Quite frankly I'm more turned off by skinny guys than by guys with a little extra.
Same here.
Quite frankly I'm more turned off by skinny guys than by guys with a little extra.
He would say "bring that big butt over here for a slap."
Jamba I am enjoying your discussion starters!
I love my husband and find him attractive. I would still find him attractive if he gained weight. He's my guy, my number one and I only want him. We have been married a long time. For a few years I got chubby which bothered me but not him. He would say "bring that big butt over here for a slap." Naught guy. I lost the weight and kept it off but he actually prefers me chubby because he thinks it looks healthier on me.
I’m going to say no, and I’m going to say I don’t buy pps excuses for answering yes.
Enjoying active activities as the only reason is BS, because your spouse could be in a car accident and not able to hike or swim or whatever. Would you leave them then? No? It doesn’t sound like it’s ACTUALLY about not being able to do the activity then. So much for in sickness and in health Personally my relationship is based on so many more aspects than weight, looks, or ability to mountain climb. Those are all deeply shallow, surface things to me.
A friend of mine is morbidly obese. That's the medical term. His wife told him she left him because she couldn't deal with his weight. But, he saw her draw away long before that.
Sometimes you read something and your mind just... Stops for a moment.Expectations and deal-breakers change over time, as do people and relationships. My deal-breakers used to be cheating and if we were an old couple sleeping in separate bedrooms. I figured why bother being married? Well, my husband can't climb the stairs without pain, so he sleeps downstairs. And I enjoy the extra space, tbh.
No one has cheated. I know he adores me. In fact, when he awoke from his coma, one of his first comments was, "I love you more than life itself." That keeps me from killing him when he's annoying.
Lol if you actually read through my replies you'd see that I would stay with my partner if they were Injured and couldn't do those same activities anymore. I would only leave if the weight gain was excessive (meaning double his current weight) & after five years of encouraging him and being honest with him he refused simply due to laziness. Now if there was an underlying condition that caused the weight gain then that's a whole different story and no I wouldn't leave him. It's actually a really reasonable response. I don't shame you for yours so have some dignity and don't shame others. Some people aren't attracted to laziness.
I didn’t tag anyone or call out anyone on purpose - I was responding to the general idea rather than each persons specific reasons. I went back and re-read your answer and you didn’t mention if an injury prevented them doing the activity, only if an injury or something caused weight gain. Personally I don’t really care what other people do in their relationships, it doesn’t impact me whatsoever. But I will point out what seems like flimsy reasoning. If you (general) don’t want to date or marry or stay married to someone overweight that’s fine, at least you own it. Pretending it’s because they won’t be able to mountain bike and that will catastrophically ruin your lives together, ehh not buying it.
It actually sounds like you didn't comprehend much of my earlier post.
I thought me stating that I'd stay with my SO if the weight gain was due to injury or any illness, that it would obviously imply I'd stay if he just became injured without the weight gain. Lol
I just wouldn't be too quick to judge others or as in you put it "point out flimsy reasoning" when you really have no idea if their reasoning is true or not.
^^ I had a conversation with a guy friend about the exact thing that Telephone and LemonMoon are discussing above. He said that weight gain that's NOT related to illness or injury is completely different from weight gain that can't be helped.
He said the reason is that in the first scenario, it's such a turn-off because the partner is choosing food and unhealthy choices over the romantic and sexual relationship, which seems to him like taking him for granted and not putting the relationship first.
But if the weight gain is due to a physical issue that can't be helped, he does not get the same feeling of him and the relationship being disrespected and put as a lower priority than food/unhealthy habits.
So I wonder if that's more a part of it than literally not being able to do activities bc of weight.
^^ I had a conversation with a guy friend about the exact thing that Telephone and LemonMoon are discussing above. He said that weight gain that's NOT related to illness or injury is completely different from weight gain that can't be helped.
He said the reason is that in the first scenario, it's such a turn-off because the partner is choosing food and unhealthy choices over the romantic and sexual relationship, which seems to him like taking him for granted and not putting the relationship first.
But if the weight gain is due to a physical issue that can't be helped, he does not get the same feeling of him and the relationship being disrespected and put as a lower priority than food/unhealthy habits.
So I wonder if that's more a part of it than literally not being able to do activities bc of weight.
... I would only leave if the weight gain was excessive (meaning double his current weight) & after five years of encouraging him and being honest with him he refused simply due to laziness. ...
He said the reason is that in the first scenario, it's such a turn-off because the partner is choosing food and unhealthy choices over the romantic and sexual relationship, which seems to him like taking him for granted and not putting the relationship first.