cbs102
Brilliant_Rock
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my fiance has been divorced for 2 years - seperated for 3. They got divorced because his ex (BM for birthmother) was cheating on him with a man old enough to be her father. i have been living with my fiance for a year now and i have witnessed some things that are really beginning to worry me, so i need your advice.
back in march i noticed that SD4 (step daughter 4 yrs old ) was developing this really deep cough. now i have asthma so i was really worried and told fi that he should mention something to the BM and get her to the doctor right away. he did- she said she would..but never did. we got her the following wednesday and the cough was worse. again, fi mentioned to the mother that SD4 was really sick and she needed to go... she said "i know... "
but again, never took her to the doctor. that weekend SD4 developed a 101 temp and we immediately took her to the doc (thank goodness for saturday hours) turns out she had pneumonia!!! i was livid! the poor thing was so sick i felt like crying! i ended up calling off of work (i had just started) because she would not take off to stay at home..even though she has unlimited sick days. 2 months later the very same thing happened... she got pneumonia AGAIN and again we were the ones that took her to the doctor. SD4 even mentioned to her daddy that her mommy never takes her to the doctor... poor thing!
the end of november SD4 showed up for our weekend in a spring coat. we live in PA and there was a small blizzard outside. she has also been showing up dirty and smelling like she has not taken baths in a week.
2 weeks ago BM''s brother showed up at our house to talk to fiance. he said that the family is concerned because every single weekend that we don''t have SD4 BM is in maryland at swingers parties. WHAT!!!!??? where is SD4 when this is going on!? now, i have lived here for a year...and she has had 5 boyfriends-3 of them were going to move in. SD4 crawled under the covers one morning a few weeks ago and told me that she is sad because her mommy never plays with her and that she is always out with her work friends.. i could have cried. Fi called BM and confronted her, but all he got was excuses and lies.
so this past weekend SD4 was with her mother and fiance and i went out to a bar to see a band with some friends. in walks BM wearing a backless shirt- she was making out with women and men in the middle of the bar, groping men and women and flashing her chest. i was horrified! my biggest fear is that she is bringing home these random people and something could happen to SD4...
what do you think>??? is this all considered a form of neglect? can and should i make a tip to child services???? we could take her to court if we knew we could win.