lady PS ers only talk about cheating men...

[Dancing Fire]

i''m sure you known some cheating wives too. sooo ladies...lets hear some stories.

 

[Kelli]

To be quite honest I can''t think of any. Either the women I know are all happy in their relationships, or they are just WAAAY smarter than the male counterparts about keeping it quiet.

 

[kenny]

I think women cheat less often than men, in part because of the risk of pregnancy.
Yeah - duh - there is pretty good birth control technology now, but that's only been recent, in the evolutionary time span.

I think women are not as wired for promiscuity as men are.
By wired I mean what zillions of years of evolution rewarded - not what is culturally appropriate today.

BTW the only woman I've ever known to cheat was a lesbian.

I better don my flame suite since I pointed out a difference.

 

[radiantquest]

Well there was a couple friend that we had. They had been married for a while and had two small kids. I can''t remember how he found out, but she was having an affair and really had no intention of stopping. He was devestated, but not sad. He was angry. Since were were couple friends it was a little difficult choosing sides because this was not the kind of situation where you could remain neutral. It was a really bad situation because neither one of them could afford the house alone. She worked at a nursing home cleaning up after the ederly and so did her new boyfriend. Neither one of them were making any money and soon after it all came out she let loose that she was pregnant with this new guys baby. They were going to have an interracial baby and her entire family disowned her and apparently our friend, her husband said that he was offended that he was of another race. Anyway, he was talking about her and calling her deragatory names and all and then DH started it too, but not as bad. Now I agree that cheating in a marriage is wrong, the fact that it is with someone of a different race shouldn''t matter at all. I got so fed up with them calling her names that I finally stood up for her even though I don''t agree with what she did. The husband, DH and I were sitting around and the husband started bashing her and I finally told him that happy women don''t cheat and although it was wrong she was missing someting in the marriage and instead of being angry with her he should think about why she went elsewhere. DH thought it was harsh and didn''t agree at first, but it makes sense. The husband is no longer friends with us. He did a lot of things that he shouldn''t have and only wanted to blame her and I was tired of it.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/12/2009 3:22:29 PM
Author: radiantquest
Well there was a couple friend that we had. They had been married for a while and had two small kids. I can''t remember how he found out, but she was having an affair and really had no intention of stopping. He was devestated, but not sad. He was angry. Since were were couple friends it was a little difficult choosing sides because this was not the kind of situation where you could remain neutral. It was a really bad situation because neither one of them could afford the house alone. She worked at a nursing home cleaning up after the ederly and so did her new boyfriend. Neither one of them were making any money and soon after it all came out she let loose that she was pregnant with this new guys baby. They were going to have an interracial baby and her entire family disowned her and apparently our friend, her husband said that he was offended that he was of another race. Anyway, he was talking about her and calling her deragatory names and all and then DH started it too, but not as bad. Now I agree that cheating in a marriage is wrong, the fact that it is with someone of a different race shouldn''t matter at all. I got so fed up with them calling her names that I finally stood up for her even though I don''t agree with what she did. The husband, DH and I were sitting around and the husband started bashing her and I finally told him that happy women don''t cheat and although it was wrong she was missing someting in the marriage and instead of being angry with her he should think about why she went elsewhere. DH thought it was harsh and didn''t agree at first, but it makes sense. The husband is no longer friends with us. He did a lot of things that he shouldn''t have and only wanted to blame her and I was tired of it.

here we go again...always his fault,just like every divorce on PS

 

[vespergirl]

I know of several women who have cheated on their husbands. In fact, I recently read a study that said that women are most likely to cheat in early motherhood, when their children are very young. Frequently this is because their husbands view them differently when they become mothers, and they are looking to validate themselves as still being desirable and attractive.

I have a history of infidelity myself - never during my marriage (or during my first marriage, which broke up over financial and health issues), but with a boyfriend I had when I was much younger. I had difficulty turning down new admirers in a long term relationship and was sowing my wild oats. He was a great guy and we really loved each other, but I was too young and immature to fully commit.

However, I take my marriage vows very seriously, and have been faithful to my husband since the time we decided to date exclusively.

 

[VRBeauty]

Share away, Dancing Fire. I''m sure you have a few good examples under your belt...

 

[radiantquest]

Date: 12/12/2009 4:25:48 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 12/12/2009 3:22:29 PM
Author: radiantquest
Well there was a couple friend that we had. They had been married for a while and had two small kids. I can't remember how he found out, but she was having an affair and really had no intention of stopping. He was devestated, but not sad. He was angry. Since were were couple friends it was a little difficult choosing sides because this was not the kind of situation where you could remain neutral. It was a really bad situation because neither one of them could afford the house alone. She worked at a nursing home cleaning up after the ederly and so did her new boyfriend. Neither one of them were making any money and soon after it all came out she let loose that she was pregnant with this new guys baby. They were going to have an interracial baby and her entire family disowned her and apparently our friend, her husband said that he was offended that he was of another race. Anyway, he was talking about her and calling her deragatory names and all and then DH started it too, but not as bad. Now I agree that cheating in a marriage is wrong, the fact that it is with someone of a different race shouldn't matter at all. I got so fed up with them calling her names that I finally stood up for her even though I don't agree with what she did. The husband, DH and I were sitting around and the husband started bashing her and I finally told him that happy women don't cheat and although it was wrong she was missing someting in the marriage and instead of being angry with her he should think about why she went elsewhere. DH thought it was harsh and didn't agree at first, but it makes sense. The husband is no longer friends with us. He did a lot of things that he shouldn't have and only wanted to blame her and I was tired of it.

