It''s done

[Nomsdeplume]

I can''t stop crying. I don''t remember breakups being this hard.

 

[jcarlylew]

*hug*

we''re here to support you

*hug*

 

[rierie26]

+1 for hugs.

I know it sucks right now and you''re hurting, but I think you made the right decision. It hurts now, but in the end you''ll be much happier than if you stayed with your ex-boyfriend. In reading your other post, it reminded me so much of my ex-bf, it was scary: the excessive pot smoking, the addictions, the way he treated you when you were held up (I was in a hit-and-run and the ex totally refused to come see me even when I cried and begged him to come -- I was living alone and couldn''t move very much after the accident-- because he was upset with me over something). That was the final straw when I realized he didn''t respect or care about me at all.

I was with him for 5 years and the breakup was the hardest thing I had ever gone through emotionally, but once I was a little better I realized that I was far better off without him. Your ex''s problems shouldn''t be your problems to deal with. You deserve someone who puts you first. You deserve a better life than his meager offerings. You deserve to be happy.

The hardest part will be the temptation to go back to him when he calls and apologizes and cries and begs and promises to change. He will always promise to change. You loved him and it''s hard to say no to him, but when that happens just remember the s*** he put you through and how horrible it felt when you were going through all that he put you through and ask yourself if you really want to do that again.

HUGS!

 

[Parsley]

I can''t send enough hugs! I read back through your previous post, and you absolutely did the best thing for you, it just sucks that the heart doesn''t like to listen to stuff like that. Sending so so so much love to you!
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[katomm]

I''m so sorry

I do hope this pain will end sooner rather than later. We''ve all probably had similar situations and had our hearts crushed.

Just 3.5 years ago I had been with someone for over 2 years that I thought was my entire world. Everything was forced with him though, it was like pulling teeth to get him to spend time with me or tell me he loved me. I have no idea why I had these visions of grandeur that this was the man for me. I guess I was tired of being single as I had just gotten my masters after several years of no life. This man dumped me out of the blue one day after we had just come back from a romantic weekend he had surprised me with at a bed and breakfast in a historic city near us. After months of self pity and finally starting to pick myself up, a woman contacted me on myspace to befriend me. It seemed harmless and we emailed for a couple of months until she mentioned him in one of her emails about a "good friend." It turns out she is an ex GF of his that he had been sleeping with for about the last 6 months of our relationship. She did not know who I was and when I told her obviously things went bad after that.

It took another few months to get over that, it felt like a loss all over again. Just a few weeks later I met FI. He was in a relationship and we formed an innocent friendship that lasted 1.5 years until he and his ex broke up and we started dating. I believe we found each other at the right time for different reasons.

Your right one will find you. It might be soon or it might be a new start to the new year. This pain will end though, and we are here for you.

 

[LilyKat]

Kribbie, I''m so sorry you''re hurting

I think you know you have done the right thing. Let yourself grieve for now. It WILL be hard, but it WILL pass.

I agree with Kitcha that the hardest thing will be staying away. The natural progression of a break-up is hurt, then doubts (when you''re vulnerable to listening to his empty promises and taking him back), before you can truly accept it and move on. Just be aware of that and keep reminding yourself of the reasons you broke up (write them down if necessary, have a friend who you can talk to).

Hugs to you.

 

[bee*]

I''m so sorry to hear how much you''re hurting. Take care of yourself. Sending hugs.

 

[Treasure43]

Hugs! I''m sorry you''re hurting but it sounds like you did what was best for you and that''s something to be very proud of Making the right decision is oftentimes very hard, especially in matters of the heart. Stay strong and we''re here to talk if you need to.

 

[vc10um]

kribbie, I''m sending tons and tons of hugs your way. I know you''re hurting now, but like everyone else has said, you did the best thing for you, and that shows true strength. Just as you were able to recognize how bad for you he was in the end, so to you will realize how much better life is without him someday.

You truly deserve the best and he wasn''t it. Someone who will love you, HONOR you, and feel blessed to have you as well is out there, and I know you will find him!!!

More (((hugs)))

 

[AllieGator]

So sorry, Kribbie...big hugs, and we''re here.

 

[AustenNut]

(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))

 

[Luckyeshe]

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

I am so sorry that you''re hurting. You so deserve better! I know it''s hard right now, but please, don''t go back to him when he tries to win you back. It''s not worth it. We''re here for you if you need us!

 

[purselover]

****hugs****

 

[Lauren8211]

I''m so sorry kribbie.

*hugs*

Take care of yourself, OK?

 

[Bia]

I''m really sorry kribbie

Ditto to taking care of yourself. That is most important right now. Sending you lots and lots of (((((hugs)))))

 

[stepcutgirl]

I''m so sorry. You did what was best, most likely for both of you. I wish you all the best. You did the right thing. I hope you will stick around these boards.

 

[dragonfly411]

hugs Krib - I know this is hard, but you are already so strong for leaving.

 

[Winks_Elf]

I know you are in pain right now, and I''m sorry for what you are going through. However, since you said he had changed so much this past year and was busy spending more time with his pot and friends, you are better off. This will free you up to meet a man of quality who deserves your heart.

(((((BIG HUG!)))))

 

[misskitty]

Big hugs, kribbie. I know it''s tough right now, but we''re all here for you.

 

[sunnyd]

So sorry you''re hurting Kribbie. It will get better though, trust me. You have us here if/when you need to talk.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I am so sorry...((hugs))

 

[tlh]

((WARM HUGS))

 

[princessplease]

I''m so sorry. :: HUGS::

 

[Rachel9]

I''m very sorry.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Oh kribbie. I''m so sorry. I feel bad

We are here for you if you want to talk.

 

[HopeDream]

Hugs Kribbie!

I''m glad you are taking care of yourself by making this difficult decision

You are a strong woman who deserves all the happieness in the world (and will get it)

I hope you feel better soon after you have had time to grieve the passsing of this relationship.

I''m proud of you.

 

[oddoneout]

Hugs for you. It sounds like you made the right choice.

 

[MrsHToBe]

*hugs*!

 

[caribari]

I''m so sorry. I know you''re hurting now, but just remember that every day it gets a little bit easier.

 

[jaylex]

Hugs, Kribbie.

I remember reading you last post and feeling so horrible about you being in that situation but everyone gave you such great advice.. i didn''t feel the need

I am so glad you have gotten yourself out of that terrible situation. It''s going to be hard when he tries to come back (as i''m sure he will seeing the way he reacted the last time you broke up) but take a deep breath and realize that you are so much more valuable as a person. You need to let your heart heal so you can find someone who truly deserves you and who will respect you as a person and as the woman he loves.

Feel better, hun.