I was hoping all the women here waiting could help me figure out the timing of my proposal
so here''s the deal: currently, my gf lives in another state, but will be moving in with me next february. The e-ring is on the way, and I have two times I can propose- I am going to visit her in mid-december, and she is coming out here for new years. I was originally planning on doing it on new years eve, thinking it would be more romantic and memorable.
She suspects the proposal is coming sometime soon though, and I think she will be expecting it when I come visit her in mid-december. She also mentioned how nice it would be to have it then because she could show her friends at a xmas party we are going to, plus then she would have it to show the family at xmas. If I wait til new years, she''ll have to go back alone and tell her friends, and won''t have it for xmas.
so the question is....when is the best time to do it? I am worried about it not being a surprise when I come visit, plus I can''t tell how important it is to her to celebrate her engagement with her friends- obviously I don''t mean that it is her main reason for wanting to get engaged then, but I can tell it matters to her somewhat. Also, I figured if I don''t propose when I visit (and I know this sounds cruel), but she will be thrown a little and might expect it less at new years, and so it will be more of a surprise.
how much weight should I put on her being able to tell her friends when they are all together and when I am there? I''m also not sure I will be able to wait, considering I''ll have the ring by then. So what''s more important- being proposed to ASAP and able to share with friends and family, or surprise and romance?
Any opinions would be very helpful!

so here''s the deal: currently, my gf lives in another state, but will be moving in with me next february. The e-ring is on the way, and I have two times I can propose- I am going to visit her in mid-december, and she is coming out here for new years. I was originally planning on doing it on new years eve, thinking it would be more romantic and memorable.
She suspects the proposal is coming sometime soon though, and I think she will be expecting it when I come visit her in mid-december. She also mentioned how nice it would be to have it then because she could show her friends at a xmas party we are going to, plus then she would have it to show the family at xmas. If I wait til new years, she''ll have to go back alone and tell her friends, and won''t have it for xmas.
so the question is....when is the best time to do it? I am worried about it not being a surprise when I come visit, plus I can''t tell how important it is to her to celebrate her engagement with her friends- obviously I don''t mean that it is her main reason for wanting to get engaged then, but I can tell it matters to her somewhat. Also, I figured if I don''t propose when I visit (and I know this sounds cruel), but she will be thrown a little and might expect it less at new years, and so it will be more of a surprise.
how much weight should I put on her being able to tell her friends when they are all together and when I am there? I''m also not sure I will be able to wait, considering I''ll have the ring by then. So what''s more important- being proposed to ASAP and able to share with friends and family, or surprise and romance?
Any opinions would be very helpful!