Is there need for another dedicated forum for older posters?

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Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

Uppy, start a thread in FH&H. We'll all contribute and I'm sure that in a very short space of time, our Mods will notice it's success and will make it a sticky for us. There's so much to talk about!

Meanwhile, I'm sorry about your dishwasher. That's a pain in the --- but if your air condish is not working, go out and buy a new one TODAY. That's one of the perks of being older. No more making due or waiting for whatever. I knew we needed a new one before summer even started, so I took myself to the appliance store, chose the one I wanted, had a handsome young man load it into my SUV, and then once home, had my handsome husband bring it in and install it. Done!

Thread started. I just burned out all of my pertinence, or impertinence, with my earlier post.

As for the a/c. It's the furnace fan that burned out, so we've got to wait for the service man to come out. The soonest they could get here is this afternoon between 3 and 5. So here I sit, sweaty and grumpy, forced to drink iced coffee at 7:00 in the morning.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

There aren't separate boards for pregnancy or being a new mommy - and I think we all agree that wedding planning NEEDS a place of its own and the lady in waiting is superniche and dare I say possibly annoying to those of us way long past it. But pregnancy can happen even past 40 and being a mother or grandmother to young children can make the toddler threads interesting to us. I think a neverending thread in Family & Home would be super appropriate. I don't really like the segregating boards, I have a hard enough time keeping up on the couple I already do!

 

[risingsun]

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You have my vote, Uppy for a 40+ forum. I do think that we are dealing with some unique concerns and could use each other's wisdom and support. As for Mrs. Gailey, she will just have to behave herself as best she can

'Bout as much chance of Ivana Trump dating a man of Donald's age again.

How about a thread called "Naughty Forties"?

Soz ladies, I promise to be good - tomorrow .....

Some of us have seen our forties come and go I'm sure you will be better in the morning...not

Oh OK then, just for you RS, how about "The Nifty Fifties"

That's my sweetheart

 

[lyra]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

There aren't separate boards for pregnancy or being a new mommy - and I think we all agree that wedding planning NEEDS a place of its own and the lady in waiting is superniche and dare I say possibly annoying to those of us way long past it. But pregnancy can happen even past 40 and being a mother or grandmother to young children can make the toddler threads interesting to us. I think a neverending thread in Family & Home would be super appropriate. I don't really like the segregating boards, I have a hard enough time keeping up on the couple I already do!

Quite honestly, I think newlyweds and/or proposal ideas could be be eliminated or stickied somewhere, and Pregnancy/Mommy should have it's own forum instead of the stickies. Those are *huge* threads and it's hard to find info when something is 1000+ pages long. If those had their own forum, then over 40's could be stickied in their place and possibly receive more attention that way. Just an idea.

 

[movie zombie]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

i'd like to see the TTC, birth control, pregnancy, and child rearing issues within their own area. it is a generalization to say that these issues are limited to only those of a certain age. while these are issues of interest to many pricescopers, admittedly, i do get tired of wading through them to get to the threads that want to talk about other family/home issues or travel.....which are also not age limited. therefore, i do not think age is a good criteria for lumping threads within a forum.....or for creating a forum.

MoZo

 

[Gailey]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

Uppy, start a thread in FH&H. We'll all contribute and I'm sure that in a very short space of time, our Mods will notice it's success and will make it a sticky for us. There's so much to talk about!

Meanwhile, I'm sorry about your dishwasher. That's a pain in the --- but if your air condish is not working, go out and buy a new one TODAY. That's one of the perks of being older. No more making due or waiting for whatever. I knew we needed a new one before summer even started, so I took myself to the appliance store, chose the one I wanted, had a handsome young man load it into my SUV, and then once home, had my handsome husband bring it in and install it. Done!

I echo what Gemgirl says Uppy, and I promise to be good (most of the time )

 

[Gailey]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

There aren't separate boards for pregnancy or being a new mommy - and I think we all agree that wedding planning NEEDS a place of its own and the lady in waiting is superniche and dare I say possibly annoying to those of us way long past it. But pregnancy can happen even past 40 and being a mother or grandmother to young children can make the toddler threads interesting to us. I think a neverending thread in Family & Home would be super appropriate. I don't really like the segregating boards, I have a hard enough time keeping up on the couple I already do!

