Wedding I''m the most unprofessional bride in the world!

[Babyblue033]

That''s what my boss told me yesterday

My fiance and I are eloping in little more than a month. We''re not telling our families, only a few close friends and coworkers. I bought my dress off of ebay without trying on any in person. I bought funky pink shoes to wear with my dress. When my dress came in the mail I tried it on and let my fiance take a look at it

(I had to unfortunately return it and getting another next week). I bought surprise wedding gifts, a watch for him and a pendant for myself which he knows nothing about. The pendant came yesterday so I was trying it on at work and when my boss saw me wearing it she yelled "You''re the most unprofessional bride in the world!". I responded, "I didn''t realize you had to be a PROFESSIONAL bride!"

So I''m a LITTLE unconventional

What about you? What did you do that would totally shock everyone? What "wedding rules" did you break?

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Cute thread, haha! I am pretty conventional..but there''s bound to be a rule we broke somewhere..let me think. Well, for one..my Mom is my MOH so while that is done sometimes it''s not exactly conventional! At first my Grandma was like

"Why would you want to do that?" I was like well my Mom happens to be my best girl BFF so why would I ask anyone else?

Hehe.

 

[katamari]

I also am laughing about the thought of ''bride'' being something that you can be professional/unprofessional at.

We are certainly being unconventional, so I say kudos to that. One month engaged with no date set. That is the one that is freaking people out right now. But, there will probably be many more things once the planning actually starts.

 

[Shoopy]

Well, I''m not inviting my dad''s family so that''s going to shock people. I''ve also been engaged for 3 months now without any real concrete plans which apparently (also according to my boss) is unheard of

. I''m not having the ceremony in a church and I''m not having the reception at a banquet hall which is a huge *gasp* to my family. Nothing unconventional really...just going against what people around me are used to.

 

[Babyblue033]

That''s funny you guys mention about not having a date. The second we were engaged (mid June) all everyone can ask was "when is the big date?" which we had no answer to. The fact that not only we do not have a set date, but we had no idea even roughly when we would get married, did seem to shock people. Then around September we decided that we''ll get married in 3 months!

I guess THAT''s what makes me an unprofessional bride. LOL!

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 10/18/2008 4:53:50 PM
Author:Babyblue033
That''s what my boss told me yesterday

My fiance and I are eloping in little more than a month. We''re not telling our families, only a few close friends and coworkers. I bought my dress off of ebay without trying on any in person. I bought funky pink shoes to wear with my dress. When my dress came in the mail I tried it on and let my fiance take a look at it

(I had to unfortunately return it and getting another next week). I bought surprise wedding gifts, a watch for him and a pendant for myself which he knows nothing about. The pendant came yesterday so I was trying it on at work and when my boss saw me wearing it she yelled ''You''re the most unprofessional bride in the world!''. I responded, ''I didn''t realize you had to be a PROFESSIONAL bride!''

So I''m a LITTLE unconventional

What about you? What did you do that would totally shock everyone? What ''wedding rules'' did you break?

Well, I don''t think we broke any wedding rules -- our wedding ended up being much more traditional than we had originally planned. BUT, I didn''t want to wear a wedding dress at all. I couldn''t picture myself as a bride, if that makes any sense. That got the most raised eyebrows from people. We wanted a simple brunch reception and we toyed with the idea of not having dancing, but in the end, we were talked out of both of those ideas. We caved. Oh, and I did end up wearing a wedding dress, which I ended up loving.

We did choose not to have a wedding cake (we had a dessert buffet instead), we only had two people in our wedding party (my sister as my maid of honor, and my husband''s friend as our best man), and we didn''t do the garter or bouquet toss. My husband and I are the last of our friends to get married -- by a number of years, so some things just seemed silly and so not us.

 

[violet02]

Most people assumed I''d be the most untradtional bride ever which I thought as well. When I think back on it I was almost all traditional. I even did the bride/groom photos after the ceremony and kept the dress and all a secret.

But I didn''t have something borrowed. I had no idea what to do with that so I skipped it. No bouquet toss, no garter or toss. We had like 3 single girlfriends there. We stayed up until 4am with friends since we rented the house and were staying there for the week and partied all night basically so we didn''t ''exit''. I only have a few traditional type wedding photos I think, like I didn''t get a train shot or did I? Who knows! I just went with the flow and didn''t direct things much. Who needs all the hoopla though, just do what you like I say.

 

[WishfulThinking]

Haha, reading this thread is too funny. It''s amazing the things people think are "unconventional" or weird- I''d never even think of it!

I guess the fact that we''re even two women getting married to one another puts us solidly in the "unconventional" category.

Other than that we''re a mix between conventional and non. We''re eloping, but we''re both wearing princess-y white gowns and eventually want to have a pretty conventional with cool twists vow renewal ceremony and reception. [Violet''s wedding is totally the inspiration for that!

]

 

[MishB]

Oh geez, everything. I got married in a trouser suit, not a dress, did my own hair and makeup in about 30 minutes, we drove to the ceremony together, no one gave me away, no attendants. My bouquet was a bunch of roses bought from the supermarket with a ribbon tied around it, and my cake was off the shelf from the bakery. And I wouldn''t have had it any other way!

