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Brilliant_Rock
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Some of you may remember my search for a new placeholder ring after my current set (originally sized from a 3.75 to a 7.25) became too small to get off my fingers easily. I eventually got a ring for $400 but was disappointed when it arrived- it was just totally swallowed by my 9.5 swollen manpaws and the shank was 1/2 coated in plat, so I sent it back.
I despaired of finding another placeholder that would work as a stacker with my 'someday' e-ring, that was under budget. SO was getting irritated with my constant obsessing over rings, and then dismayed after I spent the weekend (where I received and then decided to send back the ebay ring) moping around in a depression. While he's an excellent communicator, emotionally supportive, affectionate, and nurturing overall, when it comes to "shiny things" he just doesn't get it, and admits as much. He was bewildered over why I was so keyed up over a "trinket", and he didn't get it until I weepily told him I was embarrassed to have a bare finger and humiliated by the catty gossip being spread about me at work.
For those who didn't catch my ebay thread or aren't familiar with my story, SO I have been together for 6 years this holiday, and legally married for 3.5 as we're an international couple who had to get legally married in order be together in the same country. We were forced into the decision to marry only 6 months into our relationship, because we knew it would take about 2 years for the paperwork to go through- it ended up taking 2.5 years, during which we barely saw one another. It was all a huge gamble, and since I was having panic attacks over my unreadiness to marry no matter how crazy I was about this boy, we decided to consider the legal marriage our 'ceremony of co-habitation' and completely ignore getting engaged/married "for real" until we were ready. As I said in my numerous threads about my misgivings and fears, I was 100% sure about the guy, but was NOT READY for marriage. I also dreaded leaving my home, country, family, single life, all of it, for a place that was the antithesis of everything I believed in (Texas). I was never a girl who valued or wanted marriage. I was focused on my career and didn't see myself settling down.
I eventually told him that I could commit to 2 years here, no more, and we'd reassess at the 2 year mark whether we were in this for keeps. I was confident that our relationship had the potential to be everything we'd hoped, but we'd only been together for 6 months and lived together for 4 of those months. We needed to log solid, living together, real-life time before we could really make that choice. We were legally married, with a bare-bones 30 second swearing to legal terms and signing, JOP dealie in May of '08.
We'd always planned to have a 'real' engagement and 'real' wedding when we were ready ... but 3.5 years of domestic bliss, a giant wedding for my BIL, and one ring-crisis-caused depressed episode later, he asks me if I could have the ring I really want, what would it be? I asked him if he meant for now, or my 'someday' ring, and he tells me it doesn't make sense to throw away money on a temporary ring, why not get the real thing now?
I'm thinking ... is this it? Are we going to take the plunge for real?
Some of you may remember my search for a new placeholder ring after my current set (originally sized from a 3.75 to a 7.25) became too small to get off my fingers easily. I eventually got a ring for $400 but was disappointed when it arrived- it was just totally swallowed by my 9.5 swollen manpaws and the shank was 1/2 coated in plat, so I sent it back.
I despaired of finding another placeholder that would work as a stacker with my 'someday' e-ring, that was under budget. SO was getting irritated with my constant obsessing over rings, and then dismayed after I spent the weekend (where I received and then decided to send back the ebay ring) moping around in a depression. While he's an excellent communicator, emotionally supportive, affectionate, and nurturing overall, when it comes to "shiny things" he just doesn't get it, and admits as much. He was bewildered over why I was so keyed up over a "trinket", and he didn't get it until I weepily told him I was embarrassed to have a bare finger and humiliated by the catty gossip being spread about me at work.
For those who didn't catch my ebay thread or aren't familiar with my story, SO I have been together for 6 years this holiday, and legally married for 3.5 as we're an international couple who had to get legally married in order be together in the same country. We were forced into the decision to marry only 6 months into our relationship, because we knew it would take about 2 years for the paperwork to go through- it ended up taking 2.5 years, during which we barely saw one another. It was all a huge gamble, and since I was having panic attacks over my unreadiness to marry no matter how crazy I was about this boy, we decided to consider the legal marriage our 'ceremony of co-habitation' and completely ignore getting engaged/married "for real" until we were ready. As I said in my numerous threads about my misgivings and fears, I was 100% sure about the guy, but was NOT READY for marriage. I also dreaded leaving my home, country, family, single life, all of it, for a place that was the antithesis of everything I believed in (Texas). I was never a girl who valued or wanted marriage. I was focused on my career and didn't see myself settling down.
I eventually told him that I could commit to 2 years here, no more, and we'd reassess at the 2 year mark whether we were in this for keeps. I was confident that our relationship had the potential to be everything we'd hoped, but we'd only been together for 6 months and lived together for 4 of those months. We needed to log solid, living together, real-life time before we could really make that choice. We were legally married, with a bare-bones 30 second swearing to legal terms and signing, JOP dealie in May of '08.
We'd always planned to have a 'real' engagement and 'real' wedding when we were ready ... but 3.5 years of domestic bliss, a giant wedding for my BIL, and one ring-crisis-caused depressed episode later, he asks me if I could have the ring I really want, what would it be? I asked him if he meant for now, or my 'someday' ring, and he tells me it doesn't make sense to throw away money on a temporary ring, why not get the real thing now?
I'm thinking ... is this it? Are we going to take the plunge for real?
, and we decide to exchange rings this holiday. My mother is coming down to meet his parents anyway, so the timing is perfect! 
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