Scorpioanne
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I ran into one of my high school teachers on Friday (about 35 years after-the-fact) and when I reintroduced myself to him he commented that as a person with an interest in geneaology that it is a shame that women's names get lost so he thinks to is wonderful when women keep thier names in some way, shape or form. Since I am 52 he must be mid to late 70s so let's not assume that older adults think women should take thier husband's names. It seems to me that fewer young women keep thier names these days (at least going by the former students of mine that I know have been married recently).Circe|1331075132|3142218 said:amc80|1331072426|3142177 said:TravelingGal|1331071957|3142174 said:Circe|1331070965|3142153 said:I would prefer not to disappear from history, or to have to start anew upon marriage. The first half of my life counts, too.
Well said Circe.
The first half my life (pre marriage) built my character.
The second of my life (post marriage) I assume will only build my patience levels.
I guess I don't see how changing your name is giving up who you are or what you've accomplished. I earned my masters degree before I was married. I have a different name now, but I still earned the degree. It's still mine.
ETA and remotely off topic- Any Friends fans remember when Phoebe was changing her name? She didn't realize she could change her entire name...so she wanted to go with Princess Consuela Bananahammock. Her husband told her if she was going to do that then he was changing his name to Crap Bag.
Er ... apologies if I was unclear: I'm not raising abstract, philosophical objections here. A woman's accomplishments are her own no matter what her name (Dr. Princess Bananahammock? perhaps? ) What I'm saying is that it's been very difficult for researchers to track women's lives through history, because there's no continuity. Women disappear out of history when their names change.
Let's put it like this: having worked hard to publish and leave my mark as Circe Russian-Jewish Name, I'd find it a little dispiriting to basically start over as Circe Swedish Name who appeared out of nowhere, from the perspective of great-great-great grandkids trying to figure out where they came from.
ETA: Thanks, TG - and no kidding!