Wedding Is This Weird???

[brooksie]

My wedding is November 1 and FI and I have decided that we just can''t afford my wedding band. I''m in the process of switching careers and he started his own business a month ago.

Should I have him place my engagement ring on my finger for the ceremony? I''m just not sure how that will work??? I told him not to stress about it and that he can suprise me with it for our first year anniversary.

Any ideas? I did find a knock-off that looked similar to my ring at Nordstroms the other day, but he said "it''s fake"..yea, but it''s $38 dollars instead of $1200.

thanks ladies

 

[kellybelly]

brooksie, why don''t you just get a plain band for now and then add something fancier for an anniversary down the road? a plain white gold band shouldn''t cost you more than about $150.

 

[meresal]

The ring may be fake, but what he's vowing to isn't, and that's what the ring really symbolizes. If you like it, I would get the $38 one from Nodries, it will be nice to have something special from your wedding. The e-ring had it's day

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 10/22/2008 9:54:14 AM
Author: kellybelly
brooksie, why don''t you just get a plain band for now and then add something fancier for an anniversary down the road? a plain white gold band shouldn''t cost you more than about $150.

That is what I would suggest too. Have a fabulous wedding!

 

[galvana]

I would just get a plain 2mm band in white or yellow gold to wear. they are under $150 easy.

 

[muffindowd]

I totally agree!! Get the plain band so that your fiance has something to put on your ring finger when he says his vows. Then you can get your diamond band for your anniversary, you could even wear them all stacked. I wouldn''t go with the fakie ring, I don''t have a problem with fakie jewelry, but for your wedding band you''ll want something that is precious metal...I would go with the plain band!!

 

[violet3]

Date: 10/22/2008 10:57:11 AM
Author: muffindowd
I totally agree!! Get the plain band so that your fiance has something to put on your ring finger when he says his vows. Then you can get your diamond band for your anniversary, you could even wear them all stacked. I wouldn''t go with the fakie ring, I don''t have a problem with fakie jewelry, but for your wedding band you''ll want something that is precious metal...I would go with the plain band!!

Ditto...i think a plain band would be great and you could order one really reasonably online. that way, you would have a ring to commemorate the wedding day, and later you could wear all three when you get a blingy one, or the two bands together, etc.

Why don''t you try www.eweddingbands.com or www.weddingbands.com - both have tons of options that are reasonable in price...for example, attached is a 3mm band for 95$ and they have a little 2mm for $65!

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 10/22/2008 9:56:06 AM
Author: meresal
The ring may be fake, but what he's vowing to isn't, and that's what the ring really symbolizes. If you like it, I would get the $38 one from Nodries, it will be nice to have something special from your wedding. The e-ring had it's day

I agree with Meresal 100% on this. I think that whichever ring you like the best- the "fake" one from Nordstrom or the "real" plain WG band is what you should get. If you are having a religious ceremony you could always go back once you get the $1200 ring you really love blessed at a later time.

ETA: Do you mind posting the ring that you desire (or something very similar) and telling us what you love about it? I'd love to help you search if you still want to take a day to poke around for another comparable band to the one you really love.

 

[CNOS128]

My "something borrowed" is going to be my mother''s original wedding band - we''re going to switch after the ceremony. (My fiance also has a band that''s been passed down to each man in the family to use at his wedding).

Maybe there''s a friend or relative whose band you could borrow just for the ceremony. Then you can buy your own band when you can afford it.

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Another vote for the (real) plain band! Get it in white gold or whatever matches your ering. I think plain bands are classy anyway. I don''t vote for the $38 band.

 

[Nocturnius]

This is what we did. I took my "engagement" ring off actually about a week before to have it resized and polished for the wedding, and then never put it back on. It was given to the best man right before the ceremony, and my husband put it back on my finger. No one even thought twice about it.

Don''t let people make you feel like you HAVE to have a wedding band. You don''t. "The engagement ring had it''s day." So what? Some people only wear the engagement ring. My oldest sister has been married ten years and never liked her wedding band. So she''s never worn it.

Your fiance doesn''t NEED a new ring - or even a ring at all - to put on your finger when he''s saying his vows. If vows are only valid if a ring is included, then a lot of people don''t have valid marriage vows. I think it''s pretty ridiculous, personally, to make such a big deal out of wedding bands. What matters is the vows, not the jewelry.

 

[ysj99]

I vote for the plain gold band as well! e-weddingbands.com is great to work with. Their prices are also really competitive. For example, here''s a 10k white gold 2mm band for $47. That''s only $9 more than the Nordstrom''s ring, plus it''s likely you won''t have to pay tax, and they have free shipping.

 

[kellybelly]

i feel like, even though you might not think so now, you''re going to make an emotional attachment to it. it''s hard to become attached to something fake, so even if its plain with no diamonds on it, i think the real gold band is the way to go. simple can be beautiful, and you can wear it stacked later on with your E-ring and a sparkly diamond band some time down the road when your budget permits. don''t get a fake, don''t borrow one, and don''t sub your e-ring for it. i feel like you''d regret it very soon after if you did any of those things.

 

[bettina]

Artcarved has a plain band in palladium called "Isis" you might want to look into. The lowest price I found was $118 (but of course I can''t remember where). But they have their "forever warranty" so if you ever need a new size or anything they''ll replace it. It would work for now plus it might be nice to have a simple band you know can be sized/replaced free of charge for later if or when you have kids. That''s my plan.

 

[LauraBabe08]

I agree that you should purchase a cheaper wedding band now to use for the ceremony and then upgrade later when you have more money. A friend of mine purchased a plain silver band for about $30.

I personally am choosing to go with a simple plain wedding band. I feel like it is more "sturdy" than one with decorations and diamonds, etc. I will probably upgrade a few years later to one with diamonds, but I feel like the one that I get married with should be simple. Once I have my upgrade, I can always alternate b/w my bands as I choose - some days I may want more bling than others, so then I will have the option.

 

[brazen_irish_hussy]

I don''t wear a band since it wouldn''t fit with my ring and my DH just slipped the ering on my finger for the ceremony. It looked great in pics and wasn''t a problem at all

 

[diamondfan]

Get a thin real one, and then you can always use it for travel or when you wish to be quite subtle at such a time as you can get your dream ring.

 

[swingirl]

Back in the "olden days" people would borrow a wedding band for the ceremony. Often it was a mother's wedding band. Heirloom wedding rings were kept out of necessity to passed down to someone who needed it. People were very creative during the depression and hard times.

I see no reason why you can't use your ering as the one and only and save your money for something later.

 

[brooksie]

I wish I could use my grandmothers band, but she had horrible arthritis and it''s huge. My ering is a 4.5 and the band is too big for my thumb. The jeweler said it''s too delicate to size it down.

I found a gold band on overstock.com and sent the link to FI. He said he will order it. So I guess my dilema is solved. I will have my plain band until we can afford the blingy one. The band I want is the 3/4 eternity shared prong from Whiteflash, it''s the match to my ering.

The gold band will be nice to wear when travelling or to the gym, etc. ....THANKS for all your opinions and ideas!

 

[LauraBabe08]

yay! I''m glad that you decided to go with a simple band for the wedding!