Wedding Is a ponytail too informal?

[happilyeverafter]

I decided to change my hairstyle for my wedding day. I''ve chosen a ponytail (with loose curls, and a flower in my hair), but my mom said she thought that was too informal. My sisters said it was "nice" but they liked my original hairstyle choice better. I think they think that any bride should have a fancy updo. Anyone out there have a ponytail for their wedding (or planning to)? Were you happy with it? I also plan to add hair extentions to "thicken out" my ponytail and make it a wee bit longer. Here is an example of the pony i''m looking at, but with a bit looser curls and a flower at the base of the pony. Should I be choosing something more formal?

 

[robbie3982]

I think that hairstyle is really pretty! I don''t think a fancy updo is for everyone. I had my hair styled all down. My mom did her own hair for her wedding and it was just straight and down and it looked beautiful. It really just depends on how you''re comfortable.

 

[Sha]

That looks very nice to me! The waves make is very soft, and pretty, and romantic. I don''t see a problem at all. And with the flower it should look even nicer. What kind of wedding are you having? Is it a garden wedding?

 

[sera]

I think it''s very pretty and will be so lovely with a flower! It''s perfectly appropriate! It''s not like it''s an I''m-going-to-the-gym-ponytail ponytail.

 

[happilyeverafter]

Thanks ladies, i''m glad you think so. My wedding is very small (26 including us) and the ceremony is in a floral conservatory in the morning. Then it''s off to a private room in a local restaurant for a lunch reception and that''s it! But my dress is a bit more formal - but I still think I can pull off a romantic curly pony with this dress. What do you think? (ps that''s not me in the gown - i don''t have any pics of me in it yet)

 

[robbie3982]

I think it will look great with your dress and sounds perfect for your event!

 

[Sabine]

I think that hair looks gorgeous too, and I think it will flow beautifully with the dress. Just out of curiousity, how are you planning on fastening the pony tail?

 

[happilyeverafter]

You guys just made me feel so much better about my choice! My family were all "it's 'nice' but it's informal, but of course it's what YOU want", which is great but made me doubt myself.

Sabine, i'm going to fasten it with those bungee cords for hair. They're supposed to be really good for your hair and hold well. I"m actually using an extention piece to go overtop of my own ponytail to fill it out, and then wrapping a piece of hair around the base and sticking a flower in it, so you won't even be able to see the join. I saw a demonstration on hsn.com with the hairpiece i'm ordering...if you're interested here's the link. (just click on the video to watch) It's when the blonde model comes on (not the spokeswoman)

 

[Sabine]

Thanks! Every time I try to get my hair done up with loose curls, they try using boby pins, but my hair is too heavy and thick, so they usually end up using a regular pony tail holder and then pinning curls around it.

 

[whenharrymetsally]

I like the hairstyle! Very romantic!! I think it would totally suit your dress!

 

[diamondfan]

I think it looks elegant but not fussy. I agree updos are not for everyone. I also love really straight hair in a sleek ponytail, low on the nape of the neck. It looks like a very pretty look.

 

[ice_princess]

I think it''s just lovely. It''s very soft and elegant looking. I feel and updo is a personal choice and after all, YOU are the one who should be feeling comfortable on your big day so I say go for it!!!!
(and actually, technically speaking my hairdresser told me a ponytail IS an updo so you could always use that as an argument if people are being tetchy about it, not that you have to, it''s after all, YOUR day so it doesn''t matter what other people want....)

 

[Independent Gal]

Here's what I would do to help your family relax about it. That's a common style for fancy formal events like the Oscars and things. Why not find them a BUNCH of pictures of movie stars with their hair in similar styles who are wearing formal gowns. Or, look in the society pages and find pics of women at black-tie events with their hair down. It's not uncommon at all for formal events!

That might put their minds at ease. It's not a question of formality at all. It's a question of their perceptions of 'bride-ness.' But lots of people wear their hair down to formal events so it's A-OK.

ETA: if you're thinking extensions, make sure you talk to your hairdresser well in advance. I vaguely recall someone on here being dumbstruck to discover it was going to cost a king's ransom and take ages? But maybe I dreamed that!

 

[Harleigh]

Hi happily,

I think the picture you posted is LOVELY! I also think it is very elegant, appropriate for your dress, and if you like it, then GO FOR IT! I can''t wait to see you "Put all together!" with yout ponytail do!