LIW Updates and news?!

[Anonymous]

That's a fantastic update! It does sound like he's planning a surprise for you too. Good luck!

 

[PrincessNatalie]

Over the weekend I was starting to worry that SO had perhaps not ordered the ring because of something he said (and now I guess to throw me off the scent).

So I did a bad, bad thing - I guess you could call it technically snooping, or cyber stalking.

I emailed the people who I wanted him to get the ring from and asked if they had ever made a Tiffany Legacy repro with an antique or august vintage cushion in the centre, because that’s what I was “thinking about creating”. They replyed saying they had made one, and it was very pretty.

I am busting to tell someone. So this is my confession.

Honestly though, IT MAY NOT HAVE BEEN MINE.

***But I think it was!***

 

[vanilla87]

Over the weekend I was starting to worry that SO had perhaps not ordered the ring because of something he said (and now I guess to throw me off the scent).

So I did a bad, bad thing - I guess you could call it technically snooping, or cyber stalking.

I emailed the people who I wanted him to get the ring from and asked if they had ever made a Tiffany Legacy repro with an antique or august vintage cushion in the centre, because that’s what I was “thinking about creating”. They replyed saying they had made one, and it was very pretty.

I am busting to tell someone. So this is my confession.

Honestly though, IT MAY NOT HAVE BEEN MINE.

***But I think it was!***

Hahah Thats good news! I must admit I thought about doing this kind of stalking... its not snooping really. I think boys underestimate how clever and slighty obsessed us girls are!!

How many days til you go now?

DUST!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[brittany0613]

Well, I haven't been here long, but I have an update. BF and I took my diamonds to the jeweler last week and I decided on a setting. They said they would have to custom make it because my round side stones are slightly different in size (one was from my mom and the other from my grandmother and there is about a .5mm difference in diameter, but I don't care because they're my special diamonds) PLUS he would have to custom make a trellis setting for my 1.01ct oval center stone. He wasn't sure he was going to be able to do it, but he called this morning and said making the setting will be absolutely no problem at all. So production has officially started on my absolutely gorgeous trellis-set oval e-ring!! I have no idea when it will be done and when BF will get it. I'm out of the ring picture from here on out. I want the rest of it to be a surprise. He is having dinner with my mom tonight asking her permission to marry me, and he has been trying to coordinate getting together with my dad to do the same and just hasn't been able to get schedules lined up yet. But the ball is definitely rolling!!

 

[DestinedPalmer]

Well, I'm new on here... My bf and I have been together for a year on Dec. 9th... We moved in together in Feb. 2010 and he told me he loved me in the end of Feb 2010, for the first time! We went and picked out my ring together a few months ago and he put it in layaway so that I wouldn't be tempted to mess with it at home and search everywhere for it! lol I bought him a $600.00 rifle for Christmas and he was going to be getting my ring and giving it to me then. But now earlier today, he asked me if I would be mad if he didn't give it to me for Christmas and he waited to give it to me... That completely caught me off guard!!! He said he would rather it be a surprise and me to not be expecting it at all. He has an idea of how he wants to do it and when... I just don't know how to react to that r how to respond... ya know?!
I hope to be talking to you all a lot in the near future!
Thanks ~

 

[UnluckyTwin]

Nothing new here. We are financially far off from anything thanks to grad school. I guess pretty soon I'll witness a bunch of holiday engagements and have to keep myself in check! Good luck to everyone waiting!

We have actually been going to couple's counseling for a few months now. After living together for a while things got pretty rocky what with fighting about housework and just in general having two sets of personalities, smarts, stubbornness, etc. The road has been hard but in the last couple of weeks especially I have noticed a LOT less fighting. It may be that I have been pretty sick for a while with back-to-back colds so he has been very nice to me, bringing me kleenex and tea and stuff, but I think we have finally passed that low spot and are getting better at our communication and replacing fighting with affection. It's weird, we both love each other more than we have ever loved anyone else, but living with each other turned into this incredibly difficult task. I'm really proud of us for working it out and each being willing to move closer to the middle on our particularities so that we could compromise. AND I'm glad that we sought counseling early-ish in the relationship instead of either letting things get worse or trying to deal with it many years down the road in case it was "too late." Going through counseling with him has only reaffirmed that he is the right person for me.

 

[blacksand]

UnluckyTwin, I'm glad things are working out and you're happy. I'm moving in with my boyfriend this month, and even though we're not sleeping in the same house yet (next week is official moving week!), we're already arguing about stupid house-related stuff. No major fights, but I'm so afraid living together will make us dissolve into a pile of silly arguments about socks on the floor or whatever. But it's good to know that you can get through the rough patches with good communication.

My update: I was given the green light to take a first, preliminary step in the ring purchasing process today. I tentatively asked the boyfriend if it would be all right if I sent an e-mail to Van Craeynest to ask a few questions about resetting my diamond. I thought he would probably say I was getting too ahead of myself and we should just focus on moving for now. But he said "Of course! Why would you even think you'd have to ask me?" So I e-mailed and they've already replied with all the info I asked for and a price quote and said they'd be happy to help when we're ready to place an order.

We're still not able to place an order right this second, but just seeing the quote and talking about the ring with someone other than you ladies (sorry, but you know what I mean!) made it all seem so much more real and imminent. And doable! I'll have to wait a little while longer, but it looks like my dream ring is actually going to happen.

