LIW...would you say YES if ...

[Dancing Fire]

your bf proposed to you without an E-ring?

 

[Lauren8211]

Yes, but I''d wonder what happened to the one he''s putting together right now.

 

[Camille]

No ring= not ready.

 

[Sunshinegirl77]

I pretty much already did, even though there is no formal annoucement until the ring arrives and is given . It would really depend on the reason why. Is he just being cheap? Does he have no clue as to what you want in a ring, and wants your input? Just some things to consider.

 

[ForteKitty]

Yes, he knows better than to pick something out w/o my input.

1) dont want him to get ripped off.
2) dont want him to get persuaded into buying something else... i have a particular design in mind, and not many jewelers like making it (ie, are able to make it right).
3) dont want him to get ripped off. did i mention i dont want him to get ripped off?

An engagement pendant would be nice tho... closer to the heart. more personal!

 

[IloveAsschers13]

of course... but kind of silly to be asking ladies on a jewelry website, isn''t it?

In my case, the reason I found this website was for the jewelry, and I love jewelry, and my BF knows this. I think if you were to ask this on another forum that didn''t have to do with jewelry, you might get a more varied response.

I am getting a ring though, and I feel lucky!

 

[jmtomaui]

I did!

We chose a small claddagh ring (DH is Irish) as a placeholder a week or so later while the ring was researched and designed. Also, for us, we chose to not "advertise" our engagement right away as we wanted his sons to have that much more time to get used to us being together.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/19/2009 7:50:21 PM
Author: ForteKitty
Yes, he knows better than to pick something out w/o my input.

1) dont want him to get ripped off.
2) dont want him to get persuaded into buying something else... i have a particular design in mind, and not many jewelers like making it (ie, are able to make it right).
3) dont want him to get ripped off. did i mention i dont want him to get ripped off?

An engagement pendant would be nice tho... closer to the heart. more personal!

FK ...where have you been hiding?

a hot looking gal like you still not married?

 

[CristinaRuns26.2]

I don''t care if it''s a simple band or a 5-carat solitaire (

), I would preferably like there to be some sort of ring when I''m proposed to.

However, that being said, if the ring was being made, if we were choosing it together and waiting on it, or I knew exactly what the status of said ring is, then I would say yes. If DBF was still saving up for the ring, or there is some other reason why his ducks are not all in a row, I would want to wait until everything is just right for the proposal.

 

[jcarlylew]

didn''t you ask this once before?


of course. as long as marriage was already discussed and financial/planning issues proved otherwise able to.

 

[purrfectpear]

I''m not a LIW, but sure I would.

A proposal of marriage (and the undying declaration of love that better come with it) have nothing to do with a ring. Assuming I was willing to marry the guy I would either ask him for a ring, or buy my own (if he was financially challenged).

 

[ForteKitty]

Date: 5/19/2009 8:00:52 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

FK ...where have you been hiding?

a hot looking gal like you still not married?

commitment/kids/raising kids scare the crap outta me, what can i say? maybe in 5 years when i grow up a bit...

 

[musey]

I'm not a LIW anymore, but if hubs had proposed sans ring, I would have said yes without even thinking about it! It would have occurred to me after, though... but I would wait (a reasonable amount of time, probably a month or so) for him to mention it rather than asking him about it immediately.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/19/2009 7:43:52 PM
Author: elledizzy5
Yes, but I''d wonder what happened to the one he''s putting together right now.

elle
don''t get him pissed now cuz he might return it.

 

[Patiently_Waiting]

Date: 5/19/2009 8:04:11 PM
Author: purrfectpear
I'm not a LIW, but sure I would.

A proposal of marriage (and the undying declaration of love that better come with it) have nothing to do with a ring. Assuming I was willing to marry the guy I would either ask him for a ring, or buy my own (if he was financially challenged).

Huge ditto to PP. I would definitely accept a proposal without an e-ring.

 

[Squirrly]

Date: 5/19/2009 8:04:11 PM
Author: purrfectpear
I''m not a LIW, but sure I would.


A proposal of marriage (and the undying declaration of love that better come with it) have nothing to do with a ring. Assuming I was willing to marry the guy I would either ask him for a ring, or buy my own (if he was financially challenged).

ditto. if all that was important to me was a ring, i''d save my money and buy myself one, i wouldn''t need a guy to do that for me.

sure a ring is nice, it''s a pretty visible symbol of his commitment, and something i''d enthusiastically show all of my family and friends as an excuse to talk about my wonderful guy, but what really matters to me is how much he loves me and that he would ask me with all his heart to spend the rest of my life with him, and nothing that glitters could ever come close to matching the feeling i''d get from hearing him say those words.