Quite honestly, I think newlyweds and/or proposal ideas could be be eliminated or stickied somewhere, and Pregnancy/Mommy should have it's own forum instead of the stickies. Those are *huge* threads and it's hard to find info when something is 1000+ pages long. If those had their own forum, then over 40's could be stickied in their place and possibly receive more attention that way. Just an idea.

I think this sounds like a good idea. Get all the Pregnancy, new Mum/Baby, toddler threads into a separate forum, say "Young Families" because there are so many threads like that, which tend to dominate FH&H. Give us old goats a sticked thread and see how that goes.

 

[PinkTower]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

Deferential..... that's what I should be about this. But my airconditioner is out and I woke up with water all over the kitchen floor from the aged dishwasher. So please take this into consideration when I'm less than concilliatory this morning.

Getting older, and the context in which we find ourselves at a later time in life, are not similar to trying to conceive or waiting 9 months for a child to be born. Those are singular situations with more than a modicum of predictability to them, and I sort of resent the implication that maturity is comparitively self-limiting! That analogy justifies exactly why I think a dedicated forum is a good idea.
You cannot even imagine what it's like until you get there!

A a woman in her forties who has been engaged, gotten married, given birth to two children, I may have something of experience to contribute to LIW, BWW, Newlyweds, TTC, and Pregnancy. However, lets be honest, the further away you get from those events, the less relevant my opinions and experiences become to those currently going through them. Current brides don't want to hear my opinion about Save The Date cards or Destination Weddings. I certainly wouldn't be making any new friends were I to share!

But I do not find it helpful in the least, when asking advice about how to handle situations with my 16 year old daughter, when someone who is less than five years away from that age herself feels she can give seriously considered advice! And when I wish to ask other about these weird skin things that are showing up all over my arms and upper thighs, I really don't want to be putting that out there on Hangout. Do you want me airing my Granny Panty, menopausal, hot flashing, hair growing, boob sagging, crusty heel issues with the likes of Dancing Fire? I don't. Sometimes I just want serious responses.

Excuse me for not continuing my rant. I have to get my 18 year old disabled son to brush his teeth for the bus, then try to push his 195 pound frame out the door because he'd rather sit at home with me all day and watch Barney.

Put that in your Nicoderm patch!!

I could have written this,though not as eloquetly. Thank you. Juggling a threesome of teenagers at the same time as aging parents and ever dwindling retirement savings puts a whole different outlook on things.

 

[kenny]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

The reason a forum for us old fogeys wouldn't work is we'd forget it was there.

 

[jaysonsmom]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

Forum Name proposal:

D.O.G-------Dem 'Ol Geezers

I'll be joining soon. I'm feeling it in dem ol bones today. Can't run 3 miles like I used to

 

[Circe]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

Totally agree with Lyra and Movie Zombie - I think it'd be a nice solution to have a more specialized "Family Planning" section (for lack of a better term) for the BC, TTC, pregnancy, and baby threads, and to keep FHH for the more general issues. Those incredibly long stickied threads really are very difficult to find info. in, and sorta challenging to leap into.

On the other hand, the Newlyweds forum sort of makes me scratch my head ... I know some people post there, but is it really so different from other areas as to necessitate its own forum?

 

[Upgradable]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

I think if we gave the TTC, Preg, and New Mom's a forum like Young Families, the current FHH would be more conducive to us old farts who need to talk about frequent urination at night and what has happened to our taste buds that we must use so much more seasoning on our food than we ever used to.

 

[Lula]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

Deferential..... that's what I should be about this. But my airconditioner is out and I woke up with water all over the kitchen floor from the aged dishwasher. So please take this into consideration when I'm less than concilliatory this morning.

Getting older, and the context in which we find ourselves at a later time in life, are not similar to trying to conceive or waiting 9 months for a child to be born. Those are singular situations with more than a modicum of predictability to them, and I sort of resent the implication that maturity is comparitively self-limiting! That analogy justifies exactly why I think a dedicated forum is a good idea.
You cannot even imagine what it's like until you get there!