 

[MayFlowers]

I'm so glad everyone is having some good updates! Here is my latest news:

I went yesterday to a few different local jewelry stores (not chain stores) to get a feel for them and to compare some of their prices. I had a really fun time and found I was mostly treated pretty well considering I was a girl looking at engagement rings by myself. I found I don't really have much sensitivity to color, but I would like to stay at an I or above, of course higher is always better if it fits the budget. One store really stood out to me and they had my favorite Scott Kay setting in stock too. They had great prices compared to the others I went too (one store was listing a 1.05 J SI1 ideal cut for $7000!!) and I just got a really good impression from them. The SA also treated me really well and just had great customer service. He wrote down the item numbers of the diamonds I looked at and liked on his card so that BF can bring it back and they can look at those if they are still available. Overall, I was really happy with the experience.

Anyways, I took all the information I got from these jewelers and some information about BGD, WF, etc. and wrote up "reports" on all of them. (Can you tell that I have wayyy too much time on my hands now that the semester is over? ) I listed their return and upgrade policies, the average price of diamonds (with 4 C's stats included), my list of pros and cons for each place, and more. I know BF is more comfortable buying from a local place rather than online (which, I would be happy with now that I found a good jeweler). I also made a page with all my preferences for settings, color, clarity, how to buy for cut, etc.

I typed and printed all this up and left it in BF's room. Of course, last night he didn't even notice it. So I pointed it out to him and told him that everything he needs to know about each store is on these reports. Then I told him he no longer needs my assistance in picking a ring or picking a date so it is now all in his hands. I also promised I will not mention rings or getting engaged until he proposes. That part is going to be hard, mostly because I'm excited and I really feel like I have no clue when it is going to happen. So, I hope it is soon. But I guess I will just have to keep waiting and see!

 

[Magpie09]

My big update is that we are finally moving in together mid-year in 2011 I'm so excited as I only get to see my boyfriend twice a week most weeks so it will be great to spend nights and mornings before work together.

We just came back from a month long holiday where we didn't fight at all and got along really well the whole time so i'm now a bit antsy about living together as I miss seeing my boyfriend every day .

 

[PrincessNatalie]

Wow, excellent updates Mayflowers, BlackSand and Magpie! The cog wheels are all moving!

 

[vintagelover229]

So, I've been talking to SO about eloping, etc instead of a wedding, and if his parents are okay with it, we have a green light. We won't ask them until after an engagement, which I found out last night he had planned on doing on NYE! I say HAD because I think his brother (who's been w his gf for 7 years and gone for 6 months) is going to propose on either Xmas eve or NYE (SO knows but won't spill the beans). If that's the case, I was hoping to elope in late July...but if his brother gets engaged (which he will) I think they'll be getting married in Aug (at home, big wedding....her parents have been busy prepping their house for it all year) and I don't want to get married so close to their wedding. My main reason being is because we won't get back from our trip (if we do it when we have kinda planned) until the 1st or 2nd week in Aug...meaning most people won't know we eloped and got married.

I don't want people finding out at his brothers wedding that we got married, because it takes away from their day, which I DO NOT WANT. So, idk what we are going to do. I think the proposal is going to be on/near valentines day (yay right around the corner!) so perhaps we'll do it at the end of June/early July. It's the weather that we are waiting for, we would do it sooner if it was warmer up here earlier, but it usually isn't super warm until mid July. Guess we'll just have to talk to them about it after we both are engaged so that way we don't step on their toes!

DUST to all the ladies and happy holidays!

 

[wakingdreams53]

Great updates ladies!!

I have an update which doesn't warrant a new thread. As most of you know, I'm quite young. I don't expect marriage for a while, but since my bf started talking about marriage and promising proposals a year ago, it's a mind-****. We're quite honest and open with each other now, which had been the original issue (lack of communication) and last night when I called him during my shift (11pm-4am) at 2:30 (he said he was still awake, and I assumed as much since he calls me before going to bed), the first thing he said was "I'm going to marry you."
Beautiful, super, wonderful-- but my heart was back in the pit of my stomach because I know nothing can happen soon.

Today he calls me asking if I remembered what he said. (DUH). He asked if I was upset, since he now understands how I felt before with his proposal-like-non-proposal things. I said yes, to which he asked me why? I explained that it just upsets me because as true as it may be, it won't be for a while-- and I'm trying to live with that without being reminded (my entire family reminding me that I'm young and that I shouldn't be in a serious relationship doesn't help either). To which he replies, "Well, now that we've discussed not spending a ton of money on a huge wedding and actually doing what we want, it's closer than it was before."

TOTALLY not expecting that AT ALL. Yet now that I've approached him with not wanting a traditional wedding, he seems to want it to come sooner. (that wedding ideally being: a very spiritual ceremony with only our near and dear, not necessarily necessitating legalities--i.e. being official in the eyes of the law, and a party to celebrate us-- AKA what I believe a wedding should be)

His best friend, who's younger than him, is getting married this coming summer, and he's the best man. It's an extremely elaborate affair which involves the couple to go completely broke and rely on wedding presents. Of course we don't agree with this, but are nonetheless happy to celebrate their union-- its their lives and this is what they want and they are willing to live with the consequences.

A very large driving factor of all of this is 2012. I haven't seen anything written here about it or anyone who expresses concern, care, etc. I'm a spiritual person and feel that something will happen. Pretty much every single ancient culture foresees this as a time of great change. Whether or not something happens, I want to be with my loved ones-- bf definitely included. He knows how I feel about this and he agrees. To counter that, perhaps this would be the worst time to marry since our thoughts and efforts should be toward the planet rather than lives perpetuated by ego (AKA getting married might be selfish in light of the circumstances). Ah, Earth life. Namaste.