Wedding If anyone is having cold feet ...

[purrfectpear]

OMG, you ladies didn''t go there

Hmmm, well in that case I prescribe xanax in large quantities

 

[Harriet]

Date: 6/30/2008 11:39:50 PM
Author: Linda W
Harriet, you will be fine. Everyone goes through this. I did too. Rick and I have been happily married for almost 27 and a half years.

Pinky swear?

 

[Harriet]

Date: 6/30/2008 11:42:42 PM
Author: purrfectpear
OMG, you ladies didn''t go there

Hmmm, well in that case I prescribe xanax in large quantities

Where?

 

[Linda W]

Yes, pinky swear!!!!!!

 

[Harriet]

Ok.

 

[Linda W]

D Day?? ha ha ha ha. Now tell him to stop that!!!!!

 

[Harriet]

It''s not him. It''s Chrono who refers to my wedding date as "D-Day."

 

[Kaleigh]

You''ll be fine Harriet. You have been living together for some time now right? It''s normal to get nervous, but thinking you have a great guy.

 

[Harriet]

Thanks, Lisa. If we've made it this far (his career trajectory, law school and practice, my medical problems, ILs), we can do it, right?

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 7/1/2008 1:14:28 AM
Author: Harriet
Thanks, Lisa. If we''ve made it this far (his career trajectory, law school and practice, my medical problems, ILs), we can do it, right?

YUP!!! Those are tough times to get through, and you''ve made it through all of that. This will be easy. Enjoy what lies ahead....

 

[Harriet]

 

[scarlet16]

Harriet-
From the way you talk about your FI and knowing how long you two have been together (and all that you''ve been through), I have no doubt this feeling will pass. It''s all the stress and build up that''s awful. In our first 7 years together, we had 1 disagreement...and in the past 3 months we''ve had more than I''d like to admit it. My FI and I keep saying we''re so excited for the day after the wedding because then we can finally get back to normal.

 

[Ellen]

As has been said, it''s normal Harriet. For you --->

 

[Harriet]

Date: 7/1/2008 8:10:36 AM
Author: scarlet16
Harriet-
From the way you talk about your FI and knowing how long you two have been together (and all that you''ve been through), I have no doubt this feeling will pass. It''s all the stress and build up that''s awful. In our first 7 years together, we had 1 disagreement...and in the past 3 months we''ve had more than I''d like to admit it. My FI and I keep saying we''re so excited for the day after the wedding because then we can finally get back to normal.

1 disagreement in 7 years? Wow!
Thanks. Looking forward to our next lunch.

 

[Harriet]

Date: 7/1/2008 8:50:23 AM
Author: Ellen
As has been said, it''s normal Harriet. For you --->

Aw.

 

[gwendolyn]

I''m not married yet so I have no advice or reassurances about cold feet before weddings (although I did get cold feet just before committing to live in London next year to stay with J--does that count?

).



Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I''m thinking of you and sending warm, toasty vibes your way.

 

[Harriet]

Date: 7/1/2008 12:11:35 PM
Author: gwendolyn
I''m not married yet so I have no advice or reassurances about cold feet before weddings (although I did get cold feet just before committing to live in London next year to stay with J--does that count?

).



Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that I''m thinking of you and sending warm, toasty vibes your way.

Yes, it does.
Thank you!

 

[Linda W]

Chrono is toooooooooo funny. You will be fine Harriet. FI and you have been together a long time and have grown together. As you said. You are meant to be together.

He has stood by you through your health problems, it just brings you closer together.

You know, when I had ovarian cancer, the whole ordeal brought Rick and I closer together more then ever.

Don''t you worry sweetie, you will be just fine. You will have a happy life together.

Love, Linda P.S. Just concentrate on your gorgeous gems. tee hee

 

[Harriet]

I''m sorry about your ordeal. I hope it''s over.

You always such a comfort!

 

[Linda W]

Harriet, Yes it is over thank goodness. I have been in remission now, since 1993

And you my friend, are a sweetheart.

 

[Harriet]

 

[NewEnglandLady]

I had a panic attack about getting married the morning of the wedding and DH had to calm me down, which was particularly embarrassing. The rest of the morning was great, though, and when I saw him again at the end of the aisle I was seriously overcome with emotion. Emotionally, getting married sort of puts you through the ringer! Moreso than I ever thought.

 

[Harriet]

Thanks for sharing, NEL.

I just had a helpful talk with the unflappable Eva. El also sent me a great message. And, Green kicked me in the bum. You ladies rock!

 

[scarlet16]

Hey there-
Did you get my email?

 

[Harriet]

Yup. I''ve replied.

 

[diamondfan]

Harriet, hoping you are past the moment of worry, but wanted to say it is normal and usually totally not an issue. I am sure your relationship is strong and you two are going to be fine, you have been together a long while now. Nothing is for sure, there are no guarantees, but I am sure after all the planning etc you are just just having a moment as they say. Only you know the relationship, but many people have cold feet and get married and have wonderful lives. Cannot wait to hear ALL about it!

 

[Clio]

Harriet, here''s a little story for you -

My grandfather had to propose 3 times before my grandmother finally said yes. At the wedding, the organist played through the processional twice before her uncle, who was giving her away, said "Anne, you''re going to do this" and marched her into the church.

In the end though, they were happily married and devoted to each other for 53 years.

Having cold feet is normal, and it doesn''t mean you are any less in love or committed. Getting married is a big step, and it''s wise to consider it carefully. Everything that I''ve seen you write about your fiance, though, indicates that you have a strong relationship built on love and sincere respect for each other. The cold feet will pass, and I''m sure you''ll both be very happy together.

 

[Harriet]

Diamondfan,
Thank you. I will keep you posted.

Clio,
Thank you for sharing that wonderful story.

PS. Were any of you sensible ladies of PS irked by silly little things your then-fiances did before your weddings?

 

[diamondfan]

I still get irked 18 plus years later!!!

 

[Harriet]

Even when the MIL isn''t around?!