Gwyn
Brilliant_Rock
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Kind of long venting.
So I finally have the first free moment I have had since my family came into town beginning of the week. The wedding is tommorrow and already things are going wrong. First, my mother and her husband have decided to separate this past month (they have been married since I was 6) so the two of them are at each other''s throats. THere has been all sorts of tension and people taking it out on other people (namely my mom taking her frustrations out on me b/c she is mad at him).
My sister made a comment to him about how his snide remarks are not helping and he totally went off on her threatening to hit her and such. She of course exploded and there was a big shouting match and everyone in each others faces (imagine that talk show....springer!). That was all yesterday right before my bachelorette which we had to cancel.
It all ended in a big huff and my sister now refuses to drive my him around (she and her husband rented the car for themselves plus my mom and her husband and also our grandmother in exchange, my parents paid for their hotel room). so anyway, my mother and sister want FI and I to uninvite him to the wedding. They called early morning and woke me up to tell me to do so (Gwen is not a fan of being woken up by the way).
So now we have this guy who hates to fly and came out across the country to walk me down the aisle (not to mention he and my mother paid for the entire wedding) and they want me to tell him not to come. On top of this, our wedding is tomorrow (sat) and they are not leaving until Monday. They stayed in a hotel right next to mine for the whole week before but planned to stay at the Inn where we are getting married the night before and night of the wedding. So in addition to uninviting him they want us to offer him our apartment to stay in because he is now not welcome at the inn and the other hotel is booked for the weekend. Or find him another hotel but since he has no car, we need to get him transportation. anyway its all a real long story i guess and probably one for another time so i will jst cut to the end. After about 2 hours of discussing we relayed to my mom and sister that we really cant tell him he cant come at this point. especially when he apologized and said he will be cordial and just avoid them and not cause a scene. Additionally there is no way we are uninviting someone and then coming back to our place where he is staying and then "hanging out" with him and them for another couple of days. It put us so behind for the day having to deal with this, not to mention it kind of ruined my night...Oh and on top of all of this my mom and herhusband have separated and had these huge fights and such so many times before and always get back together. uninviting him would have ensured he hated FI and I forever (he is the kind to hold grudges) and caused trouble with me and my own mother later down the line (yes i know she says she doesnt want him to come now but...well lets just say she has a tendency to forget things then hold it against others later).
On top of that, FI and I just get settled in our room (about 30 mins from our apartment without traffic) and we have 2 hours to relax before the rehersal and rehersal dinner (had to come early to drop off OOT bags and such) and I found out...I forgot my ID (i need it for a check im writing, for the marriage license, and also to ensure that i can get a drink for my rehersal dinner and wedding. I am almost 27 but still look 19 sometimes). Poor FI has to go all the way back home to get it and is now stuck driving here in Los Angeles rush hour traffic. Atleast he will just be hitting the start of it, though on Fridays that is usually as bad as middle of primetime.
Ok vent over. I am just having such a hard time finding the goodness in all this. Atleast I am marrying a man that I love tomorrow!
So I finally have the first free moment I have had since my family came into town beginning of the week. The wedding is tommorrow and already things are going wrong. First, my mother and her husband have decided to separate this past month (they have been married since I was 6) so the two of them are at each other''s throats. THere has been all sorts of tension and people taking it out on other people (namely my mom taking her frustrations out on me b/c she is mad at him).
My sister made a comment to him about how his snide remarks are not helping and he totally went off on her threatening to hit her and such. She of course exploded and there was a big shouting match and everyone in each others faces (imagine that talk show....springer!). That was all yesterday right before my bachelorette which we had to cancel.
It all ended in a big huff and my sister now refuses to drive my him around (she and her husband rented the car for themselves plus my mom and her husband and also our grandmother in exchange, my parents paid for their hotel room). so anyway, my mother and sister want FI and I to uninvite him to the wedding. They called early morning and woke me up to tell me to do so (Gwen is not a fan of being woken up by the way).
So now we have this guy who hates to fly and came out across the country to walk me down the aisle (not to mention he and my mother paid for the entire wedding) and they want me to tell him not to come. On top of this, our wedding is tomorrow (sat) and they are not leaving until Monday. They stayed in a hotel right next to mine for the whole week before but planned to stay at the Inn where we are getting married the night before and night of the wedding. So in addition to uninviting him they want us to offer him our apartment to stay in because he is now not welcome at the inn and the other hotel is booked for the weekend. Or find him another hotel but since he has no car, we need to get him transportation. anyway its all a real long story i guess and probably one for another time so i will jst cut to the end. After about 2 hours of discussing we relayed to my mom and sister that we really cant tell him he cant come at this point. especially when he apologized and said he will be cordial and just avoid them and not cause a scene. Additionally there is no way we are uninviting someone and then coming back to our place where he is staying and then "hanging out" with him and them for another couple of days. It put us so behind for the day having to deal with this, not to mention it kind of ruined my night...Oh and on top of all of this my mom and herhusband have separated and had these huge fights and such so many times before and always get back together. uninviting him would have ensured he hated FI and I forever (he is the kind to hold grudges) and caused trouble with me and my own mother later down the line (yes i know she says she doesnt want him to come now but...well lets just say she has a tendency to forget things then hold it against others later).
On top of that, FI and I just get settled in our room (about 30 mins from our apartment without traffic) and we have 2 hours to relax before the rehersal and rehersal dinner (had to come early to drop off OOT bags and such) and I found out...I forgot my ID (i need it for a check im writing, for the marriage license, and also to ensure that i can get a drink for my rehersal dinner and wedding. I am almost 27 but still look 19 sometimes). Poor FI has to go all the way back home to get it and is now stuck driving here in Los Angeles rush hour traffic. Atleast he will just be hitting the start of it, though on Fridays that is usually as bad as middle of primetime.
Ok vent over. I am just having such a hard time finding the goodness in all this. Atleast I am marrying a man that I love tomorrow!
You deserve it!
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