A a woman in her forties who has been engaged, gotten married, given birth to two children, I may have something of experience to contribute to LIW, BWW, Newlyweds, TTC, and Pregnancy. However, lets be honest, the further away you get from those events, the less relevant my opinions and experiences become to those currently going through them. Current brides don't want to hear my opinion about Save The Date cards or Destination Weddings. I certainly wouldn't be making any new friends were I to share!

But I do not find it helpful in the least, when asking advice about how to handle situations with my 16 year old daughter, when someone who is less than five years away from that age herself feels she can give seriously considered advice! And when I wish to ask other about these weird skin things that are showing up all over my arms and upper thighs, I really don't want to be putting that out there on Hangout. Do you want me airing my Granny Panty, menopausal, hot flashing, hair growing, boob sagging, crusty heel issues with the likes of Dancing Fire? I don't. Sometimes I just want serious responses.

Excuse me for not continuing my rant. I have to get my 18 year old disabled son to brush his teeth for the bus, then try to push his 195 pound frame out the door because he'd rather sit at home with me all day and watch Barney.

Put that in your Nicoderm patch!!

I could have written this,though not as eloquetly. Thank you. Juggling a threesome of teenagers at the same time as aging parents and ever dwindling retirement savings puts a whole different outlook on things.

+2

I love you, Uppy, for this "I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take it anymore" approach to this issue (you have to be a "certain age" to peg that quote).

I'd like a place where us 40-plus-ers could discuss issues pertinent to our stage of life without having to explain things the way you do in a general thread/forum where everyone is jumping in and participating. Sort of a "safe house" for us old fa*ts who love bling, are facing health issues of our own and/or our parents, retirement planning, etc. And don't even get me started on the pain of losing friends to cancer, heart attacks, etc. I think one of the hardest things about getting older is losing people in your peer group. Mortality -- it sucks.

And, of course, for you 20-somethings reading this in horror, besides just complaints about sagging body parts, the 40+ forum could contain tales of adventure from our wanton youth with plenty of cultural references thrown in for kicks. Sort of a "you were there" tour of the '60s, '70s, and '80s.

Personally, I find it harder and harder to connect with PS these days. Not only is traffic down on SMTB and RT (where I spend a lot of time) I've just been-there-done-that re a lot of the issues that are important to many younger PS'ers. I don't begrudge them their space; I just want some for us!

ETA: If you like "Madmen" you'll love the 40+ forum -- cuz we lived it! Smoking while pregnant martinis during a business lunch

 

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Come on over and play, Sara!! Bras are optional.

 

[ksinger]

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OMG! Uppy, you are my hero today! I'm seriously laughing my no-longer-bootylicious butt off over here!

So sorry about your AC and dishwasher though. That seriously sucks.

Getting older isn't for sissies, but the most satisfying discussions I have these days (exceptin' the fun political/social/religious ones with my husband) are the truly uproarious ones I have with my girlfriends about all the "crap" around now, or worries for their college-age kids, or the issues in their 30+ year marriages. The stories of their aging parents and their antics are sad/funny too.

Believe me, my "cranky" cred is quite polished! So wherever it ends up, I'm in.

 

[TooPatient]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

i'd like to see the TTC, birth control, pregnancy, and child rearing issues within their own area. it is a generalization to say that these issues are limited to only those of a certain age. while these are issues of interest to many pricescopers, admittedly, i do get tired of wading through them to get to the threads that want to talk about other family/home issues or travel.....which are also not age limited. therefore, i do not think age is a good criteria for lumping threads within a forum.....or for creating a forum.

MoZo

I'm 25 and NOT a mommy or TTC...
I'd love to see something like this because I AM dealing with fixer-upper house things, remodels, etc. The FHH section is almost entirely dedicated to mommies (and those trying to become mommies) and the house stuff I'm interested in is hard to find -- and I'm pretty sure most people don't look over there much so I don't post my house stuff because I don't see it as worth posting in hangout and figure no one will see it in FHH anyway.


