ladies,would you be upset if you didn't receive...

[Dancing Fire]

a 25th anniversary gift from your husband?

 

[Missy]

ummm,yeah! It would depend on the circumstances though, of course, as with everything.

Why didn't he? If we were in financial difficulty then I would want a romantic gesture and homemade card.
If he was ill and unable to do anything for me then of course I wouldn't expect anything. I mean, what are the circumstances?
Did he just forget? That would not go over well with me LOL but if there was a good reason I would totally understand. I love my dh and his love for me and mine for him is what really matters!

 

[mayerling]

Not at all. FI and I don't really exchange gifts on what's usually considered a 'major occasion'.

 

[bee*]

I wouldn't be upset if I didn't get a gift but I would like some acknowledgment of the milestone like a card. It's a bit achievement and a long time to be together so I'd like to celebrate it.

 

[Tuckins1]

I think I would... It's not so much about the "gift", but more about celebrating and acknowledging it. I will certainly get him a gift!

 

[Jennifer W]

No. I don't really care about stuff like that. We'd be unlikely to buy each other gifts, and certainly not as a surprise. DH is very good at gifts and good at picking up hints (which I think are almost subliminal but he says are as subtle as neon writing haha). Nice that he takes the trouble, but not something I'd be upset over if he didn't.

I'm not big on remembering anniversaries etc anyway. I was asked to write the date of my marriage on a form last month and was forced to admit that I couldn't remember it. I had to phone DH and ask. It will be a while before I live that one down. A friend of mine received an antique sapphire and OEC ring for her 24th anniversary, because her husband miscounted. I love that, because he felt obliged to 'top' it the next year to look as though he'd remembered in the first place...

ETA if we had spare money, I'd like to pick out a honking big yellow diamond to mark the occasion, but I'm sort of hoping to buy that a long before my 25th anniversary...

 

[luv2sparkle]

I wouldn't be mad if we had talked about it and there was a reason. In any given year we may or may not buy each other gifts
for any occasion. We usually talk about it. If I felt he just blew it off and couldn't be bothered, I would be very hurt. DH always
buys me a card and writes very sweet things inside. I have 31 years of them, I have saved every single one. They are my real treasure.

 

[slg47]

I wouldn't be mad if we had talked about it and there was a reason. In any given year we may or may not buy each other gifts
for any occasion. We usually talk about it. If I felt he just blew it off and couldn't be bothered, I would be very hurt. DH always
buys me a card and writes very sweet things inside. I have 31 years of them, I have saved every single one. They are my real treasure.

this.

 

[ChloeTheGreat]

Ask me in about 26 years...

 

[shihtzulover]

Yes, I think that I would be upset, because 25 years is a major milestone!

Of course, my fiance and I aren't even married yet, so I'm not 100% sure how I will feel at that point.

 

[elrohwen]

Not really, but we plan trips and meals for our anniversaries rather than give gifts. If I brought up the idea of planning a short trip or going out to a nice restaurant and he turned me down, then yes, I would be upset, but mostly confused. I also don't care if things happen on our exact anniversary, so if he put off a dinner out until the next weekend that would be normal.

 

[movie zombie]

Not at all. FI and I don't really exchange gifts on what's usually considered a 'major occasion'.

same here.

MoZo

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I have no idea. Dh and I have many future plans and there is no way to predict where we'll be in our lives at that point in time.

Also, a "gift" can mean anything from a simple card, a diamond pendant, or a huge rock. Or it could be a trip around the world or money to pay for graduate school.

I think this is too broad of a question to answer yes or no. (ETA - are you asking specifically about jewelry?)

 

[Dancing Fire]

well...March 9th was our 25th anni.

at first i couldn't decide on what to get my wife for our 25th,then by the time i decided (on March 7) i was told the item will take 2-3 weeks for delivery so now it'll either be a late 25th anni gift or an early May birthday gift. should i wait til May before i give it to her?...

lunchtime!!

 

[AprilBaby]

I definitely wanted something good for 25 years and hinted for quite a while and I got my diamond upgrade so yes, I would have been disappointed. I think after 25 years I was worth it! We also took a trip to Europe 3 years late to celebrate.

 

[Kaleigh]

Congrats on 25 years DF!! What was her reaction?? If she seemed dissappointed then I would tell her what the delay is... But give it to her before her birthday. Surprise her with it. And get her something else for her bday... I think a 25th anniversary gift needs to have it's own day to celebrated and not added on to her birthday. Her birthday is a special day as well, and needs to be seperate from your anniversary. Not a 2 for one special IYKWIM......

We are celebrating our's in September and then in Jan I hit the big 50!!! Those are two big milestones and need their own special celebration. I don't care what he gives me. Just recognizing it , that's what is important.

 

[Black Jade]

Why be upset? If you want one, ask for one. that's what I did. Sweet hubby wanted us to take a trip together, which we did, but I told him I also wanted a gift to commemorate, because I am a gift person. He obliged with an anniversary ring.

How would he know I had wanted one unless I asked for one?

I also got him a gift, becasue I like to give gifts as much as I like to get them. I got him the (very expensive, but not as expensive as diamond ring) blazer from our Ivy League college that he had been saying for years that he wanted "when he got older'. I figured, married for 25 years meant he was older enough. He loves it and constantly wears it and I'm happy whenever I see him in it. we met in college.

thirtieth anniversary in two years, God willing!