 

[Erinleigh]

Date: 5/19/2009 8:31:58 PM
Author: Patiently_Waiting

Date: 5/19/2009 8:04:11 PM

Author: purrfectpear

I''m not a LIW, but sure I would.


A proposal of marriage (and the undying declaration of love that better come with it) have nothing to do with a ring. Assuming I was willing to marry the guy I would either ask him for a ring, or buy my own (if he was financially challenged).

Huge ditto to PP. I would definitely accept a proposal without an e-ring.

Agreed! I''d say yes if he tied a string around my finger. A proposal is about marriage, not the accepting of jewelery. That being said... I wouldn''t turn down a big fancy ring, lol!

 

[lucyandroger]

Yes, of course. But then we''d go shopping for a ring because I know he can afford it.

 

[mrscushion]

Date: 5/19/2009 9:10:37 PM
Author: lucyandroger
Yes, of course. But then we''d go shopping for a ring because I know he can afford it.

Ditto.

 

[Efe]

I did.

 

[megumic]

Totally. I''m saying yes to the man, not the ring.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/19/2009 8:31:58 PM
Author: Patiently_Waiting

Date: 5/19/2009 8:04:11 PM
Author: purrfectpear
I''m not a LIW, but sure I would.

A proposal of marriage (and the undying declaration of love that better come with it) have nothing to do with a ring. Assuming I was willing to marry the guy I would either ask him for a ring, or buy my own (if he was financially challenged).

Huge ditto to PP. I would definitely accept a proposal without an e-ring.

better tell your bf now before he waste the money on a E-ring.

 

[suchende]

Probably not. He knows what I want and I know he can afford it.

Edit: this is obviously specific to our circumstances.

 

[ckrickett]

yes, I actually WANT him too.

I want to pick out my e-ring, I''m super picky, all he has to do is give me the budget and when he is ready. I know it''s a big purchase and I want him to propose when he is emotionally ready, I can wait awhile to get the ring, when we get the money, settle on a budget, and pick it out. So if he proposed to me with a ring it would mean he wasn''t listening to me. I''d still say yes.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/19/2009 9:46:17 PM
Author: suchende
Probably not. He knows what I want and I know he can afford it.

Edit: this is obviously specific to our circumstances.

ha,ha...love your honesty.

 

[Miscka]

I said yes to a bread tie.

 

[stephinextremis]

I said yes without a ring to my former husband as well as my current one.

Former husband said, "I''m not dumb enough to try to pick something out myself...you do it!" That was fine with me, and he later said he''d never have guessed what I wanted based on the e-ring I ended up with.

Second, current husband was a bit different...seeing as we said we''d marry each other on the second date, there was no official proposal. But there was that amazing feeling of KNOWING he was the right one right away, which to me is more important than any piece of jewelry! Early on, he bought similar half-eternity bands as "commitment" rings for us. I told him I''d be happy with that as an engagement/wedding ring. Shoot, I''d have married him with a twist tie or a ring pop. He''s perfect for me and I wouldn''t give that up over a ring, or lack thereof! However, a month or so later we were out at Jared (don''t hate!) looking at jewelry for fun...and I ended up with my solitaire, which we both love.

 

[Squirrly]

Date: 5/20/2009 12:03:50 AM
Author: stephinextremis
Shoot, I''d have married him with a twist tie or a ring pop.

whoohoo, now i can show FF that i''m not the only one who would take a ring pop! (i ended up getting one for christmas as a joke)

 

[pinkstars]

Absolutely!

 

[kittybean]

Another non-LIW chiming in--I would have absolutely said yes if FI had proposed without an e-ring, but he is the type of guy who never, ever would. If he had, for some reason, I would have happily accepted, assuming we would figure out the e-ring out together. If his finances didn''t allow for one, I would have bought one myself.

However, a wedding band, to me, is a must-have for the marriage ceremony. It is an important part of the religious marriage ceremony I will have, and I expect both of us to wear our wedding bands throughout our lives. A simple plain silver band would do just fine if we were really struggling financially, but we could not get married without the bands (we''d just have to wait a bit ''til we could buy those silver ones!). Just to further clarify my perspective, we did almost a year''s worth of marriage preparation, and I would not get married without that, either. (Clearly, if we were living in wartime or some equally dire situation, I might have to amend some of my requirements.)