I like MoZo's suggestion -- not really lumping by age, but by like threads and activity (being a mommy is a big thing and there is a lot to worry about TTC, while pregnant, and with LO's running around) so that stuff is easier to find and everyone can feel comfortable posting.



ETA:
Ella & other wonderful PS staff --
You all are so patient with us and I know you take all suggestions/comments into consideration. You all do great work. (didn't want that to get lost in my message -- you all are great)

 

[AGBF]

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I really, really, really didn't like the idea of a forum for older people! In fact I hated it! But I really enjoyed readling all of your postings! I related to all of them! The disabled child in the doorway wasn't the same disability as my disabled child, but heck! And like soocool, I spend most of my time in Hangout. So by the time gemgirl suggested we all show Ella our interest, I was ready to sign on!

PS-My best friend had been telling her grandson that "Pop-pop" was "old as dirt". Sam asked me how old I was and I told him I was the same age as his grandmother, but that soon I was going to be, "old as dirt", too. (She was going to turn 60 in August...and I will on my next birthday. He is 5 and and I could see him filing away the information.)

Deb/AGBF

 

[Upgradable]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

Deb, we've got a funny old bunch already posting over at FHH. Come on over. Just bring your own drink and your own Depends. We're currently discussing male enhancement meds and the best type of protection for incontenence!

 

[perry]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

I agree with Deb:

I was over 40 when I joined - and while I am not nearly as active (or as popular) as I was 3-5 years ago; I felt I could post whatever was needed. I could give support, I could get support.

Often; it was the younger perspective that made me think of something different.

So I'm not sure I see the benefit of a Older Folks forum.

Have a great day,

Perry

 

[iluvcarats]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

I really, really, really didn't like the idea of a forum for older people! In fact I hated it! But I really enjoyed readling all of your postings! I related to all of them! The disabled child in the doorway wasn't the same disability as my disabled child, but heck! And like soocool, I spend most of my time in Hangout. So by the time gemgirl suggested we all show Ella our interest, I was ready to sign on!

PS-My best friend had been telling her grandson that "Pop-pop" was "old as dirt". Sam asked me how old I was and I told him I was the same age as his grandmother, but that soon I was going to be, "old as dirt", too. (She was going to turn 60 in August...and I will on my next birthday. He is 5 and and I could see him filing away the information.)

Deb/AGBF

Deb,
My kids were watching Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure (remember that movie?) and they didn't know what a phone booth was
That made me feel really old

 

[deegee]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

Someone brought in an AARP magazine and left it in the kitchen at work. Valerie Bertinelli was on the cover, and that reallllly made me feel my age. That's just not right!

 

[Gailey]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

I agree with Deb:

I was over 40 when I joined - and while I am not nearly as active (or as popular) as I was 3-5 years ago; I felt I could post whatever was needed. I could give support, I could get support.

Often; it was the younger perspective that made me think of something different.

So I'm not sure I see the benefit of a Older Folks forum.

Have a great day,

Perry

Huge error of judgement, huge, just simply huge.

 

[swingirl]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

Deferential..... that's what I should be about this. But my airconditioner is out and I woke up with water all over the kitchen floor from the aged dishwasher. So please take this into consideration when I'm less than concilliatory this morning.

Getting older, and the context in which we find ourselves at a later time in life, are not similar to trying to conceive or waiting 9 months for a child to be born. Those are singular situations with more than a modicum of predictability to them, and I sort of resent the implication that maturity is comparitively self-limiting! That analogy justifies exactly why I think a dedicated forum is a good idea.
You cannot even imagine what it's like until you get there!

A a woman in her forties who has been engaged, gotten married, given birth to two children, I may have something of experience to contribute to LIW, BWW, Newlyweds, TTC, and Pregnancy. However, lets be honest, the further away you get from those events, the less relevant my opinions and experiences become to those currently going through them. Current brides don't want to hear my opinion about Save The Date cards or Destination Weddings. I certainly wouldn't be making any new friends were I to share!

