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Jenn5504

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Well, I didn''t know who better to reach out to for moral support than my fellow PS''ers. In just over a 24 hour period one of my diamond studs AND my engagement ring went missing
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............we know who the culprit is.......our precious 2 year old son.
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I know, you''d think "surely it''ll turn up". Well, after more tears shed than I like to admit, and after an EXHAUSTIVE search by myself and my husband we have still not found it. I''ve gone through MOUNDS of trash, taken apart all of the sink traps, you name it. The earrings were upsetting enough, but then to have my 1.82 ct. RB WF classic tiffany knife edge go missing a day later was almost more than I''m able to handle. I''m TRYING with all my might to remind myself that it''s just material possessions, that I have my health and family and I know that is most important. But I''m telling y''all, I am GREIVING over this ring especially. He managed to run off with my 2mm platinum band, too, but that''s a drop in the bucket compared to the solitaire. It''s just so baffling that he has done SOMETHING with a half carat princess stud, a band AND the solitaire and we can NOT figure out what??????? We are 99.99999999% sure he didn''t ingest these items. If for a second we thought that was even likely I''d of coarse be more concerned with HIS health than sitting here whining about missing my diamonds.......but the ring is substantial and he''s past the "put it in your mouth" age. He has given me puppy dog eyes every time I ask what he did with them and he just holds out his hand as if to show me "I HAD them, but I don''t know where they went". I''ll try to end this on a "bright side" comment. I did locate my eternity band in the sink..........so I do have that ring left. I am literally PRAYING that we''ll find the engagement ring at least.............in the mean time, I''m trying to let go of these prized possessions and move on. There is no way we can shell out $8-10k right now to replace these items. My original e-ring was already replaced by insurance when the diamond broke, so I can''t imagine my insurance company is going to cover this. I''m leaving town today to go to a weekend-long birthday celebration for my very best friend. I HAVE to suck it up and put on a good face for this, average (normal...) people would NOT understand why I am in this emotional state when I say "it''s over diamonds"........Ok, just throw me a bone and a little pat on the back and I''ll get out of y''alls hair for awhile, I can hardly bare to look at all of this beautiful bling at the present time.
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Oh no! I am so sorry!
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You said you had insurance - does it cover disappearances? Regardless of whether they already replaced your diamond, if you''re covered, they should replace it.

I know that doesn''t really help, and I can''t even imagine how distraught you must be. ((HUGS))
 
Jenn,

OH MY GOD!! I can COMPLETELY see where you are coming from! I would be beyond myself.
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I don''t know how I would leave the house. I''ll keep my fingers triple crossed that you guys find it. Best of luck to you!
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Jenn, keep looking, there is a very good chance they will turn up. I am so sorry, I can only imagine how you are feeling, but keep looking and try all the places you wouldn't think the stuff would be - no matter how obscure, check it out!
 
I could be mistaken, but it''s not like your insurance policy ends when you have 1 claim. As long as your policy is current and still in effect, I would imagine that you should be covered. Now, your rates might go up as you''re probably no longer a "low risk" client, but I would think you should still be able to claim it. That''s what it''s for....
 
My money is on him putting them in the toilet and flushing. It''s just something kids do a lot. They love to throw stuff in there. Sink+toilet=lost jewelry? Maybe.

Also, I wouldn''t be sure he didn''t ingest them. They would pass through pretty uneventfully in most cases. If it were me, I''d start going through the poo (sorry about that) just to be 100% sure.

So sorry for the stress
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Thanks for the support everyone. My insurance agent had already told me that the stud is covered before the ring went missing.........my husband and I feel like they will really raise an eyebrow when we inform them that the RING they just replaced last year is GONE right after the stud! Oh.........I don''t know.........I guess there''s always hope of finding it and maybe even of it being covered if I don''t find it.
 
could he have flushed them?

my cousin at two buried some of my aunt''s jewelry in the yard...

just keep gently asking him to show you where he put them...

I am sorry, are you insured?
 
Date: 8/15/2008 11:41:00 AM
Author: Jenn5504
Thanks for the support everyone. My insurance agent had already told me that the stud is covered before the ring went missing.........my husband and I feel like they will really raise an eyebrow when we inform them that the RING they just replaced last year is GONE right after the stud! Oh.........I don''t know.........I guess there''s always hope of finding it and maybe even of it being covered if I don''t find it.
Tell them the truth - that your 2 year old has developed an unhealthy interest in your jewelry.

Keep looking- it may still turn up!
 
Date: 8/15/2008 11:39:37 AM
Author: purrfectpear
My money is on him putting them in the toilet and flushing. It''s just something kids do a lot. They love to throw stuff in there. Sink+toilet=lost jewelry? Maybe.

Also, I wouldn''t be sure he didn''t ingest them. They would pass through pretty uneventfully in most cases. If it were me, I''d start going through the poo (sorry about that) just to be 100% sure.

