LitigatorChick
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Ladies, I was up last night thinking about all of this and your kind and helpful words. I so badly want DH to deal with them, as I would deal with my parents if they were doing anything to DH which he did not appreciate (whether I thought it was appropriate or not!).
I think I was largely blaming myself and running and hiding from the situation. Maybe I was starting to buy DH''s comment that I was too sensitive.
But now I am realizing that FIL is a huge bully that DH is so scared to deal with, that DH will sacrific his wife and son because of it. Pathetic, yes, but it is the reality. If you knew FIL, you may understand why.
I need to be the one to look after my son. I need to call it like it is. So rather than hiding, I will confront FIL, in a tactful but firm manner. It is apparent that my current course of action is not working. I needed to deal with this 12 years ago!!!
One little story. At our wedding, FIL moved the place cards on the four front tables so that it would be all of his family at the front. This meant moving my parents and immediate family to the next row. I didn''t know until in the middle of the reception, I noticed my parents were not sitting where they were supposed to be. I confronted FIL, and he said "gosh, I didn''t know that would be such a big deal. Oh well." And he gave me this little sideways smile. I have seen that ridiculous, almost crazy, smile on his face many times since. I wish I had dealt with him then.
I think I was largely blaming myself and running and hiding from the situation. Maybe I was starting to buy DH''s comment that I was too sensitive.
But now I am realizing that FIL is a huge bully that DH is so scared to deal with, that DH will sacrific his wife and son because of it. Pathetic, yes, but it is the reality. If you knew FIL, you may understand why.
I need to be the one to look after my son. I need to call it like it is. So rather than hiding, I will confront FIL, in a tactful but firm manner. It is apparent that my current course of action is not working. I needed to deal with this 12 years ago!!!
One little story. At our wedding, FIL moved the place cards on the four front tables so that it would be all of his family at the front. This meant moving my parents and immediate family to the next row. I didn''t know until in the middle of the reception, I noticed my parents were not sitting where they were supposed to be. I confronted FIL, and he said "gosh, I didn''t know that would be such a big deal. Oh well." And he gave me this little sideways smile. I have seen that ridiculous, almost crazy, smile on his face many times since. I wish I had dealt with him then.