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CJ2008

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My sister has an afternoon wedding to go to in Canada in a couple of weekends.

This is what she's thinking of wearing.

http://www.jcpenney.com/jcp/X6.aspx?DeptID=54692&CatID=54692&Grptyp=PRD&ItemId=137fe66

I told her to find out more from the guy she's going with (i.e., what does the invitation say, what type of place will the wedding be held at, etc.)

Because the dress is so totally not my style, it's hard for me to judge...what's your general opinion?
 
I like it, but I normally don''t wear long dresses to weddings just because the bride has a long dress on. It depends on the time of yr and location of the wedding as well.
 
If it is formal/evening okay, just because of the beading at the bustline. The thing is, the color says day but the beading and length says evening to me.
 
HHmmm I don''t think the dress is the best choice for an afternoon wedding. It looks like an evening/prom dress, eventhough the color is light and airy.
 
Yeah, that looks very young, very prom. Not right for an afternoon wedding. Afternoon wedding gets some version of cocktail dress/skirt and top depending on formality.

Good luck conveying the verdict to your sis!
 
Thanks guys...

I''m trying to give her objective advice taking into consideratio that she obviously likes the dress and that our styles are very different. I do think the dress looks youngish, and maybe a bit unsophisticated. But, my sister beautiful, and petite...she''s in her late 30s but could pass easily for mid 20s. So if anyone can carry it, it''s her...

I did find out the ceremony is at 1 P.M., reception at 6 P.M., formal.

So, taking all of the above into account, what do you guys think now? Could the dress be OK for the reception, but should she wear something different for the ceremony?
 
The dress would be OK for the reception, but it''s not something I would necesarily say "great dress choice" to. That''s just me though. However, IMO, if your sister feels wonderful in the dress and/or laid out a good amount of money for it, she should go ahead and wear it. It''s not trampy or horribly inappropriate so no harm.
 
Prom dress.
 
I agree if it is evening and formal, the dress is nice. However, I would probably go with something a bit more safe.
 
I agree that it does have that prom dress feel. It also reminds me a bit of a bridesmaid dress.
 
I''m going to be really blunt....the dress is way too young for your sister. Its a prom dress. anything that says glitter in the description is best left to 17 years old, who are supposed to be shopping in the juniors department.

I also don''t think anything that formal is ok for a wedding at 1 pm. No matter how "formal" the recption is. If she wants to wear a long dress there are a ton of beautiful airy maxi-dresses out there (that have no glitter or beading) that are more age and situation appropriate.
i.e.:
http://www1.bloomingdales.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=115373&PseudoCat=se-xx-xx-xx.esn_results

http://www1.bloomingdales.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=117015&PseudoCat=se-xx-xx-xx.esn_results


I think a cocktail dress is the safest way to go though. The first one SanDiegoLady posted is gorgeous!!!!

this is a gorgeous knock-off of a foley+corina dress:

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=321320&CategoryID=22120&LinkType=SiteAd&LinkLoc=5449&AdID=43669
 
Date: 8/6/2008 1:31:29 PM
Author: lala2332
I'm going to be really blunt....the dress is way too young for your sister. Its a prom dress. anything that says glitter in the description is best left to 17 years old, who are supposed to be shopping in the juniors department.

I also don't think anything that formal is ok for a wedding at 1 pm. No matter how 'formal' the recption is. If she wants to wear a long dress there are a ton of beautiful airy maxi-dresses out there (that have no glitter or beading) that are more age and situation appropriate.
i.e.:

I think a cocktail dress is the safest way to go though.
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I so totally agree. I really do, with all you guys. My sister's choice of clothing is very different than mine on a normal basis. When I originally spoke with her, I didn't even know what the dress looked like, but knowing the kinds of things she goes for, I told her a cocktail dress would be the best choice, and that if the dress had too much glitter I would not wear it.

But now that I've seen the dress how do I tell her it's no good without insulting her sense of style? I'm trying to walk the line between knowing, like aprilcait said, "no harm done" she might get away with it, with knowing that it's just not a great choice.

ETA: BTW, thank you for all the dress suggestions, too...I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the first one SDL posted...and the last one lala2332 posted is nice too...I wonder if she'd be willing to spend the $ though (the dress from JCPenney was $69)...
 
hmmmm...how to tell someone without insulting them. Do you have something that she could borrow that would be more appropriate?