So sorry for the stress
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The toilet/sink/trash is our biggest fear, cause that means no way are we going to find it. He''s a wild man and is into EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME. All of our friends and family are flat out AMAZED at what a little turkey he is-------thank goodness he''s adorable and hilarious to be able to get away with his behavior sometimes.
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He throws things away a lot, and we have just started potty training so I guess he could have flushed them, I''ve just never caught him flushing anything and I''m never very far away from him! Who knows......Oh, don''t worry, I''m checking "IT"............................................ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh, what we''ll do for diamonds.............
 
Date: 8/15/2008 11:43:26 AM
Author: geckodani

Date: 8/15/2008 11:41:00 AM
Author: Jenn5504
Thanks for the support everyone. My insurance agent had already told me that the stud is covered before the ring went missing.........my husband and I feel like they will really raise an eyebrow when we inform them that the RING they just replaced last year is GONE right after the stud! Oh.........I don''t know.........I guess there''s always hope of finding it and maybe even of it being covered if I don''t find it.
Tell them the truth - that your 2 year old has developed an unhealthy interest in your jewelry.

Keep looking- it may still turn up!
Oh, I told her that about the stud. She''s an old family friend on my husband''s side so she is always interested in how the kids are doing and everything. I told her I think he is the culprit and she just lauged. But that was over $2k earrings.........not a $10k ring that they just bought me a year ago.
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Oh Jen, I'm so sorry!

Ok, I know you've looked, but look some more. In very odd places, to you, but not to a child. (they really don't know a place is "odd" to put something) If you haven't already, look on book shelves, in cabinets (and inside pots and pans), in the VCR if (you have one) under cushions, in drawers, ALL through his room, in shoes, in potted plants, in windowsills, basically anywhere that he can reach.

Does he use the potty yet? or toilet, by himself? ETA typing before I read this

Don't give up yet! {{{hugs}}}
 
oh my goodness - this is SO SAD Jenn. Ugh. I can''t imagine. I send good wishes your way in hopes that you find your ring.
 
oh, no!! i''m so sorry to hear that your ring is missing! i know you want to tell yourself that it''s just a material possession, but engagement rings are also so much more than that! i really hope it turns up!! **all my positive finding-things energy to you!!!**
 
Date: 8/15/2008 11:46:16 AM
Author: Jenn5504

Date: 8/15/2008 11:43:26 AM
Author: geckodani


Date: 8/15/2008 11:41:00 AM
Author: Jenn5504
Thanks for the support everyone. My insurance agent had already told me that the stud is covered before the ring went missing.........my husband and I feel like they will really raise an eyebrow when we inform them that the RING they just replaced last year is GONE right after the stud! Oh.........I don''t know.........I guess there''s always hope of finding it and maybe even of it being covered if I don''t find it.
Tell them the truth - that your 2 year old has developed an unhealthy interest in your jewelry.

Keep looking- it may still turn up!
Oh, I told her that about the stud. She''s an old family friend on my husband''s side so she is always interested in how the kids are doing and everything. I told her I think he is the culprit and she just lauged. But that was over $2k earrings.........not a $10k ring that they just bought me a year ago.
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It shouldn''t matter - family friend or not, you pay them premiums so when things like this happen you are covered. ((HUGS))
 
Oh I am SO SORRY. I would be crying, too. It's surprising how overwhelming the emotions are when you lose a special thing like this. ***HUGS***

Can you give your tot a fake diamond ring and follow him to see what he does with it? Just recreate the scenario. Maybe he has a favorite hiding place or dumping place for it??? Or he will naturally go to the same place subconsciously? Just make sure he doesn't swallow it!

Did you check your shoes? Tots like to hide things in shoes, doggie bed, in cushions... crawl around to their level and maybe you'll see some hiding spots?

Or rent / buy a metal detector (one for the beach) and walk around the house with it hoping it'll beep??? It'll be a fast way to "sweep" the home/couch/floor areas for missing sparklies.

I'm sorry you have to go on a getaway during this time! Try not to miss your sparklies so much...most of the time they are found in the most random places! Get hubby to "sweep" the house with the metal detector gizmo! I hope you get a "HONEY I FOUND IT" phone call!
 
Oh dear, what a little rascal.
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There really is a reason mother nature makes toddlers and babies so darn CUTE! I am sorry to hear about this, but I think the metal detector would be a really good start and also check pots and pans since sometimes two year olds like to hide things in things that have lids. I hope you find them. Fairy dust for you!
 
Could be MUCH, MUCH WORSE

Imagine a claim for $10,500, a replacement for $18,000 and a second claim less than 2 months later
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The only way I would have given her a third ring was if it was surgically implanted to the bone
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Oh Jeeze, I would be sick over it too! Wiley little guy! I hope they turn up in some favorite toy or in the breadbox or something. How sad.

Good luck!
 
Date: 8/15/2008 12:11:27 PM
Author: purrfectpear
Could be MUCH, MUCH WORSE


Imagine a claim for $10,500, a replacement for $18,000 and a second claim less than 2 months later
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The only way I would have given her a third ring was if it was surgically implanted to the bone
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PP, I don''t think it''s in the spirit of PS to use another members''s misfortune to make Jen feel better...both situations suck regardless, but no need to make the other poster feel badly if they see this!
 
