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[Smurfysmiles]

Does it feel like everytime you say something like oh i got this and this done finally, someone has to chip in "Just wait til you have kids"? Why can''t people just reply oh that''s great! I dunno, how do you guys feel when people turn a completely normal comment into something about kids? Sometimes it just drives me nuts...

 

[yssie]

YES. ALL the time. And I''m not even married!


Worse, they NEVER say that to FI, only me.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

Agreed, dh never has to hear it either! What is with that!!

 

[DisneyBride828]

haha i totally agree. We have a lot of pets, cos i''m a vet nurse, and we just feel the urge to save everyone, lol. People always say, "well when u have kids you''re going to have to get rid of some". I think to myself..."Yea, let me just get rid of our family!!!" Wish i could get rid of some of the PEOPLE sometimes, haha.

 

[BeachRunner]

I''ll admit, DH and I aren''t the busiest people out there. I have one job and one cat and I never say how I don''t have time for anything. As lame as it sounds, my running is probably a time consumer more than anything else, aside from my job of course.

So no, we don''t get that at all!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

Beach- I never am one to say I don''t have time to do anything either (aside from during wedding planning i said it a couple times lol) I actually said how I had cooked dinner, cleaned the apartment, washed and put away the laundry and fit my workout in all before 6pm. Then someone just HAD to comment "Just wait until you have kids" Well no DUH. It''s just one of those captain obvious things that gets under my skin I guess lol

 

[Haven]

I''d be tempted to reply:
"That''s why we haven''t had any yet."

Sometimes I think people forget that it is THEIR CHOICE to have children.

I''ve never had anyone say anything like that to me, though. I don''t really ever talk about what I do with time with anyone other than DH, so that''s probably why.

 

[PumpkinPie]

I don''t actually get this comment but I can imagine how annoying it would be!

 

[wannaBMrsH]

Date: 4/24/2010 7:02:41 PM
Author: Haven
I''d be tempted to reply:
''That''s why we haven''t had any yet.''

Sometimes I think people forget that it is THEIR CHOICE to have children.

I''ve never had anyone say anything like that to me, though. I don''t really ever talk about what I do with time with anyone other than DH, so that''s probably why.

Ditto. I replied a few times, "That''s why we aren''t having any!" and that pretty much stops it.

Now everyone focuses on telling me how awesome kids are and that I should try it!

People are so strange...

 

[Amzizzle]

We all get it,you have kids,and they are time consuming.It doesn''t need to be stated constantly.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

I almost wonder, maybe this is a way for people to with kids to fish for compliments? Oh you''re right, you do work really hard. Maybe just looking for some validation? I dunno, just an idea. Or maybe it is just one of those automatic response things. I know the girls I know who are getting married, I have purposefully strayed from asking "Are you getting excited?!" and things like that. I really make an effort to be mindful of this overstated sayings because of my own experience with it.

 

[annadragon]

This is why I have the handy response and complementary horrified and disgusted look of, "Oh, I''m not for breeding

" or "My womb is not for producing small, life-sucking aliens!"

Typically, this devolves into "You don''t like children?" and I get to reply "Sure, with steak sauce"

 

[lilyfoot]

Date: 4/24/2010 7:02:41 PM
Author: Haven

Sometimes I think people forget that it is THEIR CHOICE to have children.

I completely agree! People act like their children just fell out of the sky one day or something!

 

[Dandi]

id=ms__id45>Date: 4/27/2010 4:40:41 PM
Author: annadragon
This is why I have the handy response and complementary horrified and disgusted look of, ''Oh, I''m not for breeding

'' or ''My womb is not for producing small, life-sucking aliens!''

Typically, this devolves into ''You don''t like children?'' and I get to reply ''Sure, with steak sauce''

*snort*

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Date: 4/24/2010 7:02:41 PM
Author: Haven
I''d be tempted to reply:
''That''s why we haven''t had any yet.''

Sometimes I think people forget that it is THEIR CHOICE to have children.

I''ve never had anyone say anything like that to me, though. I don''t really ever talk about what I do with time with anyone other than DH, so that''s probably why.

I agree with this--I actually don''t hear this very often, but I have to admit it''s one of the reasons we haven''t started trying yet. Feel stressed with your job? Wait until you have kids! Wish you had more money? Wait until you have kids! Don''t have enough time to relax on the weekends? Wait until you have kids!

