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I'm normally not one to post anything about health issues or super personal issues on PS. But, I can't sleep, I can't seem to read, I can't seem to get myself off the computer either...
FI, who as long as I've known him (over a year, ok not long) has never had a medical issue. Last week, he started to complain about some terrible pain in his lower back, and it got worse over the next few days. About the third day, he started describing symptoms that I felt jived with things I had heard about kidney stones. That was last Thursday. We were hosting a party on Saturday evening, to which my parents and siblings and niece were invited. He refused to let me cancel the get together although I begged him several times to let me call people and reschedule. He was in agony all this time.
FFwrd to Monday, he finally sees a doctor, who orders a CT scan. CT scan reveals a mass that is too large to pass. He is referred to a urologist. He sees the urologist this morning and is told he is to have surgery (surgery!) tomorrow at noon. He tells me tonight that after he got out of there he went and sat in his car and bawled like a baby (his words.) He's 37. Neither of us have ever had children. I feel so bad for him and I feel like a baby myself for worrying so much.
the procedure will go like this: he will be put under completely. The surgeon will use a scope to insert a stent in his urethra/ureter? (not sure), and then there will be another procedure that involves blasting the "mass" until it breaks up so it's passable. Does that sound right???
There hasn't been enough time for a second opinion...my own family assures me that he is with the right urology group here in town because 4 of them have dealt with this group numerous times.
I'm just worried. Any kind words would be greatly appreciated. I know we'll get through this. Thanks.
FI, who as long as I've known him (over a year, ok not long) has never had a medical issue. Last week, he started to complain about some terrible pain in his lower back, and it got worse over the next few days. About the third day, he started describing symptoms that I felt jived with things I had heard about kidney stones. That was last Thursday. We were hosting a party on Saturday evening, to which my parents and siblings and niece were invited. He refused to let me cancel the get together although I begged him several times to let me call people and reschedule. He was in agony all this time.
FFwrd to Monday, he finally sees a doctor, who orders a CT scan. CT scan reveals a mass that is too large to pass. He is referred to a urologist. He sees the urologist this morning and is told he is to have surgery (surgery!) tomorrow at noon. He tells me tonight that after he got out of there he went and sat in his car and bawled like a baby (his words.) He's 37. Neither of us have ever had children. I feel so bad for him and I feel like a baby myself for worrying so much.
the procedure will go like this: he will be put under completely. The surgeon will use a scope to insert a stent in his urethra/ureter? (not sure), and then there will be another procedure that involves blasting the "mass" until it breaks up so it's passable. Does that sound right???
There hasn't been enough time for a second opinion...my own family assures me that he is with the right urology group here in town because 4 of them have dealt with this group numerous times.
I'm just worried. Any kind words would be greatly appreciated. I know we'll get through this. Thanks.
It is far worse being the caregiver than the patient I think.
Until then I will try to be loving although I will internally be rolling my eyes. My very favorite moment so far was actually last night, when he came home from the doctor and rested for a bit, then HAD to head out to a political function for an hour. As he was leaving, he made sure to remind me NOT to forget to make him some Jell-O. I was like, SERIOUSLY???--you can drag yourself to a public gathering, but you cannot boil a cup of water and stir for two minutes? Really??? But Jell-O, I did make, thankyouverymuch. 
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