Hi there, everyone. I have been lurking here for a while and after a recent development, I am making my inaugural post about my new ring.
A bit of backstory:
The beau and I have been having the marriage discussion lately, and while I am not 100% sold on the idea of marrying anyone, I am 100% committed to him and would really like to wear a beautiful symbol of our relationship. He asked me style preferences and I told him it had to be white gold, and I''d like a low profile so I don''t whack it around, and I''d like it to be thin. The style of the diamond didn''t really matter to me, and honestly I knew nothing about diamonds until I ran across helpful websites like this one. Now that I know about them, they fascinate me and I appreciate them, but it still wouldn''t have mattered the size or even if it was a diamond at all.
With those preferences in mind, he talked to his mother to use her jeweler and her access to diamonds and they started creating my ring. I was actually out of states when it was being made in a whole other country, but I trusted that everything would be in good hands. I even drew pictures that he scanned and sent to his mother, and sent her links to other rings I had seen online and liked. I''m not sure where the misscommunication happened, but the ring is finished, and I was very very excited (and nervous) to finally see it. The ring hasn''t arrived yet, but pictures have, and he went straight to work showing almost everyone I know the pictures. The feedback was positive, it seemed, and everyone said it was beautiful. The pictures got round to my best friend and she, knowing me as well as she does, was concerned enough to send me the pictures to let me see for myself, without letting boyfriend know.
Well, I looked at them, and my first concern was that it was yellow gold, and I thought I could cry. I guess it was just the reflection on the metal, because I was assured it is white gold. The diamond is beautiful, "around 1 ct" canary yellow princess-cut. It seems like it''s "channel set" into the band, which is wider than the diamond at it''s widest part. That''s the part that concerns me. It looks more like a man''s wedding ring than a woman''s engagement ring, except for the giant yellow diamond. I really don''t know what it will look like on, but I don''t have giant man hands, and I don''t really wear any other jewelry on my hands. I have a terrible feeling it will look heavy and gaudy.
I just came here to vent, and to wonder if anyone else has pictures of their favorite wide-band rings on their hands for comparison. I got so obsessive about the whole thing, that now I feel deflated, and also terribly guilty for a) looking at the pictures before I was supposed to and b) not loving it when he and his family put so much time and effort into creating something so special for me.
There is no way I would say anything except for "I love it," and I''m sure I will, but I just wanted to be able to wear it every day, and it looks like I am not going to be able to, just based on the size of the band. I just wish I would have been more clear and said exactly what I wanted, instead of "I''m sure whatever you do will be fine." I should have looked at his mother''s jewelry and known that it would be in that style. I know it''s too late to wish everyone would have taken my preferences more seriously, but I just wanted to know if something like this happened to anyone else, and what came of that situation.
Thanks for reading this awfully long post.
A bit of backstory:
The beau and I have been having the marriage discussion lately, and while I am not 100% sold on the idea of marrying anyone, I am 100% committed to him and would really like to wear a beautiful symbol of our relationship. He asked me style preferences and I told him it had to be white gold, and I''d like a low profile so I don''t whack it around, and I''d like it to be thin. The style of the diamond didn''t really matter to me, and honestly I knew nothing about diamonds until I ran across helpful websites like this one. Now that I know about them, they fascinate me and I appreciate them, but it still wouldn''t have mattered the size or even if it was a diamond at all.
With those preferences in mind, he talked to his mother to use her jeweler and her access to diamonds and they started creating my ring. I was actually out of states when it was being made in a whole other country, but I trusted that everything would be in good hands. I even drew pictures that he scanned and sent to his mother, and sent her links to other rings I had seen online and liked. I''m not sure where the misscommunication happened, but the ring is finished, and I was very very excited (and nervous) to finally see it. The ring hasn''t arrived yet, but pictures have, and he went straight to work showing almost everyone I know the pictures. The feedback was positive, it seemed, and everyone said it was beautiful. The pictures got round to my best friend and she, knowing me as well as she does, was concerned enough to send me the pictures to let me see for myself, without letting boyfriend know.
Well, I looked at them, and my first concern was that it was yellow gold, and I thought I could cry. I guess it was just the reflection on the metal, because I was assured it is white gold. The diamond is beautiful, "around 1 ct" canary yellow princess-cut. It seems like it''s "channel set" into the band, which is wider than the diamond at it''s widest part. That''s the part that concerns me. It looks more like a man''s wedding ring than a woman''s engagement ring, except for the giant yellow diamond. I really don''t know what it will look like on, but I don''t have giant man hands, and I don''t really wear any other jewelry on my hands. I have a terrible feeling it will look heavy and gaudy.
I just came here to vent, and to wonder if anyone else has pictures of their favorite wide-band rings on their hands for comparison. I got so obsessive about the whole thing, that now I feel deflated, and also terribly guilty for a) looking at the pictures before I was supposed to and b) not loving it when he and his family put so much time and effort into creating something so special for me.
There is no way I would say anything except for "I love it," and I''m sure I will, but I just wanted to be able to wear it every day, and it looks like I am not going to be able to, just based on the size of the band. I just wish I would have been more clear and said exactly what I wanted, instead of "I''m sure whatever you do will be fine." I should have looked at his mother''s jewelry and known that it would be in that style. I know it''s too late to wish everyone would have taken my preferences more seriously, but I just wanted to know if something like this happened to anyone else, and what came of that situation.
Thanks for reading this awfully long post.