luvshinyrocks
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Jul 13, 2010
- Messages
- 34
Hi Ladies,
So I got engaged a few months ago and am well into wedding planning at this point. This week I get a call from my younger brother saying that he just got engaged too! He can't even legally drink yet, and has been seeing this girl for about a year. I've never met her. While I'm happy that he's happy, I'm not exactly supportive of him getting married so young and to someone he has not been seeing that long. It's his life though, and not my place to say anything.
Here's the real problem. I was planning to invite my other brother's wife to be in my wedding party. I've known her since high school, was in their wedding, and consider her a good friend. We have a lot in common. However, if I invite her I feel that it would be rude not to invite younger brother's fiancee as well. Thing is, I REALLY don't want to. First of all, I don't even know her. More importantly, though, is the fact that she and my younger brother are very religious. My FI and I are NOT; we are having a humanist ceremony. The idea of having someone up there with us that obviously thinks we are going about our lives and our marriage all wrong really rankles me. I have nothing against religious people in general, but a lot of my family (and hers from the sound of it) are the types of religious people that can't let those who don't agree with them just live their lives, iykwim.
Do I have to either invite both SILs or neither?
So I got engaged a few months ago and am well into wedding planning at this point. This week I get a call from my younger brother saying that he just got engaged too! He can't even legally drink yet, and has been seeing this girl for about a year. I've never met her. While I'm happy that he's happy, I'm not exactly supportive of him getting married so young and to someone he has not been seeing that long. It's his life though, and not my place to say anything.
Here's the real problem. I was planning to invite my other brother's wife to be in my wedding party. I've known her since high school, was in their wedding, and consider her a good friend. We have a lot in common. However, if I invite her I feel that it would be rude not to invite younger brother's fiancee as well. Thing is, I REALLY don't want to. First of all, I don't even know her. More importantly, though, is the fact that she and my younger brother are very religious. My FI and I are NOT; we are having a humanist ceremony. The idea of having someone up there with us that obviously thinks we are going about our lives and our marriage all wrong really rankles me. I have nothing against religious people in general, but a lot of my family (and hers from the sound of it) are the types of religious people that can't let those who don't agree with them just live their lives, iykwim.
Do I have to either invite both SILs or neither?