Maybe just blame it on us? Say, the dress got lots of no''s from a wedding forum?

Or submit her for "what not to wear on TLC?" haha....I want to dress bad, so I can get on that show!!! (but I can''t, i''m too obsessed with clothes)

Can you go shopping with her and tell her that it makes her look fat?...a la Monica Lewinsky....its why she never wore the infamous dress again.

OK, those are probably not the best suggestions.....I would just say that it looks too young and that it is too formal. And that since she is someone''s date, she should probably be more conservative.
I''m pretty blunt, as you can see though, and my friends/family know not to ask if they don''t want to know what i really think.
 
Lala...

You have me cracking up over here. I could never be that blunt! But I do pride myself on being honest, so I do always find a way to get the point across. And I do think bluntness is refreshing sometimes...if I think a person is coming from the right place, I can grow thick skin and get right to the message, take a deep breath, and move on...it propels you to action sometimes.

ANYWAY - I think I''ll send her the links to those two dresses and tell her I think those styles are better and hopefully she''ll just go "OK!" and just go buy one. If she takes it to the next level, like but "why, don''t you like the blue one?" I can expand on it...I would probably just tell her the color seems young/promish...and that if the rest of the girls are "dressed to the T" (as her date put it) she might not feel like she fits in.
 
My sister is always brutally honest with me - "No. That doesn''t (fill in the blank here)." I like her that way, it saves me the hassle of having to hunt something and potential be embarrassed by what I chose.

I agree with others, it''s not the right dress. The length is fine, the colour is fine, the style is not.
 
I''m just not wired to be brutally honest...

We''ll see how she responds to my other two suggestions and I''ll take it from there. Her date was also supposed to send her some pictures of other weddings to give her an idea of how people in his circle dress, so she might be able to tell herself when she sees the pictures. Unless they''re all in prom dresses! hahahah
 
haha...glad I made you laugh! Hopefully she will like the suggested dresses better! Good luck!

P.S. I''m not brutally honest with everyone, just my sister, its just how we are with each other.
 
Lala - I''m keeping my fingers crossed!

Who''s the cutie in your avatar?
 
I do not think long is appropriate for a wedding taking place during the day.
 
Sorry - I forgot to clarify...

I convinced her that she needs to wear something different for the ceremony at 1 P.M.

So this dress would be for the 6 PM reception.
 
I think then it is better but is it a formal reception? I think it would be funny to be in long and no one really is other than her. The color is okay, more spring than late summer but not bad.
 
DF is the link taking you to a black dress?

ETA: yes, she says it's formal...

Yeah, I don't love the idea of her wearing a long dress either, and I think it shows a bit too much skin...but again, that's me...
 
the second one is not a classy looking dress, in my opinion.

it shows a lot of skin and it is a bit immodest, not that I am prude but I am not loving it.
 
DF - I agree...too much skin.

Anybody disagree? Do you think the 2nd dress is OK?
 
The minute I saw "beaded prom dress" ias the item discription my gut told me "NO!" (I believe no one over 18 should wear a prom dress under any circumstances, but that''s my opinion)

In addition, I think for an afternoon wedding, a long dress of any material would be to formal ... and esspecially if it is beaded and "young".

The color is lovely and the neckline looks great too...not to mention a very user friendly price tag, as well. I would tell her, if she loves the dress, to go ahead and buy it...but to absolutely, without a doubt, get it hemmed shorter.

Otherwise, suggest White House/Black Market, or Bebe, or Cache, or even Victoria Secret.
 
Italia - Not sure I could convince her to get it hemmed...but that''s actually a good idea.
 
I''m not sure how I feel about changing for the reception. Are other guests planning on doing this? That just seems strange to me.

I think the blue one is more appropriate than the second. And we all know how I felt about it. haha.
I think your sister needs a big dose that she is not 19 and hopefully not a stripper. When I see dresses like the second one, all I can think of is Rock Of Love and the over the top dresses those girls would wear!

I have no idea how to do a style intervention for your sister. Would she be embarassed if all her date''s friends are dressed more conservative?


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