here we go again...always his fault,just like every divorce on PS

I stated that it was wrong of her and that in no way did I agree. But I was tired of hearing him dog her. You can't say that you do not agree to a certain extent. It applies both ways. If a woman cheats or if a man cheats. Of course the one that was cheated on is betrayed and it may not even be their fault that their spouse needed to be gratified in some way that led them astray. Sometimes a man or a woman is the best wife or husband that he/she can be but their partner needs something else that they can't or don't provide. In a very extreme case, fetishes. If one or the other has a strange fetish, lets say the man. The woman is loving, and attentive and does all the things that a man would usually be thrilled about, but she will not do this one thing that drives her spouse into a frenzy then he will leave their bed to find it elsewhere. She was not satisfying him.

 

[AGBF]

Date: 12/12/2009 2:59:20 PM
Author:Dancing Fire

i'm sure you known some cheating wives too. sooo ladies...lets hear some stories.

We've already done it. Here's the thread that shows the first Pricescope reaction to the split of Kate Hudson and her husband. It wasn't immediately clear that she had fallen for Owen Wilson.

AGBF

 

[MonkeyPie]

To be honest, I don''t know any women that have cheated - it has always been the man. And it has less to do with the fact that women are better at hiding it, than the fact that women are just less prone to cheating in general. They would rather end a relationship that was going badly than sneak around.

 

[february2003bride]

Through a mutual friend I do know a woman who is a serial cheater. She has both a serious relationship with a man other than her husband and she hooks up with strangers. My DH''s ex-wife cheated on him with some hot swedish guy who is now her husband.

 

[Cehrabehra]

I think that''s because the women who have cheated are not likely to stand up and say it. I can only think of one who admitted it here. If this was a forum mostly filled with women I bet the reverse would be true (though I think men are generally less shameful and would still be more likely to admit it).

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/12/2009 4:37:01 PM
Author: VRBeauty
Share away, Dancing Fire. I'm sure you have a few good examples under your belt...

i don't gossip like State workers.

let just say...i heard stories about women sleeping with upper management just to get a promotion.

 

[Cehrabehra]

the only women I''ve known who have "cheated" did so with the consent of their husbands... one couple did some swapping but really it was more between my friend and the other husband - and that went on for almost a year with her husband coming home for lunch so she could get off a quickie with one of his best friends. After that ended they still had an open relationship for quite some time, but they are amicably separated now. Another couple he liked watching her with other men, they''re still happily married but she says they haven''t done that in a few years, and a third couple I know invites other women into their bed all together, but again not recently. I seem to be the person that people come to with these things even though my own life is quite traditional lol

 

[trillionaire]

I don''t know if it quite counts as ''cheating'', but I have a friend who is dating someone who she knows is married and has a girlfriend... allegedly a live-in girlfriend. And she activelty tries to sabotage her man-friend and get him in trouble.

She has some issues... however, she is not seeing anyone on the side.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

I''ve known some wives who cheated and engaged women who cheated, too.

 

[HVVS]

Date: 12/12/2009 10:28:17 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 12/12/2009 4:37:01 PM

Author: VRBeauty

Share away, Dancing Fire. I'm sure you have a few good examples under your belt...

i don't gossip like State workers.

let just say...i heard stories about women sleeping with upper management just to get a promotion.

Hey, if that's all you have to do to get a promotion... Where did they work?

VRBeauty: LOL! (smirk)

I think that fewer women cheat because women are more inclined to be seeking the kind of intimacy that you get from a meaningful relationship, rather than just the thrill of somebody new. There are some that get a thrill out of bedhopping, but I don't know too many of them. And truthfully, most of them are lower socioeconomic women who see that as simply how they trade up to a better boyfriend or husband. I know few middle class or upper middle class women who cheat. I know of no single professional women who have had affairs with married men. Simple things for simple minds, I guess.

 

[perry]

Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship.

http://www.authorsden.com/categories/article_top.asp?catid=57&id=28879


I''ve never cheated (not even on anyone I was dating); nor I have had relationships with someone who was married. However, I''ve certainly had my oportunities with married women. I believe that comes from that fact that I like helping people - and if you help a lady they seem to become more interested in you. I''ve had to extricate myself from some interesting situations.

As far as who I know: mums the word - that is private info and will remain so.

Perry

 

[lucyandroger]

I''ve known women who cheated -- anybody can cheat. No interesting stories though. One of the women''s husband knew about the extra-marital relationship but chose to look the other way...really quite sad.

