I didn''t want to Hi-Jack Dee Jay''s thread so I thought I would start a new topic.
I got back from Las Vegas on Wednesday night and I wanted to post my new found revelation but couldn''t quite find all the right words (I guess I''m still hung over which is very possible). I have been following Dee Jay''s quest from the beginning and when I read Mara''s post this morning I just smiled and said to myself, "That is exactly what I wanted to say."
I dragged 3 non diamond loving girls into every single jewerly store that we passed on the Strip. They were more than happy to oblige as the alternative was to be outside in the sweltering heat. When we finally sat down with pitchers of Sangria one of my friends said, "Are you ever going to be happy with your ring?" I said, "Yes, one day, when the sides stones are bigger, when the center is bigger, when the setting is just perfect...yes, I''m sure I''ll get there eventually." I told them that I was thinking about changing my ear studs from 1.5 each to better cut/quality 1 carat each and using them as side stones. They just shook their heads and said, "You will always find a reason to upgrade and change it. It will forever be a project, when is enough going to be enough? What are you going to do when you decide that you want your earrings back? Aren''t you afraid that you''ll get mugged, aren''t you afraid that it will start to look too big and ridiculous? The money you have been putting into this ring has been astronomical." This is just some of what I remembered, they were giving me the Tough Love conversation.
I looked down at my 3 stone ring and my wedding band which was cleaned for me gratis at Gregg Ruth; it was so sparkly and shiny and it looked really pretty under the halogen lights. For the first time in a long time it looked perfect (to me). I don''t need to touch this ring anymore. I felt incredibly at peace - it was very strange and liberating at the same time. My hand size, my finger size, my lifestyle doesn''t really warrant anything larger. Just because I have the funds to play with it doesn''t mean I have to act on it. The rest of Vegas was fabulous and I didn''t need to go into one more jewelry store after that conversation.
It is quite possible to be happy with what you have. I think it just takes a couple of cocktails, good friends and smart people (like Mara) to point you in the right direction.
I got back from Las Vegas on Wednesday night and I wanted to post my new found revelation but couldn''t quite find all the right words (I guess I''m still hung over which is very possible). I have been following Dee Jay''s quest from the beginning and when I read Mara''s post this morning I just smiled and said to myself, "That is exactly what I wanted to say."
I dragged 3 non diamond loving girls into every single jewerly store that we passed on the Strip. They were more than happy to oblige as the alternative was to be outside in the sweltering heat. When we finally sat down with pitchers of Sangria one of my friends said, "Are you ever going to be happy with your ring?" I said, "Yes, one day, when the sides stones are bigger, when the center is bigger, when the setting is just perfect...yes, I''m sure I''ll get there eventually." I told them that I was thinking about changing my ear studs from 1.5 each to better cut/quality 1 carat each and using them as side stones. They just shook their heads and said, "You will always find a reason to upgrade and change it. It will forever be a project, when is enough going to be enough? What are you going to do when you decide that you want your earrings back? Aren''t you afraid that you''ll get mugged, aren''t you afraid that it will start to look too big and ridiculous? The money you have been putting into this ring has been astronomical." This is just some of what I remembered, they were giving me the Tough Love conversation.
I looked down at my 3 stone ring and my wedding band which was cleaned for me gratis at Gregg Ruth; it was so sparkly and shiny and it looked really pretty under the halogen lights. For the first time in a long time it looked perfect (to me). I don''t need to touch this ring anymore. I felt incredibly at peace - it was very strange and liberating at the same time. My hand size, my finger size, my lifestyle doesn''t really warrant anything larger. Just because I have the funds to play with it doesn''t mean I have to act on it. The rest of Vegas was fabulous and I didn''t need to go into one more jewelry store after that conversation.
It is quite possible to be happy with what you have. I think it just takes a couple of cocktails, good friends and smart people (like Mara) to point you in the right direction.
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