But I do not find it helpful in the least, when asking advice about how to handle situations with my 16 year old daughter, when someone who is less than five years away from that age herself feels she can give seriously considered advice! And when I wish to ask other about these weird skin things that are showing up all over my arms and upper thighs, I really don't want to be putting that out there on Hangout. Do you want me airing my Granny Panty, menopausal, hot flashing, hair growing, boob sagging, crusty heel issues with the likes of Dancing Fire? I don't. Sometimes I just want serious responses.

Excuse me for not continuing my rant. I have to get my 18 year old disabled son to brush his teeth for the bus, then try to push his 195 pound frame out the door because he'd rather sit at home with me all day and watch Barney.

Put that in your Nicoderm patch!!

Oh dear, there is nothing more for me to say because you said it all. I raise my sagging upper arm with a , "Yes, me too."

 

[Scorpioanne]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

Yup, I could go for that. A place to talk about:
Bunions
David Cassidy/Essex
Dentures
News that The Bay City Rollers are going to regroup for a concert
Arthritis
Impotence
How to get your knees lifted like Demi did
What to do when you first encounter a strange pair of shoes on your front doormat next to those of your offspring (of the opposite gender)
The Weather Channel (you know when you're over the hill when you purchase cable in order to get the weather channel)
Bi-focals, oops sorry, Progressives.

Anyway, enough of my problems, what else can we discuss?

Sorry Uppy, didn't mean to be fippant, just couldn't help myself I think it's a great idea.

Actually Gailey, the Bay City Rollers will be paying the casino in my city in October... "S-A-T-U-R-D-A-Y Night" and I loved loved loved David Cassidy!

 

[Arkteia]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

I really, really, really didn't like the idea of a forum for older people! In fact I hated it! But I really enjoyed readling all of your postings! I related to all of them! The disabled child in the doorway wasn't the same disability as my disabled child, but heck! And like soocool, I spend most of my time in Hangout. So by the time gemgirl suggested we all show Ella our interest, I was ready to sign on!

PS-My best friend had been telling her grandson that "Pop-pop" was "old as dirt". Sam asked me how old I was and I told him I was the same age as his grandmother, but that soon I was going to be, "old as dirt", too. (She was going to turn 60 in August...and I will on my next birthday. He is 5 and and I could see him filing away the information.)

Deb/AGBF

Due to extremely bad family planning situation me and my DH, two old geezers, are now raising a 21 y.o. son and a 7 y.o. son.
And it happens more and more often now - suddenly a person who I or my youngest are talking to would look at me and say, "and you must be the grandma, right?" And when I explain the situation, he/she would start apologizing. I do not feel bad about people taking me for the grandma, but I feel bad that they are apologizing. OK, "grandma"... it doesn't faze me at all. I am slightly concerned that my son may end up feeling uncomfortable at having older parents... OK, he'll have to live with it.

But even on this forum I feel wedged in between people my own age and young moms sharing advices on raising their firstborns. Kind of weird. Should be discussing advantages of isotretinoic cream or treament of hair loss... and instead I am thinking of how to adjust our traveling plans to school vacations.

 

[MissMina]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

I may be the oldest poster here. I'll be 68 next month.
Originally I came for the bling. To learn about,
OLD Mine Cut and OLD European Cut diamonds
But I stayed because I enjoy having a window
on people at a wonderful point in their lives.
I don't have a daughter so I relish the opportunity
to perhaps help a young lady choose a gown or
a honeymoon spot.
It takes my mind off the less appealing aspects of
my own day to day life.

 

[MissMina]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

OH OH OH I just found something I'd like to discuss with the older posters.
The style thread
What do you wear that looks neither matronly nor silly?
I confess I'm still trying to find my way.
When I was younger I wore whatever I liked
Hip huggers half shirts Daisy Dukes
Obviously that ship has sunk

 

[Gayletmom]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

MissMina and anyone else who is interested, head on over to the Family & Home sub-forum in the PS Cafe. There is a hot thread of the over 40 crowd. Seven pages in two days!

 

[Upgradable]

Re: Is there need for another dedicated forum for older post

We're having fun!! But it's definitely NOT for the squeamish! We talk about bumps and lumps, leaks and creaks.

Bring your own beverage and your own pantyliner. We're not responsible for laundry costs if you pee yourself a bit laughing!!