Invite question

[chemgirl]

I wrote out a long post, but then decided that I didn't want to include all of the drama.

My question is, what do you do if there are family members who you would rather not invite to the wedding and who you know would decline an invitation? Do you send them one anyway? Do you call them to explain why you're not sending an invitation?

 

[megumic]

Invite who you want, but don't call and explain why you're not inviting someone. I don't think it's appropriate. I think it more appropriate to just not send the invitation.

 

[yssie]

I think it could get messy if you invite say one first cousin on your mum's side of the family but not another, or invite one cousin's kids and not another's...

I would try and just invite people by groups if possible, just to avoid that drama (I feel like drama caused by a wedding, especially, can last a long time and you just don't want to be dealing with that years from now)... if absolutely not possible then definitely don't call to explain.

 

[mrscushion]

Invite who you want, but don't call and explain why you're not inviting someone. I don't think it's appropriate. I think it more appropriate to just not send the invitation.

Agreed. If I *knew* for sure they would decline, then I'd probably send the invitation for the sake of being polite and inclusive, but my experience with my own invitations is that you can really be wrong on those things -- I had a few elderly relatives that we were positive weren't going to come, and as it turns out, they're quite gung-ho about attending.

 

[AustenNut]

Invite who you want, but don't call and explain why you're not inviting someone. I don't think it's appropriate. I think it more appropriate to just not send the invitation.

Agreed. If I *knew* for sure they would decline, then I'd probably send the invitation for the sake of being polite and inclusive, but my experience with my own invitations is that you can really be wrong on those things -- I had a few elderly relatives that we were positive weren't going to come, and as it turns out, they're quite gung-ho about attending.

Ditto this.