MichelleCarmen
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Hi everyone,
Need advice here. A series of events has led to my kids and I living with my inlaws until dh comes back from out of state work. The deal is my MIL has always been very bright and chipper to me. She had made occasional remarks before and does talk badly about everyone, so I knew/know she talks bad about me too. The thing is, we moved in and she would sometimes say stuff under her breath. The other day, I became annoyed and defended myself. That led to her calling me numerous names and that to put the pieces together that she absolutly hates me. Venonously.
Back tracking a bit. . .She had come into my room one day while I was in there and said we should hang up the kids' artwork and said that glancing at a spot where I had but then took the pictures down. The thought crossed my mind that she was coming in when I was gone so I put a piece of paper in the corner of the door jam and made sure it wouldn't move and then later came back and the slip had fallen out of the door so I knew it had been opened.
Okay fast forward to the fight. During that I said I knew she was coming in and she *almost* smiled and then went on to another topic but we again broached that and she said this is her house and she can go anywhere in it. She then went on to tell me she wouldn't though because I'm not interesting enough to her. That I am a "nothing to her,". . .exact words! on and on. I was not upset at that point, just a bit shocked she could be so fake nice to me yet hate me so much. Because I didn't react in a hurt way, she went on to add that I have a steely demonour.
Sooo... she also made it clear she's felt this way a long time now. Question is, I am not sure if I should be helping around the house or since she feels this is HER house, I should just avoid anything that would involve touching her stuff. Would she see me helping as subtly saying her house needs some cleaning or as helpful to her?
Thoughts? With a person who feels they have all authority, do you clean or just stick to self? I do all the cooking/cleaning for my kids, of course. . .
Thanks!
Need advice here. A series of events has led to my kids and I living with my inlaws until dh comes back from out of state work. The deal is my MIL has always been very bright and chipper to me. She had made occasional remarks before and does talk badly about everyone, so I knew/know she talks bad about me too. The thing is, we moved in and she would sometimes say stuff under her breath. The other day, I became annoyed and defended myself. That led to her calling me numerous names and that to put the pieces together that she absolutly hates me. Venonously.
Back tracking a bit. . .She had come into my room one day while I was in there and said we should hang up the kids' artwork and said that glancing at a spot where I had but then took the pictures down. The thought crossed my mind that she was coming in when I was gone so I put a piece of paper in the corner of the door jam and made sure it wouldn't move and then later came back and the slip had fallen out of the door so I knew it had been opened.
Okay fast forward to the fight. During that I said I knew she was coming in and she *almost* smiled and then went on to another topic but we again broached that and she said this is her house and she can go anywhere in it. She then went on to tell me she wouldn't though because I'm not interesting enough to her. That I am a "nothing to her,". . .exact words! on and on. I was not upset at that point, just a bit shocked she could be so fake nice to me yet hate me so much. Because I didn't react in a hurt way, she went on to add that I have a steely demonour.
Sooo... she also made it clear she's felt this way a long time now. Question is, I am not sure if I should be helping around the house or since she feels this is HER house, I should just avoid anything that would involve touching her stuff. Would she see me helping as subtly saying her house needs some cleaning or as helpful to her?
Thoughts? With a person who feels they have all authority, do you clean or just stick to self? I do all the cooking/cleaning for my kids, of course. . .
Thanks!