 

[tenfour]

Date: 10/18/2008 4:53:50 PM
Author:Babyblue033
That''s what my boss told me yesterday

My fiance and I are eloping in little more than a month. We''re not telling our families, only a few close friends and coworkers. I bought my dress off of ebay without trying on any in person. I bought funky pink shoes to wear with my dress. When my dress came in the mail I tried it on and let my fiance take a look at it

(I had to unfortunately return it and getting another next week). I bought surprise wedding gifts, a watch for him and a pendant for myself which he knows nothing about. The pendant came yesterday so I was trying it on at work and when my boss saw me wearing it she yelled ''You''re the most unprofessional bride in the world!''. I responded, ''I didn''t realize you had to be a PROFESSIONAL bride!''

So I''m a LITTLE unconventional

What about you? What did you do that would totally shock everyone? What ''wedding rules'' did you break?

we didn''t elope, but there were only 11 guests at the wedding. like yourself, i bought my dress online without ever trying it on. the minute it arrived in the mail i put it on in front of my (now) husband and asked him to take a few pictures. my shoes?? bright orange with a hot pink platform. i could go on and on.

it is amazing what people expect everybody to do. somebody was shocked that we didn''t have a ''fine china'' registry. i''ve never even heard of such a thing.

 

[Rhea]

Most of the rules were broken for us. DH went dress shopping with me and when I found the dress I hunted it on ebay. Flowers from the street vendor with 2 hours to go. And, um, I wore my dress (and him his suit) to our non-legal wedding before wearing them two weeks later to our legal wedding. He definately saw me in the whole 9 before the legal wedding. We had non-legal wedding photos back to decide what to change before we had the legal wedding. Good fun.

Nothing wrong with breaking a few "rules" here and there. Living on the edge, we are! I look foward to your photos after you elope!

 

[l0v3lif3]

I hope to break as many as possible. I don''t like the bridal industry all that much and take great pleasure in robbing them of money by not using 29536 gajillion vendors.

Only in planning stages, nothing booked
ceremony in public park, or little chapel
no booze
afternoon, maybe on an off-day
no fancy dinner-dance extraganza
creative vows
FI disagree about e-ring/band. I want a CZ and plain gold band. He doesn''t want it to be fake and wants me to wear a colored gem stone. MIL is obssessed with JTV, and has "invested" thousands of dollars on their stones!! So if I can find one I like that is cut well we can use it. Moslty seems poor quality and badly cut to me.

all my friends think I''m a guy. I don''t care about invitations. I wanted to just call everyone, and everyone thinks thats way too informal for a wedding
minimal flowers, just a bouquet
sheet cake (I know I know, how could I)
maybe no professional photog (we''ll see)
I don''t want to register, but FI does and my friends say it will annoy people b/c they won''t know our tastes. Would consider asking for "no gifts please."

 

[MrsG]

Such a fun thread!

I think you''ll need a little background, before I start. My now husband proposed in February, there was no date set or any planning done until June. We settled on October 10th, 09 for our wedding. The most planing that was done, was looking at 2 venues. We then scratched the wedding idea and decided to elope. We told our families, and they expressed that they would want to be there. So elopement turned into a little wedding. It will forever be known as our little BIG day. There was 9 of us total. The planning began about 3 weeks prior to. I did all the booking online and we didn''t see our venue until the day we got there, which was one day before. We got married on a Thursday. The dress came from Nordstrom, our children were our attendants (but didn''t stand next to us during the ceremony), I did my own make up, made my hair appointment the morning of and had my hair done that afternoon with no trial. We met with our JP and decided on ceremony the night before. I didn''t have anything borrowed or blue. There was no dancing, favors, programs or invitations. We had our favorite picture put on our announcements, which recently went out to all of our friends and family that weren''t there.

There were some rules that we didn''t break. I kept my dress a secret, my husband didn''t see me before the ceremony, my dad gave me away, we had professional pictures taken before (preparation), during and after.

Looking back, our day was pretty perfect. Low key and for the most part stress free.

 

[luvthemstrawberries]

Haha, what an excellent thread - I love reading all the different things people have done!! And I love the idea of being unconventional and "robbing" the bridal industry of trying to take all my money - it''s crazy how prices skyrocket just because it''s a wedding - kind of scares me! We''re very traditional people (with our beliefs and values) but very unconventional and unorthodox with our actions and going against the grain.

We''re still in the planning stages. But like so many who have already posted on here,
- we have no date (been engaged almost a month, told no one besides our parents to avoid all the "when" questions till we decide)
- there will be no boquet/garter toss
- no alcohol
- we''re either having no attendants at all or just my Mom as MOH and my brother as an usher
- not doing the "borrowed and blue" deal because it''s all just about "luck"
- doing pictures together before ceremony to have some private time and save time later
- might do a basic cake instead of elaborate (i.e. EXPENSIVE) "wedding" cake
- haha definitely no "fine china" - I have nowhere to display it and I''d never use it anyway!
- probably just doing a honeymoon registry, but half my family''s not even going to know what to do with that, so we''ll probably end up with 20 more towels...

I do want a pro photographer, because I don''t know anyone good at taking pictures, and I really love good photography as a memory. But I just like that we''re both all about just doing what we want and is right for us instead of "just because it''s always been done that way"... a lot of my family''s all about proper "etiquette" which is probably going to get me lots of strange looks...

 

[muffindowd]

Such a cute thread!!

Well I am obsessed with cupcakes and muffins

so we had red velvet cupcakes instead of a wedding cake. We had a small, beautiful cake to cut and put the cupcakes on a huge tiered stand. It looked great and it was super fun!!

And I wore sexy red shoes and nude fishnets