Is it something in the air? And can we do something about that?

[Gypsy]

Lisa honey, ditto. It''s give and take. And you know how much I care about you. I promise to follow orders tonight. Duncan is even curled up with me to ensure compliance. All is quiet tonight and I am just happy with that. Really just content. Sweet dreams to you too. And a BIG HUG right back at you.

 

[marcy]

Wow, what an awful lot to deal with for all of you. Hugs to you. My thoughts are with you.

 

[VRBeauty]

Gypsy: I'm glad you were able to get your mother and grandfather into the same facility -- that will help a lot with logistics, not to mention wear and tear!

Please don't forget to take care of yourself through all of this! As I recall, it wasn't too long go that you were the one in the hospital gown. *

Hooray for John!

Fingers crossed for a successful interview!

(* I swear, there are times when I feel like I need a "wagging finger" smilie!

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[EricaR]

I knew about your mom but not anyone else. I am sooooo sorry you are dealing with all of this. Hugs!

 

[Octavia]

Gypsy, I''m keeping you and your family in my thoughts. I hope your mom and grandpa are recovering well (and quickly) and that your aunt gets good news from her doctors. What a lot to deal with. I''m glad that you''re taking care of yourself as well, and I hope things start looking up for everyone very soon.

 

[Haven]

You are all in my thoughts, Gypsy.
Big hugs and prayers coming from the Haven household.

 

[snlee]

So sorry to hear this Gyspy. I hope things continue to get better. Your family is in my thoughts.

 

[Gypsy]

Hi Everyone, Mom and grandpa are improving slowly but they are improving. Re-enforcements coming tomorrow. Today wasn't quite the day off we were expecting, but we did get a couple of hours of down time. With luck we'll get a few tomorrow as well.

Grandpa's just cold all the time and his biggest risk is pnemonia so we're taking him his down blanket tomorrow (they hospital gave their persmission) and he doesn't eat much, so we've got him on nutritional supplements to make sure he maintains his weight and strength.

Mom is in a lot of pain and they are having problems finding the balance between pain management and overmedication. She's also emotionally completely out of control and frankly abusive much of the time so she's difficult to deal with. On the one hand she's in pain, and she's had a difficult surgery, on the other she's a (diagnosed) narracist with strong entitlement and abusive tendancies so she's at best a truly demanding patient, at worst she's... just plain vicious to all her familial caretakers (nice to her nurses though extremely demanding, and lovely to her doctors), entitled, demanding and spoiled. I'm worried about my step father's health. But he caterers to her and enables her at the expense of his own health, and when I try to intervene my mother to ask my mother to tell him to go home and sleep at nights or to rest, or to eat... she gets very angry and accuses me of betraying her, kicking me out of her room and telling me that I'm interfereing with her marriage and that it is his duty to do what he does (which it isn't) and that she deserves all he does and more. So... I am worried that his already compromised health (he's not young, has health issues of his own, and hasn't slept more than 4 hours since Tuesday, and when he's stressed he doesn't eat). But am helpless to do anything more.

Plus the consenscious decision was to not tell her about her dad also being in the hospital (against my vote). So she really isn't restraining herself at all, and is wearing us all to the bone. Literally. If she's in pain, we're in pain. And if she's unhappy, she makes sure we pay for it. And frankly... though I've been through this before and know that once she recovers she'll be very apologetic and sweet and nice... I'm fed up. If her father at 93 can do through the same surgery, and be an angel to take care of, uncomplaining and generous, and concerned about us and our health and our comfort... and if she can be sweetness and roses to her nurses and doctors (it's like Cybil) as long as they are doing what she says (when they don't it gets very ugly) then she can restrain herself and be a minimally decent human being to her husband, brother, sister in law, daughter, etc. Oh, and she's an absolute PEACH to her friends when they come to visit (they all are amazed at how strong and wonderful and amazing she is in the way she deals with adversity).

Sorry, I'm fed up right now. It's been a bad day with mom, and since I've been dealing with her all my life, and dealing her sugeries and resulting abuse for months after each (and there have now been 6 major surgeries in the last 2.5 years) I'm litterally just... at the end of my rope with her.

Though we have requested that they be transfered to the same facility for re-hab, the rehab facility my mother needs to go to (not just for her physical health, they are best equipped to deal with her mental issues as well) is for acute rehab and is difficult to get into. My grandfather doesn't necessarily need that need that level (though it would be a blessing if he could get it because it would greatly shorten his recovery time and pain), so his insurance may not approve it. And even if they do, if the facility doesn't have room for the both of them... the priority will have to be given to my mother (because she is an absolute NIGHTMARE at any other facility in the area, and trust me, we know this from personal experience).

Anyway... things are good otherwise. Can't and won't complain. We'll get through this, and hopefully everyone will be healthy at the end of it.

((HUGS)) and thank you all for your prayers, support and caring. My LA aunt is driving back in the morning. We'll know more about her health next week. So we're (again my mom and my grandpa don't know about this) all hoping for the best there.

Sorry I needed to vent apparently. She's my mom and I love her. But I have be honest and admit that I hate at times as well. And as a child, it's very hard to feel that way for your parent and still do your duty and take care of them when they are in the hospital.

I love my grandpa.

 

[isaku5]

Oh my dear Layla! I just want to hold and comfort you; you''ve been through this with your mom too many times to count.

How''s John holding up as a caregiver??

I''m hoping that the re-inforcements are very helpful and not just an added strain.


(((((((((((HUGE BEAR HUGS))))))))))