So that''s just what we plan to do...we''ll just wait until we are a bit less selfish with ourselves and our own time before we have kids! Sounds like an easy solution to me...

 

[ArtistJess]

Even though I've been all over the boards today, I just HAD to chime in for this one. It seems like every time I turn around now, people are hinting that DF and I start thinking about a family.

My side of the family would be absolutely horrified (I think) if we got pregnant right now. He is still in school and dealing with some PTSD after serving in Iraq, and I am a struggling artist. I also feel that at 24, I personally am not ready for children. I would like to wait until I am in the upper-twenties or early-thirties. My parents are on the same page as I am.

His grandmother and mother, on the other hand, WILL NOT stop making comments about how they want grandkids. His mom even went so far as to post something on his facebook wall the other day about how the only thing that would make her more happy [than us getting married in two weeks, I guess] would be for us to get pregnant. Then she said these words, "get busy, my son!"

Where is the horrified smiley face?

Oh, there it is..

 

[sctsbride09]

Artist Jess- your MIL sounds just like mine. Just tell her to get out of your uterus. Works for mine!

Back the original Q, I have not heard this personally yet, but as previously stated my MIL wont.shut.up. about grandkids, thats why DH and I have a nice list of sarcastic responses whenever she asks, it gets so old.

 

[ArtistJess]

Date: 4/29/2010 7:36:22 PM
Author: sctsbride09
Artist Jess- your MIL sounds just like mine. Just tell her to get out of your uterus. Works for mine!

Back the original Q, I have not heard this personally yet, but as previously stated my MIL wont.shut.up. about grandkids, thats why DH and I have a nice list of sarcastic responses whenever she asks, it gets so old.

Haha! I will try that next time!

 

[Laila619]

I think it's so annoying! It's like, no one can ever be happy for a couple after they're newly married. Now they're expected to have kids immediately. Why can't the couple enjoy being solo for a year or two?!

 

[House Cat]

Ahh, take it from someone who has four kids, it''s all envy! We just wish we had the time that you have! And yes, it was our choice to have our little lovelies, but we''re still tired sometimes.

But, just wait til you have kids, then you''ll be telling everyone else, "just wait til you have kids..."

 

[Haven]

Date: 5/10/2010 11:56:37 PM
Author: House Cat
Ahh, take it from someone who has four kids, it's all envy! We just wish we had the time that you have! And yes, it was our choice to have our little lovelies, but we're still tired sometimes.

But, just wait til you have kids, then you'll be telling everyone else, 'just wait til you have kids...'

Ha ha, House Cat. I've spent enough time with my aunt and uncle and their three young children to have a *teensy* understanding of what you're talking about.

Although, to respond with "Just wait until you have kids" when someone is talking about something completely unrelated to having children is STILL a bizarre and self-involved response, in my opinion. I can't say that it's something I hear a lot, but if I did, I'd be quite perplexed.

ETA: House Cat--I LOVE your wedding photos! I always thought of you as being older and wiser from your posts, and then you post these HOT MAMA photos in BWW!

You're quite the stunner.

 

[missjaxon]

Date: 5/11/2010 10:22:06 AM
Author: Haven

Date: 5/10/2010 11:56:37 PM

Author: House Cat

Ahh, take it from someone who has four kids, it''s all envy! We just wish we had the time that you have! And yes, it was our choice to have our little lovelies, but we''re still tired sometimes.

But, just wait til you have kids, then you''ll be telling everyone else, ''just wait til you have kids...''

Ha ha, House Cat. I''ve spent enough time with my aunt and uncle and their three young children to have a *teensy* understanding of what you''re talking about.


Although, to respond with ''Just wait until you have kids'' when someone is talking about something completely unrelated to having children is STILL a bizarre and self-involved response, in my opinion. I can''t say that it''s something I hear a lot, but if I did, I''d be quite perplexed.


ETA: House Cat--I LOVE your wedding photos! I always thought of you as being older and wiser from your posts, and then you post these HOT MAMA photos in BWW!

You''re quite the stunner.

I have to threadjack to add to Haven''s comment. I also think you are a stunner! I enjoyed your wedding photos and you look too young to be so wise!

