diamondfan
Super_Ideal_Rock
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Yes. My hubby and I have different styles in how we do things. Most times it is fine, but sometimes we butt heads. When she is around things just suck generally as she sets my teeth on edge and does the same to my husband, but he feels conflicted and guilty about those feelings.
I am not saying I would not have married him based on his parents, but I would have made sure things were spelled out in terms of boundaries and acceptable behaviors. At 24 it was tougher for me to assert myself and they were boundary pushers/takers/manipulators which bugs me no end. Now I set the rules forth, but on certain things old habits are ingrained and makes it tough. I hold my ground and get some support from hubby, but things that bother me are more second nature to him and so he is more willing to let certain things slide, where I am less inclined to roll over.
I am not saying I would not have married him based on his parents, but I would have made sure things were spelled out in terms of boundaries and acceptable behaviors. At 24 it was tougher for me to assert myself and they were boundary pushers/takers/manipulators which bugs me no end. Now I set the rules forth, but on certain things old habits are ingrained and makes it tough. I hold my ground and get some support from hubby, but things that bother me are more second nature to him and so he is more willing to let certain things slide, where I am less inclined to roll over.