Hey Jenn!
This also happened to my Best friend....Somehow, her son put her ring in her husband''s shoe under the sole. Just a thought....bc it WILL turn up somewhere you least expect it to be. Good Luck!!
 
Sorry, my point was that insurance companies have been confronted with multiple claims and the outcome was still a good one for the claimant.

I was not attempting to make the other poster feel badly. I wanted to allay OP''s concerns that her insurance company would freak out.
 
Hi Jenn: Good luck with the hunt. Thought you might like an inspirational story. My BF''s brother accidentally flushed his mom''s wedding set down the toilet (but as a teen). She wrote the ring off as lost forever and just got a new band to wear. Then, 2 YEARS LATER, her dad went to use the bathroom, saw something shiny, reached in, and pulled out her mom''s e-ring. They then called a plumber to come out and look for the band and he didn''t find it, but said it could be in their pipes and could resurface as water comes in and out. So, you might want to call a plumber (before it has time to flush into the septic system) or make sure to always look before you go from now on!

Good luck!
 
Date: 8/15/2008 12:35:59 PM
Author: purrfectpear
Sorry, my point was that insurance companies have been confronted with multiple claims and the outcome was still a good one for the claimant.

I was not attempting to make the other poster feel badly. I wanted to allay OP''s concerns that her insurance company would freak out.
I appreciate and completely understood why you were sharing this story with me, purrrfectpear. I hope that nobody is offended, I certainly wasn''t. I see that the other poster did get the 2nd ring replaced which was very reassurring to me and I''m SOOOOOOOOO happy for him and his wife!
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It''s a deep down gut wrenching sick feeling...........my sweet husband is absolutely in knots about this, too. He''s actually going by our agent''s office in person shortly to see what, if anything, can be done. He did say THE sweetest thing to me last night.......he JUST bought a new motorcycle a couple of weeks ago and while I was just completly hysterical still last night he told me "honey, I''ll sell my bike to get you a new ring if I have to". It really made me smile inside and continues to----that that I''m going to let him do that, NO WAY, but that he was completely serious and so hurting to see me so upset. Makes me realize that the marriage is so much more important than the ring.
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Has he just turned 2 or is he closer to 3? Have you tried bribing? Showing him a Tootsie Pop or something and saying, "See this? If you find Mommy''s ring, you can have it." He might have a place where he is "stashing" little things.
 
Date: 8/15/2008 2:10:21 PM
Author: NeverEndingUpgrade
Has he just turned 2 or is he closer to 3? Have you tried bribing? Showing him a Tootsie Pop or something and saying, ''See this? If you find Mommy''s ring, you can have it.'' He might have a place where he is ''stashing'' little things.
"Psssst, hey kid. Show me mom''s stash and I''ll split the swag wit'' ya"
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Date: 8/15/2008 11:21:03 AM
Author:Jenn5504
... I did locate my eternity band in the sink.......

Well, this excerpt is telling you one specific, actual place where he has placed highly similar items.

If it were me, I''d 100% disassemble and check the catch/trap (that''s the curvy S-shaped portion) of the pipes for each of your sinks, but especially the one in which you found the eternity band. DO NOT USE THIS SINK ANYMORE UNTIL YOU''VE DONE IT. (You won''t need a plumber, a simple handyman can do it.)

One last thing: it might be time to keep your expensive jewelry in a locking safe or, at a minimum, a high shelf. Best wishes with the search.
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Jenn, that is so sweet what your hubby said! Aw! See, the sparklies are symbols of your marriage to a good man and being a mommy to your son. Just remember that in the interim between now and when you either find your sparklies or get them replaced by your insurance company. But I totally feel your pain and am in fact impressed by how you haven''t gone comatose or hysterical.

Normally I wouldn''t tell you to bribe your child but in this instance I think NeverEndingUpgrade''s idea isn''t a bad one.

I also like the idea of giving him a fake ring and seeing what he does with it. Quick, go send hubby for a cheapo CZ ring!

The metal detector is another good idea.

You mentioned finding your eternity band in the sink . . . did it fall off your finger or just magically wind up in there? If it''s the magical part, then that might be DS''s spot.

Have you tried crawling around from room to room? His perspective is so much lower so he might see hiding spaces you haven''t thought of.

My niece walked off with my husband''s wedding ring last time we were all together. She had put it in a box of blocks. My sister didn''t notice but I have a sixth sense about these things as we PSers do and luckily, being three, she was old enough to lead us to the loot.
 
I love the idea of giving him a CZ ring to "hide" and see where he puts it. I would be a wreck if this happened to me. Yeah, its just a material thing but its so much sentimental value. Here''s some good wishes sent your way for a happy resolution!
 
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This happened to me, with my 3 year old daughter and her friend. I sympathize, it is a terrible feeling. I did end up getting the ring back. For your own well being I suggest keep looking, but start the process of filing insurance. If you find your jewelry it is a win win situation and you simply give back the money, and if you don''t at least you are not in limbo about it.

After this happened I bought a large locking jewelry box and make a habit of storing my jewelry in there. It is worth every penny. When my husband has his days of having the neighborhood kids over, even though it is our of the way in the bathroom of our bedroom bathroom, I go ahead and lock it for extra measure.
 
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