to get married once again knowing this tie it is for the right reasons and will work out. So my question is,,,how do i go about doing this? He is in a band so I thought about maybe during a break at 1 of the shows but incase he says no Id rather do it at home. How about wrapping a mens wedding band (which i have already bought )around a teddy bear (he loves teddy bears and balloons) and writing will you marry me on balloons??? Any advice is greatly appreciated!!! THANKS

 

[Tuckins1]

I really don't have experience with proposing to someone, but the teddy bear idea sounds sweet.

Best of luck to you!

 

[Nashville]

You're both older and you have both been married before and have BOTH expressed that you don't want to ever get married again. So I'm not sure I'd take the teddy bear/balloon route.

I know it sounds boring, but how about just cooking him a really nice meal, lighting a few candles and telling him how you feel? Don't put him on the spot with a "Will You Marry Me?" surprise, talk it out together.

If you're thinking he might say no, that's what I'd do. Have an adult conversation, no fanfare just 2 adults making a decision about the future of their relationship.

 

[zoebartlett]

Both of you have said you're not getting married again. Not to be harsh, but do you know that he's now on the same page you are? I'd skip the balloons and teddy bear, and just have an open and frank conversation about your relationship and what you want for your future together.

The other thing I'd suggest is to check out the LIW (Ladies in Waiting) forum here on PS. You might get advice from people in your shoes who stick to posting in that forum.

 

[ImpatientOne]

Both of you have said you're not getting married again. Not to be harsh, but do you know that he's now on the same page you are? I'd skip the balloons and teddy bear, and just have an open and frank conversation about your relationship and what you want for your future together.

The other thing I'd suggest is to check out the LIW (Ladies in Waiting) forum here on PS. You might get advice from people in your shoes who stick to posting in that forum.

I agree! Good luck!

 

[TooPatient]

You're both older and you have both been married before and have BOTH expressed that you don't want to ever get married again. So I'm not sure I'd take the teddy bear/balloon route.

I know it sounds boring, but how about just cooking him a really nice meal, lighting a few candles and telling him how you feel? Don't put him on the spot with a "Will You Marry Me?" surprise, talk it out together.

If you're thinking he might say no, that's what I'd do. Have an adult conversation, no fanfare just 2 adults making a decision about the future of their relationship.

I'd suggest this talk also. If you find out he feels the same THEN you should go ahead with your teddy bear & balloons (which really is a cute idea )

He might feel the same as you do but he might need to think about it first and have some time to get used to the idea that you two could get married and still be happy together. Best to find out a bit more before you put him in a yes or no position.