stevebudha
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- May 19, 2006
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This is my first post although I have been lurking and learning for quite a while. I decided to finally post because something has really been bugging me and I am hoping to get some insight on this.
I have to keep some details vague, as my girlfriend lurks on this site and I don''t want her to realize it is me posting this (and, no, my name is not really Steve).
My girlfriend and I discussed buying an engagement rings a few months ago. She discovered this site after searching sites like Blue Nile and Mondera and visiting several mall jewelry stores. I have been reading up the loads of information and am amazed at the amount of information out there and how I almost made a completely uneducated purchase.
I upped my budget considerably after I learned what I actually could get for the budget I first started with. My budget is less than many of the rings I see here, but I think I can still get her something really nice without putting myself in debt.
My problem is that my girlfriend is constantly comparing herself and what she is expecting to get to the people on this site. She constantly points out when someone gets an upgrade or a new setting. I am kind of dumbfounded at the number of ladies that have upgraded their diamonds in such a short time frame. Maybe I am more sentimental than some of the ladies here, but I think that upgrades should be saved for major anniversaries (5, 10 20 years for example). It seems like it is not unusual for ladies to upgrade their diamonds more than once a year. My girlfriend seems to be completely enamored with diamonds in the 2 carat range, something I know I cannot afford now, nor do I know if I ever want to spend that much money on a diamond.
So my question to the ladies, especially those who have upgraded, is when does it stop? Is there ever going to be a time when you are completely satisfied? Or, is it when you hit that magic number that all the trading in/up stops? I am asking because I think my girlfriend is setting her expectations high and will be disappointed in what I am able to get her, and I do not want to be resentful nor have the question of "how soon can I upgrade?" asked. I would like to think that she would be happy with whatever I get her (and yes, I do know what shape, kind of metal and setting she wants) but I get this nagging feeling that she will ultimately look at her ring and not be happy.
I have discussed this with her and she admits that she does get jealous of the beautiful rings out there because she knows hers will not be as big as some on this site (and for the record, I am getting a center stone of around 1ct) and she will just get mad that I didn''t sacrifice more money for her "dream ring".
Am I being off base here? I don''t mean to offend anyone, but I want this engagement ring experience to be a joyful one and not one riddled with jealously and "what if''s".
I have to keep some details vague, as my girlfriend lurks on this site and I don''t want her to realize it is me posting this (and, no, my name is not really Steve).
My girlfriend and I discussed buying an engagement rings a few months ago. She discovered this site after searching sites like Blue Nile and Mondera and visiting several mall jewelry stores. I have been reading up the loads of information and am amazed at the amount of information out there and how I almost made a completely uneducated purchase.
I upped my budget considerably after I learned what I actually could get for the budget I first started with. My budget is less than many of the rings I see here, but I think I can still get her something really nice without putting myself in debt.
My problem is that my girlfriend is constantly comparing herself and what she is expecting to get to the people on this site. She constantly points out when someone gets an upgrade or a new setting. I am kind of dumbfounded at the number of ladies that have upgraded their diamonds in such a short time frame. Maybe I am more sentimental than some of the ladies here, but I think that upgrades should be saved for major anniversaries (5, 10 20 years for example). It seems like it is not unusual for ladies to upgrade their diamonds more than once a year. My girlfriend seems to be completely enamored with diamonds in the 2 carat range, something I know I cannot afford now, nor do I know if I ever want to spend that much money on a diamond.
So my question to the ladies, especially those who have upgraded, is when does it stop? Is there ever going to be a time when you are completely satisfied? Or, is it when you hit that magic number that all the trading in/up stops? I am asking because I think my girlfriend is setting her expectations high and will be disappointed in what I am able to get her, and I do not want to be resentful nor have the question of "how soon can I upgrade?" asked. I would like to think that she would be happy with whatever I get her (and yes, I do know what shape, kind of metal and setting she wants) but I get this nagging feeling that she will ultimately look at her ring and not be happy.
I have discussed this with her and she admits that she does get jealous of the beautiful rings out there because she knows hers will not be as big as some on this site (and for the record, I am getting a center stone of around 1ct) and she will just get mad that I didn''t sacrifice more money for her "dream ring".
Am I being off base here? I don''t mean to offend anyone, but I want this engagement ring experience to be a joyful one and not one riddled with jealously and "what if''s".