Pandora II
Ideal_Rock
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For those that have kids (and those who don''t yet), what are you all doing about legal guardians were something awful to happen to you and your DH/SO?
Should the guardian be a family member? How did you choose? What was important to you?
DH and I are having problems deciding on a legal guardian for Daisy - we need to draw up wills shortly and need to set out the details.
We thought about his eldest brother, but his wife is from the USA and they will probably move back there. I wouldn''t have a problem with Daisy growing up in the USA, but it would be important to me that she saw my family and that would then be almost impossible.
My younger sister and her husband are totally dysfunctional and have a pretty bad marriage so they''re totally out.
DH''s younger brother is lovely, but I don''t think he''d necessarily make the choices that we would want for her.
My youngest sister and DH''s youngest brother are still too young and not yet settled in any way.
I''m currently veering towards my brother and his wife - I don''t care for her but I know she would be a good parent to our daughter and that my brother would bring Daisy up as we would want and would take the job of ensuring that she saw ALL her relatives very seriously.
DH on the other hand wants to ask one of his best friends... I like them, but have only met them a handful of occasions. I also think that it''s inappropriate when we have so many sibilings between us, and anyway, it''s a huge responsibility taking on any child let alone one to who you are not related to - and who you would have to take to see 3 sets of grandparents who you have no connection with.
Hopefully the guardians will never be needed, but I want to make the right choice and I just don''t think a friend is the right person to entrust/inflict this responsibility on.
Should the guardian be a family member? How did you choose? What was important to you?
DH and I are having problems deciding on a legal guardian for Daisy - we need to draw up wills shortly and need to set out the details.
We thought about his eldest brother, but his wife is from the USA and they will probably move back there. I wouldn''t have a problem with Daisy growing up in the USA, but it would be important to me that she saw my family and that would then be almost impossible.
My younger sister and her husband are totally dysfunctional and have a pretty bad marriage so they''re totally out.
DH''s younger brother is lovely, but I don''t think he''d necessarily make the choices that we would want for her.
My youngest sister and DH''s youngest brother are still too young and not yet settled in any way.
I''m currently veering towards my brother and his wife - I don''t care for her but I know she would be a good parent to our daughter and that my brother would bring Daisy up as we would want and would take the job of ensuring that she saw ALL her relatives very seriously.
DH on the other hand wants to ask one of his best friends... I like them, but have only met them a handful of occasions. I also think that it''s inappropriate when we have so many sibilings between us, and anyway, it''s a huge responsibility taking on any child let alone one to who you are not related to - and who you would have to take to see 3 sets of grandparents who you have no connection with.
Hopefully the guardians will never be needed, but I want to make the right choice and I just don''t think a friend is the right person to entrust/inflict this responsibility on.