 

[House Cat]

Date: 5/11/2010 11:16:49 PM
Author: missjaxon

Date: 5/11/2010 10:22:06 AM
Author: Haven

Date: 5/10/2010 11:56:37 PM

Author: House Cat

Ahh, take it from someone who has four kids, it''s all envy! We just wish we had the time that you have! And yes, it was our choice to have our little lovelies, but we''re still tired sometimes.

But, just wait til you have kids, then you''ll be telling everyone else, ''just wait til you have kids...''

Ha ha, House Cat. I''ve spent enough time with my aunt and uncle and their three young children to have a *teensy* understanding of what you''re talking about.


Although, to respond with ''Just wait until you have kids'' when someone is talking about something completely unrelated to having children is STILL a bizarre and self-involved response, in my opinion. I can''t say that it''s something I hear a lot, but if I did, I''d be quite perplexed.


ETA: House Cat--I LOVE your wedding photos! I always thought of you as being older and wiser from your posts, and then you post these HOT MAMA photos in BWW!

You''re quite the stunner.

I have to threadjack to add to Haven''s comment. I also think you are a stunner! I enjoyed your wedding photos and you look too young to be so wise!

Oh my goodness! I''m blushing here! Thank you! I''m so not a hot mama! I''m usually no make-up and jeans. I think that a woman''s wedding day is her prettiest day. It was for me anyway.

Haven, it''s really funny, I thought the same thing about you. I always thought you were much older from your wise and insightful posts, then I saw your photos and was floored to see this young beauty!

The internet is such a funny place!

 

[DivaDiamond007]

People say it because it''s true!

Sleeping in and lounging all weekend long - think again! Baby needs to be changed, fed and entertained.

Heading out to have drinks during happy hour - nope! A smoky, loud bar probably isn''t the best place to bring a baby.

Buying nice furniture and installing expensive carpets - better think again! Do you have any idea how much of a mess a toddler can make in 1.5 seconds?!

Going for a relaxing drive - uh oh. Kid is poopy, hungry, bored and wailing in the backseat. Maybe another day.

Filling your house with pets of all breeds - eek! Some pets have serious jealousy issues and may become agressive when a baby enters the picture. Pets are great as family members, but they aren''t ranked the same when you bring a little bundle of joy into the picture.

You really have no clue how much a child changes your life until you have one (or a few).

Disclaimer: I''m a mom!

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

I have a daughter and my sister has 3 kids who are pretty feral, they are always screaming, fighting and crying. If i ever say anything about my daughter my sister will pipe up with "well you don''t have 3 of them!!" Husband always says something about our decision not to have any together and that usually shuts her up.

 

[Haven]

Date: 5/13/2010 10:31:36 PM
Author: hawaiianorangetree
I have a daughter and my sister has 3 kids who are pretty feral, they are always screaming, fighting and crying. If i ever say anything about my daughter my sister will pipe up with ''well you don''t have 3 of them!!'' Husband always says something about our decision not to have any together and that usually shuts her up.

Hahaha--feral children. I LOVE it. (The term, not that you have three feral nieces.)
I''m so going to steal that term, if that''s okay.

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

Date: 5/15/2010 12:12:42 AM
Author: Haven

Date: 5/13/2010 10:31:36 PM
Author: hawaiianorangetree
I have a daughter and my sister has 3 kids who are pretty feral, they are always screaming, fighting and crying. If i ever say anything about my daughter my sister will pipe up with ''well you don''t have 3 of them!!'' Husband always says something about our decision not to have any together and that usually shuts her up.

Hahaha--feral children. I LOVE it. (The term, not that you have three feral nieces.)
I''m so going to steal that term, if that''s okay.

Of course you may Haven!

 

[Miss Sparkly]

I always say "I do! Want to see them?" Of course the person looks shocked - until I pull out photos of my two beautiful boys - Milo and Taz the Min Pins

Works like a charm and then I don''t have to explain that I''m not having kids and why

 

[taovandel]

Stupid comments never go away.

Once you have a kid...then it''ll be "Just wait until you have two..."

Get used to comments now and let them just roll off your back.

 

[Haven]

Date: 5/23/2010 2:30:13 PM
Author: taovandel
Stupid comments never go away.
Once you have a kid...then it''ll be ''Just wait until you have two...''
Get used to comments now and let them just roll off your back.

Oy. Do people really say once you have one child?

I feel quite blessed, as I believe I am surrounded with considerate and intelligent people. I don''t really get inane comments like this from anyone. Thank goodness!