 

[iugurl]

Yes I would be mad and hurt! Unless there was a good reason (money very tight or something). And even if we couldn't afford ANYthing he better do something - cook dinner or have a picnic in the park or something. Plus, I would expect a card

ETA: We don't celebrate ANYTHING at all besides our anniversary. Normally we go all out, it is the only time of year that we exchange gifts (besides little things throughout the year). No Christmas, Valentine's Day, birthdays etc.

 

[Hera]

That would never happen because I would have already bought it for myself. I almost never let my husband buy me gifts. Every so often on a holiday, I purchase something for myself and tell him it's my Valentine's Day, Easter....whatever day gift. He doesn't have the same eye that I do when it comes to gems and I like to micromanage too much so I just do it myself and that makes me happy. It doesn't work the other way for my husband though because he likes to be surprised. So, I go and buy him whatever I think he's coveting at the time and he's happy.
I think this way of thinking stems from my mom and the fact that she always needed big,elaborate gifts and I would always fail miserably even though I would put so much work into them. I never wanted my husband to feel disappointed by not finding something that would please me. This way there is no disappointment on either side.

 

[Ninna]

Not mad but, when the average American household makes 400 loads of laundry per year x 25= 10K YOU BET!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Congrats on 25 years DF!! What was her reaction?? If she seemed dissappointed then I would tell her what the delay is... But give it to her before her birthday. Surprise her with it. And get her something else for her bday... I think a 25th anniversary gift needs to have it's own day to celebrated and not added on to her birthday. Her birthday is a special day as well, and needs to be seperate from your anniversary. Not a 2 for one special IYKWIM......

We are celebrating our's in September and then in Jan I hit the big 50!!! Those are two big milestones and need their own special celebration. I don't care what he gives me. Just recognizing it , that's what is important.

i think she was dissappointed for a couple of days,but has gotten over it since,and no i haven't told her that i got her a 25th anni gift.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Not mad but, when the average American household makes 400 loads of laundry per year x 25= 10K YOU BET!

eeeh, I better start getting caught up on the laundry or my DH may end up getting me a new dryer for our anniversary!

 

[stci]

I never receive an anniversary gift because we don't had enough money. Yes it's really hard to accept this situation and tell nothing...

But for 30th DH gave me 1.42 diamond ring that I adore.... In september 16, it would be the 34th and nothing is suppose to arrive.

I have to say that I bought my proper jewelry. I save for and when I'm ok, I bought a dream piece. Wahoooooo!

 

[justjulia]

We kept it simple for our 25th... I asked for a silver Pandora Queen Bee bead, and I got it. I don't like surprises....especially when I know what I want! (and I know it won't break the bank...)

 

[Skippy123]

Congrats on 25 years DF!! What was her reaction?? If she seemed dissappointed then I would tell her what the delay is... But give it to her before her birthday. Surprise her with it. And get her something else for her bday... I think a 25th anniversary gift needs to have it's own day to celebrated and not added on to her birthday. Her birthday is a special day as well, and needs to be seperate from your anniversary. Not a 2 for one special IYKWIM......

We are celebrating our's in September and then in Jan I hit the big 50!!! Those are two big milestones and need their own special celebration. I don't care what he gives me. Just recognizing it , that's what is important.

i think she was dissappointed for a couple of days,but has gotten over it since,and no i haven't told her that i got her a 25th anni gift.

well she sounds like an awesome lady to not bring it up. Give it to her soon when you get it! Aw, that is sweet of you. What did you get her? Happy 25th anniversary!!!

 

[Dancing Fire]

Congrats on 25 years DF!! What was her reaction?? If she seemed dissappointed then I would tell her what the delay is... But give it to her before her birthday. Surprise her with it. And get her something else for her bday... I think a 25th anniversary gift needs to have it's own day to celebrated and not added on to her birthday. Her birthday is a special day as well, and needs to be seperate from your anniversary. Not a 2 for one special IYKWIM......

We are celebrating our's in September and then in Jan I hit the big 50!!! Those are two big milestones and need their own special celebration. I don't care what he gives me. Just recognizing it , that's what is important.

i think she was dissappointed for a couple of days,but has gotten over it since,and no i haven't told her that i got her a 25th anni gift.

well she sounds like an awesome lady to not bring it up. Give it to her soon when you get it! Aw, that is sweet of you. What did you get her? Happy 25th anniversary!!!

thanks,Skippy.i bought her a 14K WG diamond bangle bracelet.

 

[Dancing Fire]

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[Dancing Fire]

Not mad but, when the average American household makes 400 loads of laundry per year x 25= 10K YOU BET!

eeeh, I better start getting caught up on the laundry or my DH may end up getting me a new dryer for our anniversary!

MC
would you prefer a washboard instead of a dryer?...

 

[FrekeChild]

I figure if we knew each other for a year prior to engagement and I got a 2ct engagement ring (Isn't that *your* average for LIW, DF?), I would expect about 27 carats for 25 years. One carat per year. And of course it's on top of the initial 2 carats...

I figure that makes as much sense as your calculations for figuring out the *average* LIW ering....

 

[Dancing Fire]

I figure if we knew each other for a year prior to engagement and I got a 2ct engagement ring (Isn't that *your* average for LIW, DF?), I would expect about 27 carats for 25 years. One carat per year. And of course it's on top of the initial 2 carats...

I figure that makes as much sense as your calculations for figuring out the *average* LIW ering....

no,not 1ct per yr... the basic rule is .10ct per yr... lets assume your original Ering was a 1ct then you decided to upgrade after 5 yrs,so in this case 1ct + .50ct = 1.5ct...