 

[diamondringlover]

I have only know 1 woman that has cheated.

 

[kenny]

Women have been known to do dumb things for love sex too.

 

[AGBF]

Life is not always so black and white. People do things for subconscious reasons. Sometimes a man may want to "share" his wife with another man by encouraging her to have an affair with him because of a latent homosexual tendency. Whole societies do things that allow the release of certain impulses within the people who live in those societies. Anthropologists have looked at the way that women are passed around-for marriage-in many different societies all over the world, but men never are, as evidence that men can be close through the sharing of women. Watch the movie "César and Rosalie".

AGBF

 

[klewis]

Kenny, you have a way with pictures.
I had forgotten about that story. Another promising career and life ruined and of course, not only hers. The irony is that she is probably still wearing an orange suit.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 12/13/2009 2:24:41 PM
Author: klewis
Kenny, you have a way with pictures.

I had forgotten about that story. Another promising career and life ruined and of course, not only hers. The irony is that she is probably still wearing an orange suit.

who is that?

 

[klewis]

Date: 12/13/2009 2:44:46 PM
Author: Cehrabehra

Date: 12/13/2009 2:24:41 PM

Author: klewis

Kenny, you have a way with pictures.


I had forgotten about that story. Another promising career and life ruined and of course, not only hers. The irony is that she is probably still wearing an orange suit.

who is that?

Lisa Knowak - I think I have her name correct. She was tried for kidnap and attempted murder of her male colleague''s girlfriend.

 

[HVVS]

There were two couples at work who always socialized together. After a while, they announced that they''d decided to divorce and marry each other''s wife/husband. I guess that it all worked out. After they swapped mates, they stayed married.

 

[AGBF]

Date: 12/13/2009 5:02:42 PM
Author: HVVS

There were two couples at work who always socialized together. After a while, they announced that they'd decided to divorce and marry each other's wife/husband. I guess that it all worked out. After they swapped mates, they stayed married.

...and look at Meredith Baxter (Birney). I just read that she wants the public to know she is a lesbian, although she found out herself a relatively short time ago. She is now 62 and has a 54 (I think) year-old female partner. She was married three times and had five children. She thinks that her having been a lesbian all long probably contributed to the problems she had in her marriages! Sometimes you have to try things out.


AGBF

 

[klewis]

Date: 12/13/2009 5:58:09 PM
Author: AGBF

Date: 12/13/2009 5:02:42 PM

Author: HVVS


There were two couples at work who always socialized together. After a while, they announced that they''d decided to divorce and marry each other''s wife/husband. I guess that it all worked out. After they swapped mates, they stayed married.

...and look at Meredith Baxter (Birney). I just read that she wants the public to know she is a lesbian, although she found out herself a relatively short time ago. She is now 62 and has a 54 (I think) year-old female partner. She was married three times and had five children. She thinks that her having been a lesbian all long probably contributed to the problems she had in her marriages! Sometimes you have to try things out.



AGBF

I heard a snippet of news about her. It''s good news she finally came to the realize her sexuality. Did she know all along and been concealing it? Concealing it certainly would create a few problems.

I had a colleague whose husband was homosexual, or perhaps bisexual, and his wife didn''t know. I knew a previous room mate of his who had known him when he''d had male lovers. Anyway it was their business. He eventually contracted HIV which he''d "caught", he told her, by helping a tramp who had been involved in an accident.
The most important thing to him was to be "successful" which I believe meant having a wife and I think his wife was also into the same idea of success and perhaps didn''t want to face the reality. He has a successful career, pops up on TV from time to time and in the news and magazines too and whenever I see him I wonder. Well actually I really think thank god I don''t have to live my life like that.

 

[Kelli]

When I answered before, I was thinking about the married/engaged women I know. If I extend the thought to my single friends, I can think of a few. One who cheated on her boyfriend before they became engaged. Then they became engaged and he broke up with her shortly after. Now, he wants her back but shares her with the two other people she''s seeing, one of which has a live-in long term girlfriend himself. It always just seemed that this particular girl was looking for some kind of validation through other guys wanting her. I used to listen to Loveline a lot with Dr. Drew and Adam Corolla (won''t listen to it anymore now that he''s not on it) and Drew always said that the majority of times that women cheat is because they''re not getting their emotional needs met. As much as I hate that we women are built like that, it seems to have always been the case among the people I knew.

 

[AGBF]

Date: 12/13/2009 6:39:35 PM
Author: klewis


I heard a snippet of news about her. It''s good news she finally came to the realize her sexuality. Did she know all along and been concealing it? Concealing it certainly would create a few problems.

She says that she did not know...and I see no reason why she would lie. What was going on with her subconsciously is another matter entirely, however. She said in the interview I read that she had had at least one physical interlude with another woman in the past but brushed it off as meaningless. Obviously she wasn''t doing much soul searching. She also says that she was doing some very heavy drinking for a number of a years, however, and that can certainly keep one from soul searching...from refining the fine points of his life at all.

AGBF