My FI and I are very good friends with another couple (let''s call them John and Mary). FI called Mary and asked if he could meet up with her over a coffee to seek her counsel - she has two children from a previous marriage as does FI and he wanted to seek her advice over some issues he was having with his children. FI told me he was meeting up with Mary and I was fine about it. Mary only told John about the meeting as she was driving to meet FI.
When FI got home from meeting Mary, John called FI and abused him. Saying that no friend of his should be ''doing something like this''. John said that he had no right to meet up with Mary without telling John first. He even said, ''I know my wife, I trust my wife. I think I know you, I think I can trust you.'' FI tried to reason with him but to no avail.
John called me up the next day telling me how wrong it was for them to meet up. I told him I was fine with them meeting up because they are friends and his reply is ''she is not his friend, she is the wife of a friend''. I hit back by saying Mary didn''t need to tell me about the meeting, because it was up to FI to tell me, likewise it was up to Mary to tell him. As he was getting no support from me, he hung up and none of us have spoken to each other since. The stupid thing is that John and I have caught up on occassions without our respective partners being present.
It''s a very sad way to end a friendship. Has anyone else out there had something similar happen to them?
When FI got home from meeting Mary, John called FI and abused him. Saying that no friend of his should be ''doing something like this''. John said that he had no right to meet up with Mary without telling John first. He even said, ''I know my wife, I trust my wife. I think I know you, I think I can trust you.'' FI tried to reason with him but to no avail.
John called me up the next day telling me how wrong it was for them to meet up. I told him I was fine with them meeting up because they are friends and his reply is ''she is not his friend, she is the wife of a friend''. I hit back by saying Mary didn''t need to tell me about the meeting, because it was up to FI to tell me, likewise it was up to Mary to tell him. As he was getting no support from me, he hung up and none of us have spoken to each other since. The stupid thing is that John and I have caught up on occassions without our respective partners being present.
It''s a very sad way to end a friendship. Has anyone else out there had something similar happen to them?