Is your mom and FI mom walking out tooo ?

[blissfulbride]

and if so, when do they walk out in the ceremony. Do they walk out together ?

 

[Smurfysmiles]

Well I believe fi''s mom will be escourted by fi''s dad and then my mom will be escourted by my dad and then he''ll come back so he can walk with me. I think they are seated right before the bridal party walks in...at least that''s how my family has done it in the past

 

[musey]

You can do whatever you want. This is what we did:

Processional music begins (only one song). Processional in order:
1. Father-of-the-groom escorts mother-of-the-groom, they sit
2. Groomsman #1 escorts mother-of-the-bride, she sits, he stands at front
3. Groomsman #2 escorts maid of honor, they stand
4. Flower girls walk down, they stand
5. Father-of-the-bride escorts bride, he sits, she stands


Worked out especially well for us, and since we had a lopsided bridal party (1 on the bride''s side, 2 on the groom''s), I was pleasantly surprised that it actually seemed perfect.

 

[bee*]

D''s mam and dad will be at the church before my mam arrives so my best friend and bridesman is going to escort my mam up the aisle.

 

[Cleopatra]

DH and his father escorted MIL down the aisle and my brother escorted my mother down the aisle - while my dad escorted me

 

[Elmorton]

We had a song for the seating of parents and grandparent, and when that started, first the ushers escorted my mom''s mother, followed by my dad''s parents, and then DH''s grandparents to their seats.

Then my DH walked my mom down the aisle and seated her, then turned around and walked to the back and escorted his mom (his dad and step-mom followed him) to her seat. Then the groomsmen walked up and the bridal processional song started, bridesmaids, and then my dad and me.

I saw this set-up at a friend''s wedding and really liked it because I thought it was a sweet way for the groom to sortof honor the moms by escorting them himself.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 1/26/2009 4:39:02 PM
Author: Cleopatra
DH and his father escorted MIL down the aisle and my brother escorted my mother down the aisle - while my dad escorted me

We''ll have this same setup! My sis is officiating so she goes down first I think...

 

[jstarfireb]

Here''s how I''ll be doing it (note that the groom''s dad is deceased):

1) Groom''s mom walks with a friend of the groom who will be sitting next to her and acting as an interpreter (she speaks only Chinese) - they sit.
2) Bridesmaids walk without escorts - they stand.
3) I walk with both of my parents (this is extremely important to me because I''m all into gender equity and not being "given away" from one man to another). They sit; I stand.

Everyone will be walking to the same processional song. The groom and groomsmen will be standing up at the front the whole time.

 

[bootsiekin]

Our minister pretty much designated how it would happen, but this is what we did:

Best man escorted MOG, followed by FOG
Groomsman escorted my mom, followed by my stepdad

Both moms walked up together to light the taper candles for the unity candle
Both moms walked back down, MOG sat and my mom went to the back of the church to walk me down.

 

[blissfulbride]

Well my FI''s parents are no longer together. So my father will be walking me down, and I was thinking of having his mom and my mom walk together.


how would that be ?

 

[tlh]

I know, I know... I married, but I LOVE weddings!
I had my brother escort my mom up the aisle, and my fiancee has his TWO brothers excort his mom down the ailse (with his dad behind them). It was really sweet and both our mothers were ecstatic to have their sons escort them. (Nice photo ops!)

My dad stayed w/ me... and then we walked down the aisle together. It was nice that we had a little moment before the big todo... and he got to get his tears out about saying goodbye to his little girl. (With photog snapping away, but I kinda forgot she was there.)

 

[musey]

Date: 1/27/2009 9:55:21 AM
Author: blissfulbride
Well my FI''s parents are no longer together. So my father will be walking me down, and I was thinking of having his mom and my mom walk together.



how would that be ?

Do whatever you want. You don''t need the go-ahead from strangers on the internet

 

[tlh]

Date: 1/27/2009 9:55:21 AM
Author: blissfulbride
Well my FI''s parents are no longer together. So my father will be walking me down, and I was thinking of having his mom and my mom walk together.


how would that be ?

It seems like your concern is with your FI''s mother, and not yours, correct?

IMHO, that is my least favorite option.

Here''s why. This moment is VERY VERY special for both your Fi''s mom and YOUR mom. I think it would be sweeter if your groom escorts his own mother, and someone special to your mother, escorts her. It is an emotional journey, and I find the mother''s want their own little moment...because often times I find that weddings can be just as much WHAT THE PARENTS WANT, then what the bride and groom want.

Also, The order of the processional seating is to build up anticipation for the bride''s big entry. The seating of the bride''s mother QUES the processional of the wedding party... which builds more impact for the bride''s grand entry. It doesn''t take that much longer for the mother''s to walk out seperately, even if your Fi''s mother is NOT escorted by his dad.

My brother escorted my mother at his wedding. She did not know it was going to be him. She thought she was going to be escorted by an usher w/ my dad (yes married) following behind. But as it came time for her to walk down, my brother went down a side aisle and surprized my mother and said, "if you don''t mind, I''d like to walk my mother down the aisle...she loved it, and wouldn''t have wanted it any other way. Maybe you could see if your groom could escort his mother.

The escorting of the grandmothers, then mothers, gives them a special tribute. These are the people that shaped our lives... and it by combining them together, it diminishes this impact, but that is just my opinion. I just think this moment is just as special for your mother, if not more so... I mean she''s known you since you were just a developing seed in her belly... and has been there for you, that is why the brides mother is seated last, as a sign of respect. I just think your mom would appreciate that 10 seconds of walking down the aisle, to think about her little girl growing up. I just think it is a nice tribute, to have them have their OWN moment to shine, and reflect back on their children.

 

[swimmer]

Date: 1/27/2009 1:42:13 PM
Author: musey

Date: 1/27/2009 9:55:21 AM

Author: blissfulbride

Well my FI's parents are no longer together. So my father will be walking me down, and I was thinking of having his mom and my mom walk together.




how would that be ?

Do whatever you want. You don't need the go-ahead from strangers on the internet

What do your moms want to do? Are they BFFs? Would you want to walk down the aisle of your daughter's wedding with her future MIL?

You can search old threads for hundreds of different arrangements for doing this, it is an important and frequently discussed topic.