Hi, I’m 22 years old, and I’m a first year medical student. My BF is 27, and works in business. We met and started dating just over a year ago (December 2009). Actually, our relationship started off as a one-night-stand. But, we fell for each other very fast, and within a couple months, I had moved into his place. It was a stressful time, however, as I was in the process of applying to medical schools when we met, and I wasn’t sure where I was going to end up come September, or what exactly that meant for our relationship. I made it very clear to him from the beginning that I was not willing to do a LDR, and that if he wanted to be together, he would have to move with me. This was BF’s first serious relationship, and prior to us dating, he had always been somewhat of a commitment-phobe, so there was a lot for him to come to terms with very quickly. In addition, BF had a very well-paying job and had just bought a condo in our home city. He was also pretty close with his family, who live in our home city as well. Nevertheless, five months into our relationship, BF bought me a promise ring to signify that he would move with me wherever I would be accepted to medical school. That commitment was very, very special to me, and greatly eased my anxiety in the last few weeks before acceptance letters were mailed out.
(By the way, stats on the promise ring...this is PriceScope after all
BF gave me a diamond solitaire (GIA certified 0.47 ct/I/SI2/excellent cut) in a 14k white gold split-shank setting. Yes, I know people don’t usually wear half-carat diamond solitaires as promise rings, but it’s so freaking gorgeous I don’t even care.)
Five and a half months after we met, I found out that I was accepted to medical school, but that I would have to move to a nearby city (about a two-hour drive away) to attend. True to his promise, BF started looking for jobs in New City right away, and found an awesome job in his field within a couple months. The rest of the summer was pretty hectic, as he quit his old job, started training for his new one, and sold his condo. We (well, he) put in an offer on a house in New City, but the offer fell through. On short notice, we managed to find an apartment in New City and moved in together right before my school started in September.
In my mind, I had always thought we wouldn’t get married until maybe 8-10 years from now, when I was more settled in my career. This was for financial and logistical reasons, mainly to do with my career. I will graduate med school 3.5 years from now (summer 2014), at which point there is a big possibility we will need to move again for residency. I’m looking at 5+ years of residency, and the modest income I earn during that time will go toward paying off my student debts. Even though BF has a nice income, he is covering both of our expenses (apart from my tuition), so I didn’t see how a wedding (or I should say the kind of wedding I want) would be feasible until I started earning money. I should also mention that I had always been told to wait until I was 30 to get married, and also, I am in no rush whatsoever to make babies until I’m at LEAST 30. So, although I watched Say Yes to the Dress and fantasized about my e-ring, I had nothing approaching LIW-itis.
But over the Christmas holidays, BF and I started talking seriously about marriage and timelines. BF pointed out that since we never ended up buying a house like we had planned, we could just use the down payment he had saved up to pay for an e-ring and a wedding instead. It seemed crazy to me at first, but he explained that since we may be moving in 3 years again anyway, it made more sense to spend that money on a ring and wedding rather than to buy a house. Given how sensible my BF is with money, it was kind of a shocking suggestion coming from him. In addition to that 40k he had in the bank, he told me that he had been managing to save around $1000 per month, which we could also put toward a ring/wedding. So anyway, after some more thought, we decided we wanted to get married right around the time I will graduate med school, and we set a tentative date of May-June 2014. In our temporary excitement, we also went out and bought a few wedding magazines to get a rough idea of how much we should budget for our wedding. Somewhere between those Timeline Talks, the wedding magazines, and the realization that the bf had the means RIGHT NOW to buy me a very nice engagement ring, I got bit by the LIW-itis bug HARD CORE. Which is what brought me to this forum, reading the posts on here instead of reading my anatomy textbook.
WHAT HAVE I DONE?
(By the way, stats on the promise ring...this is PriceScope after all
BF gave me a diamond solitaire (GIA certified 0.47 ct/I/SI2/excellent cut) in a 14k white gold split-shank setting. Yes, I know people don’t usually wear half-carat diamond solitaires as promise rings, but it’s so freaking gorgeous I don’t even care.)Five and a half months after we met, I found out that I was accepted to medical school, but that I would have to move to a nearby city (about a two-hour drive away) to attend. True to his promise, BF started looking for jobs in New City right away, and found an awesome job in his field within a couple months. The rest of the summer was pretty hectic, as he quit his old job, started training for his new one, and sold his condo. We (well, he) put in an offer on a house in New City, but the offer fell through. On short notice, we managed to find an apartment in New City and moved in together right before my school started in September.
In my mind, I had always thought we wouldn’t get married until maybe 8-10 years from now, when I was more settled in my career. This was for financial and logistical reasons, mainly to do with my career. I will graduate med school 3.5 years from now (summer 2014), at which point there is a big possibility we will need to move again for residency. I’m looking at 5+ years of residency, and the modest income I earn during that time will go toward paying off my student debts. Even though BF has a nice income, he is covering both of our expenses (apart from my tuition), so I didn’t see how a wedding (or I should say the kind of wedding I want) would be feasible until I started earning money. I should also mention that I had always been told to wait until I was 30 to get married, and also, I am in no rush whatsoever to make babies until I’m at LEAST 30. So, although I watched Say Yes to the Dress and fantasized about my e-ring, I had nothing approaching LIW-itis.
But over the Christmas holidays, BF and I started talking seriously about marriage and timelines. BF pointed out that since we never ended up buying a house like we had planned, we could just use the down payment he had saved up to pay for an e-ring and a wedding instead. It seemed crazy to me at first, but he explained that since we may be moving in 3 years again anyway, it made more sense to spend that money on a ring and wedding rather than to buy a house. Given how sensible my BF is with money, it was kind of a shocking suggestion coming from him. In addition to that 40k he had in the bank, he told me that he had been managing to save around $1000 per month, which we could also put toward a ring/wedding. So anyway, after some more thought, we decided we wanted to get married right around the time I will graduate med school, and we set a tentative date of May-June 2014. In our temporary excitement, we also went out and bought a few wedding magazines to get a rough idea of how much we should budget for our wedding. Somewhere between those Timeline Talks, the wedding magazines, and the realization that the bf had the means RIGHT NOW to buy me a very nice engagement ring, I got bit by the LIW-itis bug HARD CORE. Which is what brought me to this forum, reading the posts on here instead of reading my anatomy textbook.
WHAT HAVE I DONE?
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